Saturday's Sayings - Companionship in Grief

Saturday's Sayings

Companionship in Grief

What I Have Learned

I`ve learned that you can keep going long after you think you can't.

I`ve learned that learning to forgive takes a lot of practice.

I`ve learned that friends may become strangers, and strangers become friends.

I`ve learned that ignorance isn't an excuse for lack of compassion.

I`ve learned that some people will never, ever, "get it".

I`ve learned that the community of sorrow is the strongest of all.

I`ve learned that no matter how bad your heart is broken the world doesn't stop for your grief.

I`ve learned that your life can be changed in a matter of minutes.

I`ve learned that you should always leave loved ones with loving words. It may be the last time you ever see them.

I`ve learned that love isn't measured by the amount of time you have with someone.

~by Paul Bell

~Thank you, Pearl, for sharing this!

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Heaven knows we need never be ashamed of our tears, for they are rain upon the blinding dust of earth, overlying our hard hearts.

~Charles Dickens Great Expectations

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God is closest to those with broken hearts.

~Jewish Saying

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Walk With Me

Walk with me…

Walk in my shoes

for one single day.

Then you’ll see why

I need to pray.

Come live in my home

for a week or two

and then remember

I am just like you.

I didn’t ask for the things I was given

I didn’t choose this road I have taken

Walk a mile with me hand in hand

Then perhaps you will understand.

I’m not really complaining

about the stress in my life,

I know that we all have

some toil and some strife.

But walk with me, when you think

I am wrong, walk with me

and you’ll start to belong.

Embrace my sorrows,

like they are your own,

And then you will know me

And see I have grown.

The journey I take

is different from yours

My life took one of those

unexpected detours,

But this road that I travel

is not really so long,

If the people who watch me

will join in my song.

Listen to my footsteps

and watch how I dance

And then you will know me

and give me a chance.

Take heart and remember

It can happen to you,

who knows where my pathway

will cross over to you?

So speak to me softly

if you can’t understand

Remember I once stood

right there where you stand.

And walk with me gently

when the day is at end.

And then I will know

I can call you my friend.

~Author Unknown

Thank you, Grieving Mothers!

Saturday's Sayings - Please Don't Tell Me... ~When Friends and Family Don't Understand Child-Loss Grief

Saturday's Sayings

Please Don't Tell Me...

~When Friends and Family Don't Understand Child-Loss Grief

“ . . . I could not shake off my grief, although it had been nearly four years since you died . . . I didn’t know that the sadness is never entirely gone; it lives on forever just below the skin. Without it I wouldn’t be who I am, or be able to recognize myself in the mirror. . . . I was as active as always and few people suspected my state of mind, but deep in my soul I was moaning. I developed a taste for solitude; I wanted only to be with my family; people bothered me, my friends were reduced to three or four. I was spent.”

~Isabel Allende in The Sum of Our Days 2008

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Please don't tell me you know how I feel,

Unless you have lost your child too,

Please don't tell me my broken heart will heal,

Because that is just not true,

Please don't tell me my son is in a better place,

Though it is true, I want him here with me,

Don't tell me someday I'll hear his voice, see his face,

Beyond today I cannot see,

Don't tell me it is time to move on,

Because I cannot,

Don't tell me to face the fact he is gone,

Because denial is something I can't stop,

Don't tell me to be thankful for the time I had,

Because I wanted more,

Don't tell me when I am my old self you will be glad,

I'll never be as I was before,

What you can tell me is you will be here for me,

That you will listen when I talk of my child,

You can share with me my precious memories,

You can even cry with me for a while,

And please don't hesitate to say his name,

Because it is something I long to hear everyday,

Friend please realize that I can never be the same,

But if you stand by me, you may like the new person I become someday.

~Author Unknown

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Don't Tell Me...

please dont tell me not to cry

please dont say there was a reason why

you dont know what i am feeling

or how much i hurt

the wet spots are from tears on the collar of my shirt

you think i should go on with life

forget about it and be strong

but deep down i am sad and i dont want to go along

i dont expect you to understand why

for no apparent reason i break down and start to cry

my life has changed forever you see

and that is why i am not acting like the same ole me

so please dont try to act like nothing happened

because its changed my life forever i will never be the same again

not today

not tomorrow

but never again

the best thing you can do for me is just be there just like always

be my friend

cause my broken heart will never mend.♥

~Author Unknown

Picture - thanks to Grieving Mothers

Poems - thanks to Grieving Mothers

Sorrow...love's legacy picture ~thanks to TeriAnn Sargent