"I don't know why it is that I've been unable to visit Merry Katherine's grave for quite some time now."
To me, my baby is still very much alive; I simply cannot see her.
"I guess it's because you know not to look for the living among the dead."
Though her body is still there in the grave, I know she is not there; her living spirit is now in Heaven. My focus therefore is on where she is, not on where she is not!