Upcoming Child-Loss Grief Book
Beautiful Nate~by Grieving Father, Dennis Mansfield
Review by Chad Estes
Pain in both of our lives has made us different and better men.
In a conversation today he told me,
“Though I was the birth father of Nate, Nate was the birth father of the reborn Dennis.”
- I was in Dennis’ home within hours of him and Susan hearing that their 27-year-old son was dead.
- I was at the viewing where family and friends gathered to weep over their loss.
- I met with Dennis before the funeral, just to let him spill his heart and cry with him.
- I was at the funeral with my entire family lending whatever support we could.
- I was at the graveside service, holding Dennis’ grandson, who was too wiggly to stay in his mother’s arms. I walked and cuddled with Cole, as his uncle, whom he never met, was placed in the ground.
“I don’t know how you will ever get over Nate’s loss.”
Both times we cried together.
Our children aren’t born with a printed guarantee or a warranty plan.
Nate made some hard choices in this life – with the friends he choose to hang out with and the drugs he choose to take. These decisions landed him in a county jail and later a prison in Missouri.
“Gentlemen, what if we’ve been wrong…”
The question lingers and no one easily addresses it because there are no simple answers to that devastating inquiry. We want to be right. We strive to know. It is a huge part of our identity and it is the measuring stick that we use to draw lines in the sand about who is on whose side.
Being right can be its own addictive, crippling drug.
Thank you to my Twitter friend Chad Estes for this wonderful review of the upcoming book by my Facebook friend who is the grieving father and author, Dennis Mansfield.