Friday, May 24, 2019

When You Have a Broken Heart






Love Never Fails

~Brandon Heath









"Love after all Matters the most."


Love's Mourning Ministry













Love Never Fails

~Brandon Heath




Love is not proud
Love does not boast
Love after all
Matters the most

Love does not run
Love does not hide
Love does not keep
Locked inside

Love is the river that flows through
Love never fails you

Love will sustain
Love will provide
Love will not cease
At the end of time

Love will protect
Love always hopes
And Love still believes
When you don't

Love is the arms that are holding you
Love never fails you

When my heart won't make a sound
When I can't turn back around
When the sky is falling down
Nothing is greater than this
Greater than this

'Cause Love is right here
Love is alive
Love is the way,
The truth, the life

Love is the river than flows through
Love is the arms that are holding you
And Love is the place you will fly to
Love never fails you









Tuesday, May 21, 2019

After Mother's Day... “Losing My Mind, or Minding My Loss?”












       “Losing My Mind, or Minding My Loss?”






One of my sons sat before me a few days ago (only days after Mother's Day), questioning, in essence, if I am losing my mind…??? 


I sat there, amazed at his impudence, but also amazed at my somber, sober reaction. Internally, I immediately felt, “Of course not!” (After all, I am a therapist who hears people’s hurts, and by necessity, I must be able to remember those vivid details of a person’s life who has risked sharing his or her very deep-seated horrors.) So I wasn’t much moved by his audacious question. I immediately said that if I had not remembered some things he had told me, it was more likely that I was feeling traumatized at the time and just couldn’t take in more information. He was not easily persuaded of this truth.


What is it that Trauma does to us? It can be downright horrific, and for me, especially around this Mother’s Day holiday, I am indeed traumatized by my loss of my precious daughter; to me there is absolutely nothing strange about my reactions to such loss. And when I am dealing with that deep degree of pain, I very likely will not be up to “taking in” everyday chitchat. And, for me, that is Okay.


Tommy and I have found it crucial that we process our ongoing loss; it is more painful than anything this world could throw in our path. Our loss of our child is absolutely the most devastating loss anyone could ever suffer, and the pain does not cease and desist just because time passes. This all-pervasive-loss occurs and re-occurs in our hearts and psyches, often when we very least expect it. Our loss must be allowed to process through whether we are “ready” or not, and it can feel downright horrific as we walk through it. 



But walking through such hurt can also be very healing. We are drawn closer to our child, and closer to our own broken hearts ~ all of which is crucial for our own healing, and for our own connecting with the precious child we lost. May our surviving family members accept our brokenness as part and parcel of the Love we must be allowed to continually pour out, not only for our precious living children, but also for the precious child we lost!






In His Love,

Angie



Friday, March 29, 2019

Happy Birthday Merry Katherine! ~Poem~ "Death's Chalk Line"









Death’s Chalk Outline



Your birthday is coming;
How old would you be?
(You’re still only 19 to me!)
Yet your 32nd birthday is coming!

That’s 13 years I’ve missed with you!!!

How do we fare with the loss of you?
My sadness pervades
Long before your birthday comes…

Grief takes on a life of its own,
Manifesting in my body well before
March 29th comes.

It took me a while to know why I was sad:
The body “knows” before the “knowledge” is had.

Life was frenetic for months before
It all slowed to a stop when I entered Grief’s shore.

Where did all of these years go?
It seems these 13 years were plundered!

Yes, our lives went on (as if in a sleep walk)
But in our hearts, the dark storm clouds still thundered
As if leaving a chalk outline around our hearts,
with our lives now totally plundered.

13 years now, yet the loss never ends…
It manifests in our body as stagnant clouds with no wind.
We still walk, and we talk, yet our hearts never mend.
So it oft feels we are mummies,
lifeless to the end…

13 years now, yet still, it feels like yesterday.
(Non-grievers never could begin to understand
how we are alive, yet still we are slain…)

We walk and we talk, and act like we’re alive
But somewhere deep down in our bodies, 
we know beyond knowing 
that we’ll never thrive.

So here comes your birthday
And where will I be?
Just look for the chalk outline 
manifest in me.



("Death's Chalk Outline ~Angie Bennett Prince, 2/28/2019) 





May God bless each of you,

Angie


~Thanks to Carol Whiseant Rowe of Treasured Sisters for Merry Katherine's birthday picture!


Thursday, August 2, 2018

Poem to our precious child: August 2nd - Your Last Day on Earth...









August 2nd - Your Last Day on Earth...




Your last day on earth...

Your first day in Heaven!



Twas for us all darkness and dearth...

Yet for you, you saw God in His Heaven,

So all was right in your world!


For us, such a fateful night...

For you, all you saw was Goodness and Light!



Though 12-years out, we are still sad…

(And we’re sure we’ll continue to feel sad),

We are so thankful…


All is right in your world!






Happy Heavenly Birthday precious Merry Katherine, 

our forever-Teen-Angel…







And the dust returns to the ground it came from,
and the spirit returns to God who gave it.

~Ecclesiastes 12:7, New International Version



~~~




Thank You God for Your Word, Your precious promise to our grieving hearts. 

Thank You that You are taking wonderful care of our precious child.

What a Wonderful Father You are!

Please continue to hold our hearts close to You on this side of Heaven.

❤️❤️❤️








May God bless you all,


Angie




1st picture, thanks to artist Loui Jover


2nd picture, thanks to artist,Maria Magdalena Oosthuizen


3rd post, Pinterest entry from
https://www.pinterest.com/pin/785807834953900845/

Sunday, May 14, 2017

Blessed Mother's Day - Honoring Mothers Grieving the Loss of Their Child








“This Mother’s Day
let us recognize ALL mothers.
The ones who nurture their children here on Earth.
The ones who carry some if not all of their children in their hearts
and the ones who yearn just to conceive a child.”


~www.CarlyMarieProjectHeal.com




Blessed Mother's Day



Honoring 
Mothers Grieving 
the 
Loss of their Child














“Grief is the price 
we pay for 
love.”


~Quote: Queen Elizabeth II




~~~





“Sometimes when one person is 
missing
the whole world seems 
empty.”




~~~





“I have heard it said that the greatest loss a human 
being can experience is 

the loss of a child. 

This is true. 

It doesn’t just change you, 

it demolishes you. 

The rest of  your life 

is 
spent 
on 
another 
level.”

~Gloria Vanderbilt




~~~






“The big misperception some people have 

tell those who are grieving 

not 
to openly 
display their grief. 

The only way 
to 
release 
this pain 
is 
to go through it 
and 
to express it. 

“There is no other way.”




~~~






“Grief is 

the most 

powerful emotion, 

yet 

it is the one emotion 

we are taught 

least 

about.” 

~Necole Stephens




~~~






“It’s just fine 

to feel a little heavy, 

and it’s just fine 

to sit here 

and 

catch 

my 

breath, 


and it’s just fine 

to be a mess at times, 

and it’s just fine 
to be relatively 
normal
sometimes. 


It’s just fine to miss them. 


It’s just fine 

to let it all hit me,

surrendering 
and 
succumbing.



“And its just fine to remember that 

grief has no rules, 

and that 
really, it will, 
in many ways, 

last 

as 
long 
as 

love 

does.

Forever.”




~~~






“Time doesn’t heal all wounds. 

It just puts more space between the times you 
remember the events that gave you those wounds…
There are some hurts 
that never stop hurting 

no  matter how faded the scars.”

~Charlie Walton




~~~






“Grief is 
not 
disorder, 
a disease 
or 
sign of weakness. 


It 
is 
an 
emotional, 
physical 
and 
spiritual 
necessity, 

the price 
you pay for 
love. 

The only 

cure 

for grief 

is 

to 

grieve.”



~Earl Grollman




~~~






“Grief 

is 

love 

not

wanting

to

let 

go.” 

~Earl A. Grollman




~~~






“Grief is so human, and it hits 
everyone at one point or 
another, at least, in their lives.

If you love, 

you will grieve, 

and that’s just a given.”

~Kay Redfield Jamison




~~~






“The reality is that 

you will grieve forever. 

You will 

not ‘get over’ 

the loss of a loved one; 

you will learn to 

live with it. 

You will heal 

and 

you will rebuild yourself 

around 
the 
loss 

you have suffered. 

You will be whole 
again but 
you will never be the same. 

Nor should you be the same 
nor would you want to.”

~Elisabeth Kubler-Ross




~~~






“My grief journey has 
no one destination.

I will not ‘get over it.’

“The understanding 
that 

I don’t have to be done 

is liberating. 

I will mourn this 
death for the rest 
of my life.”

~Alan D. Wolfelt
~The Wilderness of Grief




~~~






“Each person's grief 
journey is as 
unique 
as a 
fingerprint 
or 
snowflake."

~Earl Grollman




~~~






“I have this feeling of 
weight on my chest and I 
don’t know how to get rid 
of it. 


The feeling 

of Grief 

or just 

the realization of 
the truth.”




~~~






“Tears are just the 

silent 

language 

of 

Grief.”

~Voltaire




~~~






“Tears are words 

too 

painful 

for 


broken 

heart 

to 

speak.”

~Author Unknown




~~~






“To weep is to make less the depth of grief.”

~William Shakespeare




~~~






“But grief is a walk alone. 

Others can be there, and listen. But 

you will walk alone 

down your 
own path, 

at your own pace, 

with  your sheared-off pain, 

your raw wounds,

your denial, 

anger, 

and 

bitter loss. 

You’ll come to your

own peace, 

hopefully

…but it will be 

on your own, 

in your own time.

~Cathy Lamb




~






“They’d crossed over to that continent 

where grieving parents lived. 

It looked the same as 
the rest of the world, 
but 
wasn’t. 

Colors bled pale. 

Music was just notes. 

No longer transported or comforted, 
not fully. 

Never again. 

Food was nutrition, little more. 

Breaths were sighs. 

And they knew something the rest didn’t. 

They knew how lucky 
the rest of the world was.”

 ~Louise Penny




~~~






“It has been said, 

“Time heals  all wounds.” 

I do not agree. 

The wounds remain. 

In time, 
the mind, 
protecting its sanity, 
covers them with scar tissue 
and 

the pain lessens.

But it is never gone.”

~Rose Kennedy




~~~






“Some days, the tears must flow. 

There’s no cure for grief, 
you endure 

one 

day 

at

a

time.”




~~~






“When you tell a griever to 

let the past go…

(your message to them is

leave your loved one behind 

and 

move forward): 


This hurts more 

than helps.”

~National Grief Awareness Day




~~~








~~~






“Sometimes

crying 

is the only 

thing to do 

to make you 
feel 

better.”




~~~






“Grief is a form of love. 

Honoring grief 

is 

honoring love.”

~M. K. Shear, Center for Complicated Grief




~~~






“When you love deep, 

you grieve deep.”




~~~






“I am blooming from the wound where I once bled.”

~Rune Lazuli




~~~






“BEAUTIFULNESS 

Be - You - To - Fullness

Bring your authentic self to your life, 

even when you come with grief.”

~(grieving mother) Dr. Joanne Cacciatore/FB 




~~~






“I am a better person for 

having known your beauty. 

I am a better person 

for loving you. 

And I am also a better person 

for mourning 

your 

absence, 

even if I continue to 

wish 

it wasn’t this way.”

~Joanne Cacciatore




~~~






“Today, I pray for 
every person that 
secretly 
lives 
in 

pain.”

~A Woman of Faith




~~~






“Lord, I bring to You 
my burdens 
and 
You know 
my situation. 


You know 

I can’t make it 

without You. 


Comfort my heart, 

give me strength, 
and help me 

carry on.”





~~~






“Be merciful to me, LORD, 

for 

I am faint; 

O LORD heal me.

My soul is in anguish. 

How long, 
O LORD, 
how long? 

Turn O LORD, 
and 
deliver me. 

Save me 
because of 

Your unfailing love. 

All night long 

I flood my bed with weeping 

and 

drench my couch 

with tears. 



“The LORD has heard my weeping.

The LORD has heard 

my cry for 

mercy; 

the LORD accepts my prayer.”

excerpts from ~Psalm 6




~~~






“Her absence is

like 

the 

sky

spread 

over

everything.”

~C. S. Lewis




~~~








~~~






“Keep me in your heart. 

I’ll stay there forever.”




~~~







“I’ll hold you 

in my heart 

until 

I hold

 you 

i

heaven.”







May God bless you all,

Angie