The King Who Would Be Caved
"I feel like a David in a world of Sauls," Tommy said to me this morning.
"I feel like most of the world is out to get me, and like David, the tendency is to want to go live in the wilderness!"
"Yes, and we are surrounded by a bunch of Jonathans telling us,
'Oh, no all is safe. There is really no danger awaiting you!'
"Then we step out of the house, and BLAM! We are accosted by things that set off all our alarms in our already hyper-vigilant bodies.
"So, yes, like David, the tendency is to want to go live in the wilderness and reside in a bunch of deep, dark caves!"
Our hearts, souls, minds, bodies, and spirits have already been accosted by the death of our precious child. Why don't people understand, there is no further margin for our systems to add additional assaults?! So naturally, we are self-protective. Some stress will always be there to contend with, but why invite unnecessary stress? We are the ones who have to determine what is safe and what is not safe, and even then, there will be unforeseen surprises...
Most people do not understand, we are not just contending with GRIEF, which is hard enough, mind you, as we are dealing with the world's worst kind of Grief, which is Child-Loss Grief... But we are also contending with systems assaulted by the TRAUMA of losing our child which throws us into an extremely sensitive state that is very, very capable of being re-traumatized by secondary losses or even threats of loss, as well as any secondary injuries even of people's carelessness, or of their thoughtless statements piled onto our original injuries...
So David got away and escaped to the Cave of Adullam.
~1 Samuel 21:1a The Message
David continued to live in desert hideouts and the backcountry wilderness hills of Ziph... David kept out of the way (of Saul) in the wilderness of Ziph, secluded at Horesh...
~from 1 Samuel 23:14-15, The Message
Some Ziphites went to Saul at Gibeah and said, "Did you know that David is hiding out near us in the caves and canyons of Horesh?"
~from 1 Samuel 23:19, The Message
Meanwhile, David and his men were in the wilderness of Maon, in the desert south of Jeshimon. Saul and his men arrived and began their search. When David heard of it, he went south to Rock Mountain, camping out in the wilderness of Maon. Saul heard where he was and set off for the wilderness of Maon in pursuit. Saul was on one side of the mountain, David and his men on the other. David was in full retreat, running, with Saul and his men closing in, about to get him. Just then a messenger came to Saul and said, "Hurry! Come back! The Philistines have just attacked the country!"
So Saul called off his pursuit of David and went back to deal with the Philistines. That's how that place got the name Narrow Escape. David left there and camped out in the caves and canyons of En Gedi.
~from 1 Samuel 23:24-29, The Message
...Then Saul went home and David and his men went up to their wilderness refuge.
~from 1 Samuel 24:22, The Message