Showing posts with label Effects of Child-Loss Trauma. Show all posts
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Wednesday, November 30, 2011

Thursday's Therapy - 8 Ways for Us Child-Loss Grievers to Restore Our Damaged Brains






Thursday's Therapy


8 Ways for Us Child-Loss Grievers to Restore Our Damaged Brains






It was first at the conference Tommy and I went to in Atlanta, Georgia, training under premier Trauma specialist Dr. Bessel A. van der Kolk, when we learned that brains are often damaged (with evidence of the "hippocampus" actually shrinking) when going through severe trauma such as that of losing our child. That was in February, 2010. At that point in time, Dr. van der Kolk, who works as Medical Director of the Trauma Center at Justice Resource Institute in Brookline, Massachusetts, was not sure that the damaged hippocampus (which was revealed through the newly available brain imaging for trauma patients) could be repaired or not. (Even the medical world didn't think that the brain could generate new cells; doctors had been taught over the years that the brain had a fixed number of cells, and that was it; a person could only lose cells from that point on, but could never expect to regain any.) Research since that point in time, thankfully, reveals that our brains can indeed go through neurogenesis in which the hippocampus loss that we've apparently experienced can be restored! This new understanding regarding the potential for brain cells to regenerate is called "Neuroplasticity." The following is a list of exciting ways in which the brain can purportedly (via scientific observation) be stimulated into producing such new brain cells, called "Neurogenesis."






7 Scientifically Proven Ways to Stimulate Brain Cell Growth / Neurogenesis


~ found in a blog called, 4mind4life.com



Neurogenesis - “The birth of new neurons in the brain; also referred to as the process in which neurons are created.

The growth of new brain cells occurs in the region of the brain called the "hippocampus." The ‘hippocampus’ is an area involved with memory, learning, and other cognitive functions. In order to live and become part of our brain, new neurons formed in the hippocampus-region need support from surrounding nutrients from blood and glial cells.

Most importantly, they need support from other surrounding neurons – otherwise these new brain cells will die. Though thousands of new brain cells are formed and produced via the hippocampus each and every day, many die quickly after birth. When we can keep them alive for this crucial period after birth, we are able to effectively boost the power of the human brain by adding new brain cells to the bank of existing cells.

Though neurogenesis is most active during prenatal development, there is growing evidence that certain activities also induce the growth of new brain cells [neurons] in the brain. Provided below are 7 researched and proven ways to grow new brain cells and provide a safe haven for effective neurogenesis.



1. An Exercise Regimen

Everybody knows that exercise is good for your overall health and heart, but in recent findings, powerful evidence has proven that exercise is great for your brain. Scientific experiments have discovered that mice consistently using running wheels had around 2 times the amount of hippocampal neurons (brain cells) as the mice that didn’t exercise.

Another study at (Columbia) University found that humans who had a(n) exercise training program were able to grow and maintain new brain cells and nerve cells in the hippocampus region of the brain. The specific area called the “dentate gyrus” is responsible for helping produce neurogenesis. Even more studies have discovered that those who exercised had 2 – 3 times the increases in the birth-rate of new neurons!


2. Eating Blueberries

Eating blueberries can trigger the growth of new brain cells? That’s right! 19-month-old rats that were put on a blueberry enriched diet [equal to about 1 cup per day for humans] were more skilled at navigating through mazes than rats who weren’t fed blueberries. Scientists know for a fact that blueberries promote the growth of new neurons. In order to track the growth of neurons, researchers injected dye into rats.

They saw that in the hippocampus region, new brain cells were generated. Scientists figure that “anthocyanin dye” – the dark bluish-dye found in blueberries caused the neurogenesis. The anthocyanin-dye contains chemicals that can cross the blood-brain barrier and produce the growth of neurons. There is growing evidence that the “anthocyanin dye” has the same effect on the brains of humans!


3. Taking Time for Meditation

Meditation (w)as always thought to have been beneficial for the brain. Recent compelling evidence from scientific researchers at Yale, Harvard, and Massachusetts Institute of Technology revealed that meditation can allow us to “grow bigger brains.” Though this isn’t the same thing as neurogenesis, meditation could very well be an activity that boosts the birth rate of neurons.

Researchers also discovered that meditators literally had an altered-physical brain structure compared to non-meditators. Brain scanning technology [i.e. MRIs] showed that meditation boosted thickness of brain structure dealing with attention, sensory input, and memory functions. The thickening was found to be more noticeable in adults than younger individuals. It’s interesting because the same sections of our cortex that meditation thickens, tend to get thinner as we age.

Meditation is known to boost brain activity, coherency of brain waves, strengthen neural connections, and thicken gray matter. Though scientists haven’t confirmed the effects of meditation and its ability to aid neurogenesis [due to complexity issues], there is a likely possibility that it helps.


4. Antidepressant Drugs

Scientific research by the National Institute of Mental Health has proven that antidepressants work by allowing our brains to grow new brain cells (neurons). In a 2003 study, scientists discovered that when they blocked the formation of new neurons in the hippocampus brain region, behavioral effects of the antidepressant Prozac [Fluoxetine] were diminished.

Research has already understood that depression, stress, and anxiety disorders can cause death of neurons in the brain. More studies have demonstrated that most other antidepressants on the market can and will trigger the growth of new neurons. {Actually, our understanding is that, according to J. Douglas Bremner, M.D., associate professor of psychiatry and radiology at Emory School of Medicine in Atlanta, Georgia and author of Does Stress Damage the Brain, in a seminar held in Atlanta, Georgia in September, 2011 that Tommy and I attended, the SSRI anti-depressants are the only antidepressants on the market that trigger the growth of new neurons in the brain.} Even more interesting is the fact that besides humans, adult animals grow new neurons when given antidepressant drugs.

Though there are many other interactions in the brain with antidepressants, their primary beneficial effect from them is derived from their ability to produce neurogenesis. Now if scientists can only figure out a way to induce the amount of neurogenesis that antidepressant medication does without creating a new drug!


5. An Enriched Environment

Science has long known that living in a mentally stimulating environment versus an impoverished environment is far better for brain development. Research has found that exposure to an enriched environment enhances neurogenesis functioning and is able to regulate emotionality.

Scientists have found that memory-based tasks were far improved in the hippocampus region of the brain when human beings are raised in a healthy, enriched environment. One study found that mice put in stimulating environments actually had larger hippocampus regions than did those living in “standard” or “poor” laboratory conditions. They discovered a direct correlation between an enriched environment and the amount of neurons produced in the brains of mice. This had a significant effect on neurogenesis!


6. The Act of “Learning”

Though scientists have long known that new brain cells are able (to) “enhance learning” – they never thought that “learning” could actually cause the birth of new brain cells… that is, until recently. In recent animal studies, researchers have found that there was a direct relationship between “learning” and the survival rate of newly-birthed brain cells.

When researchers taught certain rodents a wide-variety of cognitive tasks which involved a wide-range of brain areas – scientists found that the more the animal “learned” – the more new neurons were able to survive in the hippocampus. Scientists have made it clear that “learning” can increase the presence of new neurons in the brain.

Brain cells that are born in the hippocampus, which normally die off, are literally “rescued” by “learning” experiences. There is still plenty of research being conducted in this area and not all sources agree. However, your best bet is to keep your brain power boosted and your mind sharp. Always try to learn something new!


7. Restricting Caloric Intake

The phenomena of calorie restriction has continued to puzzle researchers. They have found that eating less food can lead to significant increases in longevity. Even when starting calorie restriction in middle age, it is able to produce around a ten to twenty percent increase in life-span. (Calorie restriction) has also been associated with hundreds of biological changes and can harbor our ability to produce new brain cells.

Restricting calorie intake has been associated with increases in neurogenesis and a better overall neuroprotective effect in the brain. Scientists have found that calorie-restricted animals nearly always stay active and healthy up until the end of their lives. This phenomena has also been associated with a significantly lowered likelihood of developing a degenerative brain disease and can even produce new nerve cells!


8. Infrared Light Helmets

Though the use of infrared light helmets is relatively new, researchers believe that they may help patients with Alzheimer's disease by helping them grow new brain cells. Developer of this infrared light helmet, Dr. Gordon Dougal, (also the director of medical research at medical research company Virulite) believes the helmet will hit the market about 1 year from now. It works by aiming low levels of infrared light at the wearer’s brain. Next, it stimulates neurogenesis in the brain, suggests research.

More on how this works according to its inventor [Dr. Gordon Dougal]:


“How we hope it’s going to work is that the infrared light will be facing inside the helmet onto the actual person, onto their skin, onto their brain, and actually goes on the frontal part of the bones, so it goes onto the actual front part of the brain and the side of the brain.

“The side of the head and their skull are relatively thin, so the light will penetrate the skull and treat the underlying brain tissue. And the top of the head is also quite thin, and the light will penetrate the brain tissue at that point.”



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For more information, view the sources:

LE Magazine: June 2002 – Calorie Restriction, Exercise, Hormone Replacement, and Phytonutrients Fight Aging – Age Conference – Madison, Wisconsin

Harvard University – Meditation found to increase brain size – Mental calisthenics bulk up some layers By William J. Cromie – Harvard News Office http://www.news.harvard.edu/gazette/daily/2006/01/23-meditation.html

Antidepressants Grow New Brain Cells – About.com; http://mentalhealth.about.com/cs/psychopharmacology/a/neurogenesis.htm

Sci STKE. 2003 Aug; (195):318. Antidepressants and Hippocampal Neurogenesis. Santarelli L, Saxe M, Gross A, Surget A, Battaglia F, Dulawa S, Weisstaub N, Lee J, Duman R, Arancio O, Belzung, Hen R.

The Journal of Neuroscience. 2007 Mar; 27(13): 3252-3259. Experience-Specific Functional Modification of the Dentate Gyrus through Adult Neurogenesis: A Critical Period during an Immature Stage. Tashiro A, Makino H, Gage FH.

Stanford University Research In Progress: HD & Lifestyle http://www.stanford.edu/group/hopes/rltdsci/inprogress/ae2.html












Thursday, January 27, 2011

Friday's Faith - The Heresy of "The Victorious Christian Life" and Struggles from Other Grievers...





Friday's Faith

The Heresy of "The Victorious Christian Life"

and Struggles from Other Grievers...



IN THIS FOG


Sunk in this gray

depression

I cannot pray.

How can I give

expression

with no words to say?

This mass of vague

foreboding

of aching care,

love with its

overloading

short-circuits prayer.

Then in this fog

of tiredness

this nothingness, I find

a quiet, certain, knowing

that He is kind.

~Ruth Bell Graham



I started to read a book I have had for years now, "Clouds are the Dust of His Feet" by Ruth Bell Graham. It has some really lovely poems in it and the one above kind of tells it how I feel right now. Except for the part the very last line that says He is kind. I still don't get that. I still don't understand how I am supposed to just believe that Lucas dying was for some kind of good. Right, maybe there was going to be a future so sad, bad, hard whatever that it was kinder for him to go when he did. But how does that equate to a God who is so powerful that He can raise the dead, yet He decided that He would let Lucas be born, be formed by Him in the womb with this terrible disease. This poor little man never really had a chance, how does that describe a God who is kind, all powerful, loving arghhhh!!!!! Really, really is he really????


At the same time I am over asking the questions, over wondering and arguing with God. But I am amazed by how life changing this has been for me. I don't think there is one thing about me that is the same as it was before June 23 this year. My whole mind has had to readjust to a new way of believing. A new way of relating to God, to walking each day through life. There are people who have been my friends for years who I think simply do not know what to say or do anymore. I don't talk about it with them much anymore, but I don't talk about all this wonderful isn't he great God stuff anymore either and I think that says volumes to them. Like I've said before I believe He is and He was and He will be still, but I don't believe all the healing stuff anymore. I don't pray anymore expecting to get an answer, so often I just don't pray. Maybe that will change in time I don't know.


~ http://throughthevalleyoflife.blogspot.com/



*****



Have you ever taken something away from a child, and they didn't understand why? They usually sit in the corner, arms crossed, refusing to speak to you. They still love you, they still know you are there for them, but they just don't want to look at you or speak to you. That's how I feel right now.


I feel like a little child who's angry at her father... heavenly Father that is. I don't want to be, but I don't understand why I can't have my daughter. My prayer life has really been in the dumps lately. I know God loves me. I know God wants what is best for me. I know God is in control. I still love Him and trust Him. However, I miss my daughter so much that I feel like crossing my arms and ignoring Him. I don't feel this way all the time, but the winter months and holidays are taking a toll on me...


~ http://remembermaciebeth.blogspot.com/



*****



The Heresy of "The Victorious Life"

~Tommy and Angie Prince



Tommy and I are fascinated that as painful as child-loss is to grapple with spiritually, there is nothing "out there" that seems to effectively address the agony of the "abandonment" one feels from his/her Heavenly Father during such a great loss as the Loss of one's child. For whatever reason, it seems to me that I am just now getting a clearer picture of the way Tommy felt completely "dropped" by His Heavenly Father...


Being the daddy of a daughter, Tommy naturally felt the protective need to watch over his little girl. The MAIN thing he was focused on and repeatedly begging God for, with the faith of a trusting son to His Father, "PLEASE, protect her life." And then, she's killed...?



Tommy shares his journey so far...


That sense of betrayal can be just as devastating emotionally as the actual loss of her. What I've lost is that, 'I thought I could ask for something and get a modicum of a positive outcome.' It exposed my assumptive belief about God and our relationships with God. On the one hand, we are told, "If we ask for bread, would the Father give us a stone?"


On the other hand, the Bible is full of "suffering." There is not the "victorious life" that churches often tickle your ear with. Jesus said,


"In this world, you WILL have trouble, but be of good cheer; I have overcome the world."


God's presence is there in the form of comfort and grace, but He wasn't there in the form of intervention that I was asking for.


The danger -- I was led down a religious primrose path, a consumer's approach to God, and yet if you examine scripture, God's view of our relationship with Him is there in the beatitudes, first thing... - in the early chapters of Matthew, chapter 5, in the Sermon on the Mount, we get a startling first glimpse of God's truth:


Blessed are those who mourn. Blessed are the poor in spirit...


And the church just blows right by that!


The disenfrancished, down-trodden, abandoned, and abused are embraced by God.


And that message had never been heard to that point in the history of mankind. This was new. This was unheard of.


Blessed are those who mourn is not WHY the tragedy happens, but WHEN the tragedy happens and you have to suffer through it, God comes into it in a way that loves you, ministers to you, and yes, blesses you.

"In this world, you WILL have trouble, but be of good cheer; I have overcome the world." NOT YOU will overcome, NOT YOU will not experience anything bad ~ that is heresy ~ Jesus never said that; He said quite the opposite... In this world, you WILL have trouble, BUT... be of good cheer, for I have overcome the world.


I don't talk the same way to God I used to talk to Him. The relationship has totally changed now.


In a trauma book Angie and I are reading, trauma expert Richard Mollica says it well:


Feelings and actions do not spring out of us spontaneously but are based upon learned beliefs and values.... If you believe in a fair, just, and rational life, when violence strikes, (your world is thrown into shock since something is happening outside your range of expectation).

~ Richard F.Mollica, M.D. ~ Healing Invisible Wounds



Feelings don't happen in a vacuum; they have to be funneled through a belief and value system. My BELIEF about God was wrong. GOD was not wrong. But MY BELIEF about God was being betrayed. My expectation of intervention wasn't met, and therefore within the belief system in place at that time, it resulted in a Sense of Being Betrayed. Early on I was too wounded to be able to talk about it, I was too traumatized. (Even if Angie asked me to pray for her, I just froze.)


As I have been redoing my relationship with God, re-examining my belief system in light of what scripture really says, my beliefs began to change AND I let myself be ministered to BY God.


The feeling of betrayal is not there like it was.

But the process of getting there has not been pretty. It has been agonizingly painful, and it has taken a long time to get to this place emotionally.











Burned-out Forest picture, thanks to FotoSearch.com
Excerpts from blogs were found from others grieving the loss of a child on the internet:

Wednesday, January 26, 2011

Thursday’s Therapy - TRAUMA Therapy Toolbox - Dementia? Or, Child-Loss Grief and Trauma… ~ Respecting Your Child-Loss TRAUMA








Thursday’s Therapy


TRAUMA Therapy Toolbox


Dementia? Or, Child-Loss Grief and Trauma… Did I Mention Dementia?


~ Respecting Your Child-Loss TRAUMA


~Tommy and Angie Prince



All of us (most likely, without even realizing it) tend to walk around with the assumption that the world is predictable and we are in control. To some degree, these are fairly normal forms of "denial" to have so that we can maintain some degree of optimism to give us the courage to step outside and go to work with the hope and confidence that we will be okay, and life will probably be good for that day.


But for us Child-Loss grievers, the world that we thought was predictable and orderly is now chaotic, and we who thought we had some degree of control now feel fear and helplessness.


{We could not protect the child whose protection is a parent's main priority!}


And guess what?



"It turns out fear and helplessness are processed by the parts of the brain shown in human and animal studies, to be most affected by severe stress, and most vulnerable in terms of the likelihood of developing PTSD (Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder)."


~Charles W. Hoge, Once a Warrior, Always a Warrior




It isn't until a crisis comes, that your assumptive beliefs (the world is predictable, and I am in control) and values (my child's safety is of utmost importance, so I will protect her) are exposed, and challenged, if not shattered or torpedoed.


Child-Loss presents the major crisis into which we have been thrown in which we then experience intense fear and a sense of total helplessness. We as Child-Loss parents need to have a better appreciation for being thrown into this fearful and helpless state: It is a very normal place to be, as our world-of-assumed-safety has been shattered, so the brain is preparing us to be ready and prepared for dealing with immediate DANGER. All sensory input is communicating that our world is now at risk, so the brain tries to prepare us to


  • Run (flight) or
  • Attack (fight) or
  • Stop (freeze) to achieve the best protection from danger that we can.


In the process however, the brain also shuts down the neural pathways to other parts of the brain because in the middle of danger, those parts don't need to be accessible as they might interfere with the FIRST mode of action needed for our self-protection.




In OUR situation, however, we need to be able to advise the brain we are NOT in immediate danger; the danger has already occurred and now we must have ALL parts of our brains made available to us to learn to COPE with what that DANGER and CATASTROPHE have created for us, which for us is,


  • the death of our child,
  • the recognition of our complete inability to protect our child from such death,
  • the loss into which we are now thrown, and
  • the extreme vulnerability and helplessness that comes with such a severe loss.


BUT, we must also be aware that because of the severe nature of our loss and the accompanying emotions that go with such severity of loss, we now are also set up for very likely having another whole set of accompanying symptoms which will complicate our grief and loss further, and that is the POST-TRAUMATIC STRESS DISORDER that many veterans of war also have to tangle with.


I read this week of a child-loss mother wondering if she was losing her mind or perhaps was prematurely aging with dementia, when what I immediately recognized was ~ NO! That symptomology going on in your brain is PAR FOR THE COURSE of walking through the TRAUMA of child-loss!


In other words, many times I feel like a freak of nature as I see symptoms going on in my body that I know are not normal for living an everyday life as I once knew it. So although my immediate reaction is "Oh my goodness, I am losing my mind!" the next thoughts need to be, "Wait a minute. I have LOST MY CHILD. My WORLD-AS-I-KNEW-IT has been shattered.
So naturally ALL SYSTEMS inside of me are REELING. They now are set to -

  • WATCH OUT FOR FURTHER DANGER.
  • FEEL SAFE ENOUGH TO BE ABLE TO GRIEVE MY SEVERE LOSS.
  • HELP MYSELF BREATHE THROUGH THE NEXT MOMENT.
  • DISCOVER ALL OVER AGAIN WHO I REALLY AM WITH ALL MY CORE VALUES AND BELIEFS BEING CHALLENGED AND SOMETIMES EVEN SHATTERED.

So when someone comes up to me and says something, and I find that I immediately forget it, or perhaps never even allowed it to register in my memory in the first place, I want to learn to respect that THAT IS COMPLETELY NORMAL because MY BRAIN is PREOCCUPIED

with helping me

  • GET FROM ONE MOMENT TO THE NEXT in one piece if possible,
  • FACE WHAT HAS HAPPENED TO SHATTER MY WORLD,
  • GRIEVE WHAT HAS HAPPENED THAT THROWS ME INTO SEVERE LOSS, and
  • DISCOVER WHO I AM NOW THAT MY FORMER WORLD HAS BEEN SHOT OUT FROM UNDER ME.


No wonder, I am not going to remember what someone said to me that doesn't even register as being important in comparison to the COPING DEMANDS into which I've now been called!









Picture from FotoSearch.com
~Charles W. Hoge, M.D., Colonel, U.S. Army (Ret.), Once a Warrior, Always a Warrior, p. 24