Saturday's Sayings - Progress in the Healing Journey… - Part Four

Saturday's Sayings

Progress in the Healing Journey…

Part Four

"Grief fills the room up of my absent child, lies in his bed, walks up and down with me, puts on his pretty looks, repeats his words."

~William Shakespeare

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We never really "heal" from Child-Loss Grief and Trauma, but we're always in recovery. We can be in a process of healing, but healing will not completely happen this side of Heaven.

Amidst our Child-Loss Grief and Trauma, when you think about it, we have been assaulted emotionally, physically, and spiritually! We never really "heal" from Child-Loss Grief and Trauma, but we're always in recovery. We can be in a process of healing, but healing will not completely happen this side of Heaven.

~Angie and Tommy

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"The case of a parent losing a child is very special because the most deep-seated protective and nurturant emotions are brutalized. Because this “injury” is so severe to such primitive emotional processes, the grieving parent is likely to feel and express the pain associated with it for the rest of his or her life."

~Dr Joanne Cacciatore

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~Death of a Loved one

We begin to learn what to expect from our grief, and allow it to flow, knowing that each time it does, we feel that much closer to our child.

~Angie

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"This rain-weeping and sun-burning twine together to make us grow. Keep your intelligence white-hot and your grief glistening, so your life will stay fresh. Cry easily like a little child."

~Mevlana Jelaluddin Rumi

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"The cycle of grief has its own timetable. Until that cycle is honored and completed we are moving along life's path with an anchor down." 

~Ann Linnea in Deep Water Passage

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~Death of a Loved one

You find that you become very independent as you claim your own way of grieving as absolutely no one else knows what is best for your own heart as you do, so you protect yourself by surrounding yourself with those who can be understanding and supportive even while keeping a wide berth from the ones who seem to want to control your grief by telling you how it should be done even though they've never "been" there.

~Angie

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"When we honestly ask ourselves which person in our lives mean the most to us, we often find that it is those who, instead of giving advice, solutions, or cures, have chosen rather to share our pain and touch our wounds with a warm and tender hand. The friend who can be silent with us in a moment of despair or confusion, who can stay with us in an hour of grief and bereavement, who can tolerate not knowing, not curing, not healing and face with us the reality of our powerlessness, that is a friend who cares."

~Henri Nouwen, Out of Solitude

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"She was no longer wrestling with the grief, but could sit down with it as a lasting companion and make it a sharer in her thoughts."

~George Eliot

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~I Miss Those Close To Me Who Are Now In Heaven As Beautiful Angels 

We learn to lean on one another, and make "sisters-of-the-heart" when our own sisters cannot understand…

~Angie

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"No bond in closer union knits to human hearts than fellowship in grief."

~Southey in Joan of Arc and Minor Poems

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"The most beautiful people we have known are those who have know defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen."

~Elisabeth Kubler-Ross

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~Journey of the Survivor (From Grief to Survival)

There comes a day that you become comfortable that your child may "be" with you at any given moment of the day, and you gain great comfort in that spirit-to-spirit closeness that comforts much like it did when your child was present, but the closeness is even more immediate and intimate and thus is very satisfying to your heart.

~Angie

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"Unless we remember, we cannot understand."

~E. M. Forster

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"The pain passes but the beauty remains."

~Pierre Auguste Renoir

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~The Social Butterfly

After Child-Loss, we find our love for our child growing deeper and wider.

~Angie

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"I have found the paradox that if I love until I hurt, then there is no more hurt…only love."

~Mother Teresa

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"There is a sacredness in tears. They are not the mark of weakness but of power…they are messengers of unspeakable love."

~Washington Irving

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~Death of a Loved one 

We develop a new perspective about what is really important in life since our child died and we now have one foot fully planted in Heaven while we have the other fully planted on earth. And we know that our child's spirit is only just beyond the Veil, pulling for us and watching over us. We begin to understand some of Christ's meaning, "Where your treasure is, there will your heart be also," and we know that much of our treasure is indeed in Heaven.

~Angie

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"Now he has departed from this strange world a little ahead of me. That means nothing. People like us, who believe in physics, know that the distinction between past, present, and future is only a stubbornly persistent illusion."

~Albert Einstein

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"Motherhood is a state of both the mind and the heart, a sacred place that is yours no matter the distance between you and your child. Not even Death can take it away."

~Joanne Cacciatore

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"They that love beyond the world cannot be separated by it. Death cannot kill that which never dies."

~William Penn

Picture, "Broken" - thanks to ~Death of a Loved one