Specific
Phenomena
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Violent Dying: | |
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Violent dying is a human act, associated with human intention or negligence. Suicidal, homicidal, accidental, or terrorist "killing" is followed by a socially proscribed inquiry to investigate and determine who is "responsible" because this is a dying that should not have happened. This intense inquest by the medical examiner, the police, and sometimes by the courts socially reinforces the personal demand for investigation, and retribution if investigation determines that the deceased was the "victim" of a crime. Natural dying is rarely followed by such an inquiry, and it is not normative for grief following natural dying to include persistent thoughts, feelings, or behaviors of retaliation or retribution or dread of its recurrence.
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Since violent dying is the most common cause of death before age 40, a disproportionate number of younger parents and siblings are forced to accommodate to the violent dying of a primary family member. Parents, particularly mothers, are over-represented in every study (usually representing over half of the sample) who present for treatment.
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Mothers seeking treatment after the violent death of their child may meet criteria for both complicated grief and PTSD, but they are also intensely remorseful because of their perceived failure in protecting their child from violent death. Mothers serve as the primary attachment provider to their child (different than the attachment dynamic within a spousal relationship) and because of their parental obligation of protection, mothers feel inordinate remorse for the dying.
Violent Death Bereavement Clinical Differentiation: | |
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There is not enough evidence to designate Violent Death Bereavement as categorically distinct from Complicated Bereavement or PTSD. However, there are clinical phenomena and dynamics specifically associated with Violent Dying that need to be included in supportive guidelines and interventions:
Specific
Phenomena
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The immediate aftermath of violent death demands an intense engagement of the family with community agencies of the media, police, and eventually the courts and prisons if someone is apprehended and tried.
- Guidelines for this public aftermath include active advocacy and education.
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Mothers and young children are particularly vulnerable to a prolonged bereavement after the violent death of a loved one.
- Guidelines for their delayed adjustment include proactive outreach and follow-up of family members (particularly mothers and children) for 18-24 months.
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Vulnerability to prolonged bereavement is associated with a syndrome of obsessive thoughts and flashbacks of the dying reenactment and secondary thoughts of remorse, retaliation, and recurrence.
-Guidelines for this traumatic aftermath include interventions that moderate distress, restore resilience, and modify the obsessive narratives of dying, remorse, retaliation, and recurrence.
Resiliency
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Resiliency After Violent Death: Lessons for Caregivers
Dr. Ted Rynearson, M.D. and Daniel W. Clark, Ph.D.
Dr. Ted Rynearson, a prominent psychiatrist recommends
clinicians, clergy, and caregivers shift their focus from the
death itself to the longer term needs of loved ones dealing
with the tragedy of losing a loved one to violent death.
Three Common Psychological Responses to Violent Death
and Treatment Implications:
Phase 1. Intense Separation & Trauma Distress:
The immediate challenge following a violent death is over-
whelming distress related to both the reality of death
(separation distress), as well as the reality of violent
dying (trauma distress).
Intense Separation & Trauma Distress is the immediate
challenge for families. The experts recommend that
families be given the facts of their loved one's death,
when they feel ready for that information. Lacking such
factual information, many family members, including
children, create vivid fantasies about the death, which
can be more harmful than the facts themselves.
Phase 2. Reframing Dying & Nurturing Imagery:
the next challenge involves revising and synthesizing
the traumatic memories of the killing with the nurturing
memories of the deceased.
Dr. Rynearson recommends asking patients about their
concept of death - what do you think occurs? Spiritual
beliefs may play an important role, both explanatory and
comforting. Also important is listening to survivors tell
their story. The experts remind the helpers they should
listen to the family members without imposing their own
beliefs.
Phase 3. Meaningful Reengagement:
A later challenge is in establishing a meaningful reconnec-
tion with the flow of life - beyond the tragedy of violent
death - by a hopeful recommitment with valued activities
and relationships.
The experts highlight the importance of supportive family
and friends, the importance of "just being there," and the
importance of letting the process develop over time without
trying to rush it. Surviving parents (point out) the importance
and meaningfulness of reaching out to others, after time.
The information on this Website is presented for educational
purposes only. It is not a substitute for informed medical
advice or training. Do not use this information to diagnose
or treat a mental health problem without consulting a
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