Friday, April 12, 2013

Thursday's Therapy - Trauma Resets Personality ~Nigel Barber, Ph.D.






Thursday's Therapy

Trauma Resets Personality

~Nigel Barber, Ph.D.  






Trauma Resets Personality


Traumatic events as "deep" as personality.
Psychologists know that some aspects of personality are virtually unchangeable. These traits are described as “deep,” meaning that they are (a) biologically based and (b) difficult to change (1). You cannot turn a sociopath into a saint or crush the ego of a narcissist.

Such change is theoretically possible but it would require profound changes in brain biology. For instance, researchers shifted polygynous mountain voles to monogamy by altering brain receptors for the hormone oxytocin (2).


Deep means hard to change – not hard to acquire

A trait does not have to be genetically inherited, or even present at birth, to be deep. If you ever felt nauseated by eating porridge as a child, the chances are that you skip the oatmeal when you go out for breakfast decades later. Food aversions are deep, but they can form after a single unpleasant meal, according to experiments on rats.


One of the curious features of personality change is that we are more profoundly altered by highly unpleasant experiences than by highly pleasurable ones, possibly because painful experiences signal imminent threats to survival.

Fear is a powerful motivator. This fact was revealed by animal behaviorists more than half a century ago in research that is ethically questioned today. In shuttle box avoidance, a dog learned that a light coming on at one side of the apparatus was a warning that the floor would be painfully electrified in 10 seconds. Subjects soon learned to jump over a low barrier to reach the safe side of the cage and received no more shocks.

Dogs easily mastered this avoidance task. Researchers now wondered how long it would take them to forget it. They continued the experiment as before but with the shock generator disconnected. To their amazement, the dogs continued to jump as they had when there was a risk of shock. After some 8,000 trials with nothing to report, the scientists reportedly got bored and packed it in.

Fear of physical harm is one important source of psychological problems. Fear of social rejection is less obvious but potentially just as important. A great deal of evidence suggests that corporal punishment, and scolding, make children turn out more aggressive and antisocial (3).

Interestingly, the effects of different kinds of unpleasant experiences on the brain are equivalent because they are mediated by the same stresshormones. Such effects involve alteration in brain anatomy and function (4,5). They include: intellectual stunting; delinquency, poor impulse control; lack of work motivation; and precocious sexuality (3).

It is as though a stressful childhood primes people to focus on immediate gains to themselves regardless of the consequences (3).



Implications for clinical psychology

Clinical psychologists are often called upon to help victims of extremelytraumatic experiences move on with their lives. No one ever claimed that would be easy, and now we are beginning to understand why.
Some unpleasant experiences produce permanent changes in the brain and corresponding shifts in intelligence, emotional reactivity, happiness, sociability, and other traits that used to be thought of as set for life.

These personality shifts are generally considered pathological and that is undoubtedly true of post traumatic stress disorder, which ruins the lives of sufferers and their families. Yet, we need to recognize that many of these changes were useful to our ancestors in adjusting to risky environments.










Picture, thanks to ~Remembering Loved Ones
Article: http://www.psychologytoday.com/em/113255
Sources:

1. Seligman, M.E. P. (1993). What you can change and what you can’t. New York: Fawcett Columbine.
2. Young, L. J., Murphy Young, A. Z., & Hammock, E. A. (2005). Anatomy and neurochemistry of the pair bond. Journal of Comparative Neurology, 493, 51-57.
3. Barber, N. (2009). From steroids to nation states: An integrated evolutionary approach to violent crime. Aggression and Violent Behavior, 14, 415-422.
4. Kalinichev, M., K. W. Easterling, P. M. Plotsky, and S. G. Holtzgman. (2002). Long-lasting changes in stress-induced corticosterone response and anxiety-like behaviors as a consequence of neonatal maternal separation in Long-Evans rats. Pharmacology Biochemistry and Behavior, 73, 131-140.
5. Teicher, M. H., Andersen, S. L., Polcari, A., Anderson, C. M., and Navalta, C. P. (2002). Developmental neurobiology of childhood stress and trauma. Psychiatric Clinics of North America, 25, 397-426.



Wednesday, April 10, 2013

Wednesday's Woe - Give Us This Day Our Daily Dread? ~Tommy Prince







Wednesday's Woe

Give Us This Day Our Daily Dread?

~Tommy Prince





Merry Katherine's Birthday. Easter. Our Anniversary. My Mother's Death Day… All of these events hit, terribly close together, and we all have had a particularly bad time. There has been no reprieve from one thing to the next. You think you're in the clear for awhile. You're looking for a break, and then you realize that right around the corner is Mother's Day, and then it's Father's Day.


We tend to cope by saying, 

"If I can just get through this, I'll be okay." 

Then we realize there's another tumultuous event just a few weeks away.



Instead of looking forward to celebrating a special occasion, it's looked upon now with a sense of dread… More events, more holidays we can barely tolerate. And this, on top of our already horrendous daily grief…


It's like there's no real break between these seasons, so we find ourselves living amidst an interminable sense of dread...






Tuesday, April 9, 2013

Tuesday's Trust - On Our Anniversary ~ A Sorrow Grows






Tuesday's Trust

On Our Anniversary ~ A Sorrow Grows





Yesterday was our anniversary (our 34th!). Tommy and I were talking, and sharing with one another how much we loved each other. In this context, he shared how hard it is sometimes for him to see me crying and to know, really, he cannot comfort me, not enough anyway to stop my pain. I reassured him that along with that pain though, I am feeling the sweetness of remembering my baby. And yet, I understood his feelings of helplessness; I feel it too, when he cries…

It is hard too, that our anniversary date falls just one week after Merry Katherine's birthday when our missing her so deeply is still so fresh. This morning, Tommy said to me,


"Over time, as her birthday approaches, I am realizing that despite the years,  the pain doesn't dissipate; it accumulates!  

"All these years of being without her, and yet we face even more years to come… The pain doesn't lessen over time; it increases… 
"It seems that over time, the losses just mount up. There are more and more special days that can never be special without her…."


Later in the morning, I found the following song that expresses these sentiments so well. The song, essentially for us, serves as a sweet anniversary song, sharing our hearts' deeply-felt sentiments to one another.

We want to share our love song with you.




'Til Each Tear You Cry Becomes a Rose

~Husband and Wife, Keith Whitley and Lorrie Morgan

~lyrics by Wilbur S. and Mary Sharon Rice



Darling, I can see the clouds around you
And in your heart, I know a sorrow grows
But if you weep, I'll be right here to hold you
'Til each tear you cry becomes a rose

Dearest love, I know your heart is shattered
And all my words can offer no relief
But my love will heal the pain you've suffered
And I'll be here if you should turn to me.

Darling, I can see the clouds around you
And in your heart, I know a sorrow grows,
But if you weep, I'll be right here to hold you
'Til each tear you cry becomes a rose

In deepest night when memories tend to gather
Lay with me, and put your fears to sleep
Cause there's no pain, no dream can put asunder
All the love that binds you and me.

Darling, I can see the clouds around you
And in your heart I know a sorrow grows
But if you weep I'll be right here to hold you
'Til each tear you cry becomes a rose

'Til each tear you cry becomes a rose











Pictures, thanks to YouTube
Our Love Song Amidst Grief: http://youtu.be/SKW-TcdXKvU

Sunday, April 7, 2013

Monday's Mourning Ministry - A Picture of Me Without You ~Lorrie Morgan






Monday's Mourning Ministry

A Picture of Me Without You

~Lorrie Morgan





On Facebook this week, I ran across this song from a fellow grieving mother who said,

This is kinda mournful and twangy........
but it (popped) up on my screen...
And the words are true,
Of a mother's broken heart.

~Grieving Mother, Lu Prudhomme of "Our Angels and Angel Family Friends"




A Picture of Me Without You

~Lorrie Morgan



Imagine a world where no music was playin'
then think of a church were nobody's prayin' ~
Have you ever looked up at a sky with no blue,
Then you've seen a picture of me without you.

Have you walked in a garden where nothing was growin'
Or stood by a river where nothing was flowin'?
If you've seen a red rose unkissed by the dew,
Then you've seen a picture of me without you.

Can you picture Heaven with no angels singin'
Or a quiet Sunday morning' with no church bells ringin'?
If you've watched as the heart of a child breaks in two,
Then you've seen a picture of me without you...

Can you picture Heaven with no angels singin'
Or a quiet Sunday morning' with no church bells ringin'?
If you've watched as the heart of a child breaks in two,
Then you've seen a picture of me without you...


Then you've seen a picture of me without you.


.






Picture, thanks to ~Remembering Loved Ones 
Grief Video: http://youtu.be/26PX4y6Qy9Q


Saturday, April 6, 2013

Saturday's Sayings - Holding Onto Hope… Amidst Despair







Saturday's Sayings

Holding Onto Hope… Amidst Despair











~"Grief The Unspoken" 

No matter how you want to
spin it "Letting Go" has never
set well with many 
grievers. Letting go sounds 
like a direction given. We
should replace the two short 
words to "Healing Is 
Possible." Passing along hope
is what is needed. Not
direction. There are plenty of
teachers and others out in our 
world ready to give me help
with my grief. But if a person
has no hope, it makes it
difficult for the griever to
choose healing.




~~~~~




Speaking of Hope… Then, there are the days when it seems everything, including hope, is knocked out from under you… We have just been through an "anniversary" ~ of yet another birthday… without our child… And for whatever reasons, the bottom was knocked out from under us, and we went spiraling down to a deeper level of grief from which it has been terribly hard to surface for air… O, the pain of feeling such moments of hopelessness, helplessness, and despair...

~Angie and Tommy





~Wings of Hope-Living Forward

I have found in the years that have passed
that I am most vulnerable
at times of remembrance. 
The word "anniversary"
no longer holds a promise of celebration. 
Instead, holidays and birthdays,
family gatherings and otherwise joyous occasions
contain an undertow of sorrow. 
If I get caught up in it,
I quickly get pulled under
and wind up gasping for breath. 
It is ironic that
the presence of an absence
can be so emotionally devastating.

– Bill Jenkins

~Wings of Hope - Living Forward




~~~~~






~Remembering Sleeping Babies 


Grief rarely comes packaged in tidy stages with time frames for each. While grief can begin with disbelief, move to anger, sadness and end with acceptance, these reactions can just as readily occur every day following a loss. They may be stronger in the weeks or months after the loss and diminish as time goes on, but they may also be minimal at first or suppressed and then surge up powerfully long after one thinks one "should" be grieving.

The important aspect to remember in relation to grief is that there is no timetable to it nor any "normal" manifestations. Some people cry endlessly while others merely become quiet, some make themselves extremely busy while others sink into inertness. For some, anger predominates and for others it is deep sadness. Grief is more like a rollercoaster of emotions that rise and subside over a period of months or even years than a set of fixed reactions that one passes through and is finished with.

One will experience days of calm when acceptance seems to have finally arrived followed by a time perhaps of renewed rage or weeping. Of course, significant anniversaries will likely rupture one's emotional stability again. Coming across memorabilia, photographs or passing through a place of importance to the loved and lost one can also lead to a welling of grief once more.

~Wings of Hope-Living Forward

~Thanks to Grieving Mother, Lu Prudhomme




~~~~~





~"Grief The Unspoken" 




~~~~~






~Remembering Sleeping Babies


“It doesn't interest me what you do for a living. I want to know what you ache for, and if you dare to dream of meeting your heart's longing.

It doesn't interest me how old you are. I want to know if you will risk looking like a fool for love, for your dream, for the adventure of being alive. 

It doesn't interest me what planets are squaring your moon. I want to know if you have touched the center of your own sorrow, if you have been opened by life's betrayals or have become shriveled and closed from fear of further pain!I want to know if you can sit with pain, mine or your own, without moving to hide it or fade it, or fix it. 

I want to know if you can be with joy, mine or your own, if you can dance with wildness and let the ecstasy fill you to the tips of your fingers and toes without cautioning us to be careful, to be realistic, to remember the limitations of being human. 

It doesn't interest me if the story you are telling me is true. I want to know if you can disappoint another to be true to yourself; if you can bear the accusation of betrayal and not betray your own soul; if you can be faithless and therefore trustworthy. 

I want to know if you can see beauty even when it's not pretty, every day, and if you can source your own life from its presence. 

I want to know if you can live with failure, yours and mine, and still stand on the edge of the lake and shout to the silver of the full moon, “Yes!”

It doesn't interest me to know where you live or how much money you have. I want to know if you can get up, after the night of grief and despair, weary and bruised to the bone, and do what needs to be done to feed the children. 

It doesn't interest me who you know or how you came to be here. I want to know if you will stand in the center of the fire with me and not shrink back. 

It doesn't interest me where or what or with whom you have studied. I want to know what sustains you, from the inside, when all else falls away. 

I want to know if you can be alone with yourself and if you truly like the company you keep in the empty moments.”

~Oriah Mountain Dreamer





~~~~~






~I Miss Those Close To Me Who Are Now In Heaven As Beautiful Angels



When others allow a parent or family to openly and freely talk to them about their child who has died, they are allowing that parent the blessing of remembering that child's life, validating that their child had purpose and meaning, and they are helping that parent to be a parent. Just because a child dies does not mean a parent is no longer a parent! And, as we know, every parent loves to talk about his/her child -- even if that child is no longer here on earth! It is such a blessing for others to say, "I remember your child, too! I have a story to tell you." Or, if the child loss occurred during miscarriage or other early loss, "I was so happy for you when you were pregnant. I'm praying for you and hope your heart isn't feeling so broken today." Eloquent words aren't needed, but caring words are!

~Silent Grief - Child-Loss Support

~Thanks to Grieving Mother, Kathryn Bonnett




~~~~~





~"Grief The Unspoken" 

You're Still Here - Richard Lepinsky

At the finest level of my being,
you're still with me.
We still look at each other,
at that level beyond sight.
We talk and laugh with each other,
in a place beyond words.
We still touch each other,
on a level beyond touch.
We share time together in a place,
where time stands still.
We are still together,
on a level called Love.
But I cry alone for you,
in a place called reality.




~~~~~





~Out of the Ashes 



“Faith does not eliminate questions. But faith knows where to take them.”
~Elisabeth Elliot

~Thanks to Hope for the Broken Hearted




~~~~~





~Out of the Ashes 




~~~~~





~Remembering Sleeping Babies 












1st Picture, thanks to ~"Grief The Unspoken" 

Friday, April 5, 2013

Friday's Faith - Amidst My Tears







Friday's Faith

Amidst My Tears





It's really hard today
I don't know why;
It's a beautiful day,
not a cloud in the sky.

My heart is just broken;
The sobs and tears flow ~
My tears, your Bible soaking,
I'm missing my baby so…

Such a beautiful world,
Come alive in the spring,
But where's my baby girl
Amidst all these living things?

God bless us grieving dads and mothers,
For us, there's no relief;
Our hearts are ever overflowing
In this never-ending child-loss grief.



In this Bible given to you on Easter, 2000,
you were just turning 13...
In it you wrote:

My name: Merry Katherine Prince

The people I live with: My Mom & Dad, & 2 brothers

Things I'm good at: Running!

I like to read the Bible when I'm feeling: Lost, & in seek of help

Right now I try to please God by: Doing what is right



May I take a cue from you
as I feel lost, and seeking help,
and turn to my Lord for just a clue
to survive your loss amidst Grief's deepest well.



I look in your Bible and read our Lord's words…

"Blessed are the poor in spirit, 
....for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.
Blessed are those who mourn,
.....for they will be comforted.
Blessed are the meek,
....for they will inherit the earth.
Blessed are those who hunger and thirst for righteousness
....for they will be filled.
Blessed are the merciful,
....for they will be shown mercy.
Blessed are the pure in heart, 
....for they will see God.
Blessed are the peacemakers,
....for they will be called sons of God.
Blessed are those who are persecuted because of
righteousness,
....for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.
Blessed are you when people insult you, persecute you and falsely say all kinds of evil against you because of Me.
Rejoice and be glad, because great is your reward in heaven, for in the same way they persecuted the prophets who were before you."

~Matthew 5:3-12 NIV



Our value system is upside down,
As when we cry, we think we're weak,
But God in Heaven turns this all around,
For when we're at the bottom, and lost, it is Him we seek!

He comes to us, to bless our heart,
To be with us amidst this world's worst loss;
He consecrates this sacred time in the dark,
Meeting us even as we carry Grief's cross:


The poor in spirit taste a bit of His Heaven,
We who mourn, experience His own comforting,
In our meekness, we are most blessed,
For when we hunger for Him, He gives Himself more;
When we're merciful to ourselves and others, we'll receive mercy;
In our purified hearts, we better see Him!
As we give one another peace, He calls us His own daughters and sons,
And when we feel most put down, we again taste of His Heaven!



Thank You God for meeting me...
In my most weakened state of many tears,
You clear my eyes to help me see...
It is then, my Lord, that You most draw near,
granting me my much needed peace,
lifting my eyes with a view much more clear:

My child is with You and yet draws near to me,
and along with You, she wipes every tear…

Amidst a world filled with such skewed values,
It is in our tears
That You meet us and pat us,
As it is then, You and our child can best draw near,
Filling us with Love that holds the greatest of all value!

God bless us grieving dads and mothers
Who need Your comfort above all others!
Meet us here amidst each tear,
As You and our child ever to us will draw near…











Picture, thanks to Grieving Mothers, Darlene Thomas and Jill Compton
Poem - Amidst My Tears - Angie Bennett Prince - 4/5/2013
Scripture: NIV = New International Version

Thursday, April 4, 2013

Thursday's Therapy - 20 Nutrients for a Traumatized Brain






Thursday's Therapy

20 Nutrients for a Traumatized Brain








Ignite Your Brainpower with the 20 Smartest Foods on Earth


Simply put, your brain likes to eat. And it likes powerful fuel: quality fats, antioxidants, and small, steady amounts of the best carbs.

On a deadline? Need to rally? Avoid the soda, vending machine snacks and tempting Starbucks pastries and go for these powerful brain boosters instead. The path to a bigger, better brain is loaded with Omega-3 fats, antioxidants, and fiber. Give your brain a kick start: eat the following foods on a daily or weekly basis for results you will notice.




20 foods that will supercharge your brain:


1. Avocado

Start each day with a mix of high-quality protein and beneficial fats to build the foundation for an energized day. Avocado with scrambled eggs provides both, and the monounsaturated fat helps blood circulate better, which is essential for optimal brain function – and it’s possible the avocado’s plentiful antioxidants help combat diseases like diabetes and chronically high blood pressure (its oil has been dubbed "the olive oil of the Americas"). Worst alternative: a trans-fat-filled, sugar-laden cream cheese Danish.

Green it: you don't need to buy an organic avocado – conventional is fine. But make sure your supplementary protein is free range, cage free, or organic.


2. Blueberries

These delicious berries are one of the best foods for you, period, but they’re very good for your brain as well. Since they’re high in fiber and low on the glycemic index, they are safe for diabetics and they do not spike blood sugar. Blueberries are possibly the best brain food on earth: they have been linked to reduced risk for Alzheimer’s, shown to improve both memory and learning ability (and motor skills in rats), and they are one of the most powerful anti-stress foods you can eat. Avoid: dried, sweetened blueberries.

Green it: buy local and organic, and be mindful of seasonality. When blueberries are out of season, opt for cranberries, grapes, goji berries, blackberries or cherries to get your brain boost.


3. Wild Salmon

Omega-3 fatty acids are essential for your brain. These beneficial fats are linked to improved cognition and alertness, reduced risk of degenerative mental disease (such as dementia), improved memory, improved mood, and reduced depression, anxiety, hyperactivity and cardiovascular dysfunction. Wild salmon is a premium source, but we’ll highlight a few other sources on this list for vegetarians and people who just don’t like salmon. Avoid farmed (read: sea lice infested) salmon.

Green it: the California salmon stock is threatened, so choose wild Alaskan salmon only, and eat small portions no more than twice a week.


4. Nuts

Nuts contain protein, high amounts of fiber, and they are rich in beneficial fats. For getting an immediate energy boost that won’t turn into a spike later, you can’t do better than nuts. The complex carbs will perk you up while the fat and protein will sustain you. Nuts also contain plenty of vitamin E, which is essential to cognitive function. You don’t have to eat raw, plain, unsalted nuts, but do avoid the ones with a lot of sweetening or seasoning blends. Filberts, hazelnuts, cashews, and walnuts are great choices, with almonds being the king of nuts.

For those avoiding carbs, macadamia nuts are much higher in fat than most nuts. And for those wanting to bolster the body against disease, walnuts have the highest amount of antioxidants, some of which are even more powerful than Vitamin E. By the way, peanuts just aren’t ideal. Aside from the fact that many people are allergic, peanuts have less healthy fat than many other types of nuts…maybe that’s because peanuts are not actually a nut! They’re still much better than a candy bar, however.

Green it: try to choose organic, raw nuts, and if you can’t get those, at least avoid the tins of heavily-seasoned, preservative-laden nuts that may have taken many food miles to get to your mouth.


5. Seeds

Try sunflower seeds, sesame seeds, flax seed, and tahini (a tangy, nutty sesame butter that tastes great in replacement of mayo and salad dressing). Seeds contain a lot of protein, beneficial fat, and vitamin E, as well as stress-fighting antioxidants and important brain-boosting minerals like magnesium. Sesame seeds in particular are a real Swiss Army Knife of health benefits.

Green it: Again, just look for organic and try to avoid the highly-seasoned, processed options. In general, things like fruits, vegetables, seeds and nuts are pretty low-impact, environmentally speaking, in comparison to meats and cheeses.


6. Coffee

Thine eyes do not deceive (even if you are in the midst of a sugar crash). Coffee is good for your brain. Did you know coffee actually contains fiber? That’s going to help your cardiovascular system. Coffee also exerts some noted benefit to your brain in addition to providing you with a detectable energy boost (note: it’s not as simple as boosting your brain-power, but it can make you work more effectively, depending on the work you're doing). There is also evidence that it may provide an electrical jolt to backwater parts of your brain as well as potentially strengthening synapses associated with learning and special memory. 
The trick is not to have more than a few cups. But you can safely enjoy 2-4 cups daily – we are talking about supercharging here. Just please don’t go ruining a good thing by loading it up with sugar! Espresso beans are actually a phenomenally healthy snack, by the way.

Green it: brew yourself some fair-trade organic coffee to benefit both the planet and the workers who grow your beans. Use a thermos instead of a throwaway cup.


7. Oatmeal

Nature’s scrub brush is one of the best foods for cardiovascular health, which translates to brain health. Additionally, oatmeal is packed with fiber, a reasonable amount of protein (comparable to soy), and even a small amount of Omega-3′s. It’s a good grain that will sustain you throughout the morning so you aren’t prone to irritability or an energy crash.

Green it: the healthiest oatmeal is the real, steel-cut deal. Steer clear of those little microwavable packets that are loaded with sugar. All that packaging isn’t very green.


8. Beans

One more for carb-lovers. (The brain uses about 20% of your carbohydrate intake and it likes a consistent supply). Beans are truly an amazing food that is sadly overlooked. They’re humble, but very smart. Not only are they loaded with fiber, vitamins, minerals and protein, they’re ridiculously cheap. An entire bag of beans usually costs only a few dollars and will provide many meals. Beans provide a steady, slow release of glucose to your brain – which means energy all day without the sugar crash. Don’t go eating a whole platter of frijoles, though – just 1/4 of a cup is fine.

Green it: look for heirloom beans that are raised sustainably, like those from Rancho Gordo.


9. Pomegranate

Opt for the fruit over the juice so you get more fiber. Pomegranates contain blueberry-like levels of antioxidants, which are essential for a healthy brain. Your brain is the first organ to feel the effects of stress, so anything you can do to offset stress is probably a smart choice (although note that the connection between pomegranate juice and stress reduction is currently both contested and unconfirmed).

Green it: pomegranates are seasonal and not generally local for most of us, so enjoy sparingly and rely on other berries like acai, grapes and cherries when you can’t get this fruit.



10. Brown Rice

Brown rice is a low-glycemic complex carbohydrate that is excellent for people sensitive to gluten who still want to maintain cardiovascular health. The better your circulation, the sharper your brain – and as part of a campaign to get the Philippines to switch from white to brown rice, it’s been claimed that brown rice can boost your memory. 

Green it: don’t buy the excessively-packaged “boil in a bag” rice packets. Just make up a big batch of brown rice in a rice cooker on Sunday so you have it on hand for easy lunches all week.


11. Tea

You have to brew tea fresh or you won’t get the benefits of all those catechines (antioxidants) that boost your brain. Because tea has caffeine, don’t have more than 2-3 cups daily.

Green it: buy organic, fair trade loose leaf or packets to support sustainable business practices.


12. Chocolate

Things are looking increasingly better for chocolate. It’s got brain-boosting compounds, it’s loaded with antioxidants, and it has just the right amount of caffeine – not to mention a rich history of use for medicinal purposes (PDF). Chocolate sends your serotonin through the roof, so you’ll feel happy in short order. Dark chocolate is also rich in fiber. (Remember, fiber = healthy cardiovascular system = healthy brain.)

Green it: go for super dark, fair-trade, pure organic chocolate, not the sugary, processed milk chocolate candy bars.


13. Oysters

Oysters are rich in selenium, magnesium, protein and several other nutrients vital to brain health. In one study researchers found that men who ate oysters reported significantly improved cognition and mood (particularly certain types of mood). Not all shellfish are good for you but oysters are a sure bet.

Green it: oysters are actually one of the most eco-friendly seafood options, so eat up!


14. Olive Oil
Though we know the brain does need a small, steady supply of glucose, don’t overlook fat. Studies have consistently shown that a low-fat diet is not the health boon we hoped it would be (remember the 90s low-fat craze?). In fact, avoiding fat can increase foggy thinking, mood swings, and insomnia (although glutting yourself on it can have much the same effect). A diet rich in the right amount of healthy fats is essential to clear thinking, good memory, and a balanced mood. Your brain is made of fat, after all!
One study of men found that those who relied on the processed vegetable fats found in salad dressings, snacks and prepared foods had 75% higher rates of mental degradation (dementia, memory loss) than men who ate healthy fats. Most processed foods and fast foods use corn oil, palm oil, soybean oil and other Omega-6 fats. You don’t want Omega 6 fats. Even saturated fat is safer than Omega 6′s.
Choose healthy fats such as those present in olive oil, nut butters, nuts and seeds, flax, oily fish, and avocados – in other words, aim for a more Mediterranean diet. Avoid processed fats found in pastries, chips, candy bars, snacks, junk food, fried foods and prepared foods. Eating the wrong fat can literally alter your brain’s communication pathways.

Green it: look for organic, local, or farmers’ market options when it comes to your food. You should also explore herbal remedies for mood swings and brain health. 



15. Tuna

There’s a good chance we’ve been eating tuna for a very long time – and no wonder. In addition to being another rich source of Omega-3′s, tuna, particularly yellowfin, has the highest level of vitamin B6 of any food. Studies have shown that B6 is directly linked to memory, cognition and long term brain health. Generally, the B vitamins are among the most important for balancing your mood. B6 in particular influences dopamine receptors (dopamine is one of your “feel good” hormones along with serotonin).
My personal cocktail: SAMe (nature’s happiness molecule) and a mega-dose of B-complex keeps me humming even when I’ve got a mountain of work to do. Which, like you, is all the time.

Green it: only eat tuna from sustainable fisheries, and if you’re looking for a B6 source that is vegetarian, opt for a banana, which contains a third of your day’s requirement (tuna offers nearly 60%).


16. Garlic

Garlic – the fresher the better – is one of the most potent nutritional weapons in your arsenal. Eat it as much as your significant other can stand. Not only is it fabulous for reducing bad cholesterol and strengthening your cardiovascular system, it exerts a protective antioxidant effect on the brain and can even fight bacteria more effectively than standard antibiotics.

Avoid: I know it makes life easier, but don’t even think about buying the chopped or peeled garlic. Nutritional benefits = zero.

Green it: just choose organic, and go for local if you can get it.


17. Eggs

Eggs contain protein and fat to provide energy to your brain for hours, and the selenium in organic eggs is proven to help your mood. You really needn’t worry about the overblown cholesterol fears. (I have quite a bit to say on this topic but I’ll restrain myself for once.)

Green it: choose organic, free range, vegetarian fed eggs.


18. Green Leafy Vegetables

Spinach, kale, chard, romaine, arugula, lolla rossa – whatever green you like, eat it daily. Green, leafy vegetables are high in iron (slightly less “green” iron sources include beef, pork and lamb) and manganese. Americans tend to be deficient in iron, which is too bad, because the deficiency is linked to restless leg syndrome, fatigue, poor mood, foggy thinking, and other cognition issues.

Green it: choose organic, and shop at your farmers’ market or order from a local CSA. Leave out the red meat a few days a week and rely on a big, well-seasoned green stir fry or salad.


19. Tomatoes

Go figure, but tomatoes don’t usually make the brain-boosting food lists. (Thank goodness I found the one that did so I’m not the only one.) Tomatoes contain lycopene, an antioxidant that is particularly good for your brain – it even helps prevent dementia. You have to cook tomatoes to get the lycopene – take that, raw foodies! Just kidding. But this doesmean that ketchup is good for your brain. Although because of the sugar in it, you should look to other sources for most of your lycopene intake, such as fresh tomato sauce.
And while we’re at it – ever wondered why the taste of tomatoes is so variable? Wonder no more.  

Green it: try to eat tomatoes that are local and get your lycopene in vitamin form when tomatoes aren’t in season. You’ll know when that is – the tomatoes will be pale, tasteless, and pithy.


20. Cacao nibs

That’s right, I’m putting chocolate on this list twice. My boyfriend knows I need it. I eat chocolate or cacao nibs daily and I think you might want to consider it, too. Cacao nibs are among the top five most powerful brain foods, right next to wild salmon and blueberries. My girlfriends and I like to mix cacao nibs with frozen blueberries and a generous splash of organic heavy cream while we watch really bad television on Sunday nights.


Things that drain your brain:

Alcohol, in excess, can massively inhibit the functioning of your brain, acting as a “pharmacological hand grenade”. Alcohol also interferes with dopamine production. Moderate amounts of alcohol, particularly resveratrol-rich red wine, can help improve your health, but anything beyond a glass or two of wine daily is a recipe for reduced brain function and energy loss.

Corn Syrup and Sugar lead to health problems like diabetes and obesity, and they’re terrible for your brain. Don’t eat sugar except on special occasions or as an infrequent treat. If you can’t cut back that much, try to limit yourself to just two bites of whatever tempts you daily.

Nicotine constricts blood flow to the brain, so while it may “soothe” jittery nerves, smoking will actally reduce your brain function severely – and the effects are cumulative. However (and incredibly), we may be on the verge of a vaccine against nicotine addiction - how cigarette manufacturers feel about that is certainly a matter for speculation…

A high carbohydrate lunch
will make you sleepy and sluggish. Opt for a light meal with some quality protein, such as a salad with grilled chicken breast or vegetables and hummus or wild American shrimp and avocado.












Article: http://ecosalon.com/ignite_your_brainpower_with_the_20_smartest_foods_on_earth/

Tuesday, April 2, 2013

Wednesday's Woe - Shattered Beliefs...










Wednesday's Woe

Shattered Beliefs...






…….My daughter was killed…

But He wouldn't do that to me.

…….She was killed violently.

But He wouldn't do that to her.

…….God sees all.

Did He see her then?

…….God knows all.

Did He know that was coming?

…….God is everywhere.

Was He with her that night?

…….God is love.

Does love ever kill?

…….God is a Shepherd.

Does a Shepherd watch while a lamb is killed?

…….God is a Refuge.

Could she find safety that night?

…….God is Ever-Present Help in times of trouble.

Did He help her that night?

…….God came to give life.

Did He give life that night?

…….God is our Rescue.

Did He rescue her that night?

…….God is merciful.

Did He have mercy on her that night?

…….God is all-powerful.

Did He overpower Satan that night?

…….She is His child!

My kingdom is not of this world.

…….She is with Him!

My view is much bigger than yours.

…….He saved her!

This world is not all there is.

…….God is peace.

Your little lamb, My little lamb, is at peace.

…….God is love.











Picture, thanks to ~Out of the Ashes

Monday, April 1, 2013

Monday's Mourning Ministry - There Is A Redeemer ~Keith Green







Monday's Mourning Ministry

There Is A Redeemer

~Keith Green





The following song is such a wonderful follow-up to Easter. The song There Is A Redeemer by Keith Green was written by Keith's wife Melody (now his widow and grieving mother of two of their  precious children) and Keith put the song to music. I remember singing many of Keith's songs when I was in college, and even as I was singing in our church choir of this last decade, we were still singing his songs, particularly this one. Keith and his wife Melody have a remarkable testimony as "completed Jews." Keith was tragically killed in a plane crash at the age of 28; two of their precious children were in the plane with him, and they too lost their lives.  The details of Keith and Melody's testimony and of Keith's and their children's untimely deaths follow just below the song lyrics. 

The song came to mind as I have just finished reading grieving father, Dennis Mansfield's book about his son Nate, called Beautiful Nate. It was a very good book for me to read as Dennis and his wife Susan are strong Christians (Dennis was employed by Focus for the Family for a few years), and their Nate had struggled with drugs over the years. Melody Green (then widowed from Keith) became a mentor to Nate and a friend to Dennis; she had written the forward to Beautiful Nate. (The book was excellent by the way!)

May you enjoy There Is A Redeemer ...



There Is A Redeemer

~Keith Green

Written by Melody Green, 
co-founder, Last Days Ministries 

from the album, O Lord You're Beautiful



There is a Redeemer, Jesus, God's own Son,
Precious Lamb of God, Messiah, Holy One.

Jesus My Redeemer, name above all names,
Precious Lamb of God, Messiah,
O for sinners slain.

Thank You, O my Father, for giving us Your Son,
And leaving Your Spirit till the work on earth is done.

When I stand in Glory, I will see His face
and There I will serve my King forever in that Holy Place!

Thank You, O my Father for giving us Your Son
And leaving Your Spirit till the work on earth is done.

There is a Redeemer, Jesus God's own Son,
Precious Lamb of God, Messiah, Holy One.

Thank You O my Father for giving us Your Son
And leaving Your Spirit till the work on earth is done,
And leaving Your Spirit till the work on earth is done.




~~~~~




Keith Gordon Green (October 21, 1953 -- July 28, 1982) was an American gospel singer, songwriter, musician, and Contemporary Christian Music artist originally from Sheepshead Bay, Brooklyn, New York. Green is also known for numerous popular modern hymns, including "O Lord, You're Beautiful" and "There Is A Redeemer." 

Keith had a Jewish heritage and was raised in Christian Science. He grew up reading the New Testament and called the mixture of being Jewish and learning about Jesus "an odd combination" that left him open minded but deeply unsatisfied. He began doing drugs and became interested in eastern mysticism and "free love." After experiencing what Green described as a "bad trip," he abandoned drug use and became interested in philosophy and theology. Green later stated, however, that in the midst of his skepticism, he felt that God "broke through [his] calloused heart," and he became a follower of Jesus, a Jewish believer in Jesus the Messiah. Soon afterward, Keith's wife Melody, whom he had married in 1973 and was also Jewish, also became a Jewish believer in Jesus. It was during this time that the newlyweds became involved with the Vineyard Christian Fellowship in Southern California, although they never forsook their Jewish roots or identity as Jews.

Along with eleven others, Keith Green died on July 28, 1982, when the Cessna 414 leased by Last Days Ministries crashed after takeoff from the private airstrip located on the LDM property. The small two-engine plane was carrying eleven passengers and the pilot, Don Burmeister for an aerial tour[12] of the LDM property and the surrounding area. Green and two of his children, three year old Josiah and two year old Bethany, were on board the plane, along with visiting missionaries John and Dede Smalley and their six children.

Keith's music will live for as long as Jesus tarries.


~history from YouTube site











http://youtu.be/yYhXsRLaL-0