Wednesday's Woe - For Whom The Grief Tolls ~ 4 Years of Child-Loss Grief

Wednesday's Woe

For Whom The Grief Tolls

4 Years of Child-Loss Grief

Child-Loss Grief is a Journey to Accommodation, Assimilation, and Integration, not a Journey to Healing.

We're both feeling bad. Not only is it the 4th Year Anniversary, we thought we'd be further along at 4 Years. We thought we'd feel better than we do now. We must remember Dr. Rando says there will be at least 5-7 years of Acute Grief after Child-Loss, and that 5-7 years starts after the court time and the legal work has been settled...so I guess we're more like 3 years along in our grief...

Child-Loss Grief is more like a Journey to Assimilation, Accommodation, Integration, NOT really a Journey to Healing as our hearts will never fully heal this side of Heaven...

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For Whom The Grief Tolls

Forlorn,

Debilitated,

Sadness hovers...

Feeling grief for other hurting mothers...

Cannot bear thinking they too feel what I feel:

Hearts ripped open, mutilated, but cannot heal.

God, we love You; we're trying hard...What's the deal?

If God makes diamonds out of pressured coals,

As we're pressed down, Glory shines through broken souls...

Poured out, ravaged parents...for whom The Grief tolls.

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Scriptures for God's Bereaved Followers Who are Left Behind...

In this you greatly rejoice, though now for a little while you may have had to suffer grief in all kinds of trials. These have come so that your faith--of greater worth than gold, which perishes even though refined by fire--may be proved genuine and may result in praise, glory and honor when Jesus Christ is revealed.

~I Peter 6-7

Be patient, then, brothers, until the Lord's coming. See how the farmer waits for the land to yield its valuable crop and how patient he is for the autumn and spring rains. You too, be patient and stand firm, because the Lord's coming is near.

Brothers, as an example of patience in the face of suffering, take the prophets who spoke in the name of the Lord. As you know, we consider blessed those who have persevered. You have heard of Job's perseverance and have seen what the Lord finally brought about. The Lord is full of compassion and mercy.

~James 5:7-8, 10-11

But if you suffer for doing good and you endure it this is commendable before God. To this you were called, because Christ suffered for you, leaving you an example, that you should follow in His steps...

When they hurled their insults at Him, He did not retaliate; when He suffered, He made no threats. Instead He entrusted Himself to Him who judges justly.

~James 5:20b-21, 23

Dear friends, do not be surprised at the painful trial you are suffering, as though something strange were happening to you. But rejoice that you participate in the sufferings of Christ, so that you may be overjoyed when His glory is revealed.

~James 4:12-13

But we have this treasure in jars of clay to show that this all-supassing power is from God and not from us.

We are hard pressed on every side, but not crushed; perplexed, but not in despair; persecuted, but not abandoned; struck down, but not destroyed. We always carry around in our body the death of Jesus, so that the life of Jesus may also be revealed in our body. For we who are alive are always being given over to death for Jesus' sake, so that His life may be revealed in our mortal body.

Therefore we do not lose heart. Though outwardly we are wasting away, yet inwardly we are being renewed day by day. For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all.

~I Corinthians 4:7-11, 16-17

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Poem - For Whom The Grief Tolls - Angie Bennett Prince - 8/11/10

All Scripture from the New International Version of The Holy Bible (capitalizations and highlights, mine)