Saturday's Sayings
Finding Hope Along the Journey
~The Grief Toolbox
"In this sad world of ours, sorrow
comes to all…it comes with bitterest agony…Perfect relief is not possible
except with time. You cannot realize that you will ever feel better…and yet
this is a mistake. You are sure to be happy again. To know this, which is
certainly true, will make you some less miserable now. I have experienced
enough to know what I say."
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George H. W. Bush’s daughter
Robin died of leukemia at the age of 3 or 4 in 1953.
Quote by Barbara Bush about her
daughter Robin:
"So I am glad, not that my
loved one has gone, but that the earth she laughed and lived on was my earth too.
That I had known and loved her, and that my love I'd shown. Tears over her
departure yes but also a smile that I walked with her a little while."
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Tools for finding hope along the journey: Honor the hole of grief
When someone dies we are left with a hole. It can seem dark and empty and something that we try to fill. It may seem a strange or impossible thought, but we can learn to honor the hole that is left, knowing that it represents and reminds us of the love that we have given and received.
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Tools for finding hope along the journey: Trust
There is a certain innocence that is taken away when someone we love dies. We not only come to understand the fragility of life, we also find out how difficult it is to find support and understanding even among our family and friends. Life is unpredictable and we are no longer able to trust that things will continue as planned, to do so is like putting a building on shifting sand. What is solid and able to be trusted is the knowledge that each and every one of us can survive and flourish no matter what comes our way.
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Grief is crazy making not clinically but our emotions are so all over and that is difficult for others to understand. It is important to interact with others who are on this journey. That gives us strength to face the ones who say the wrong things.
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Tools for finding hope along the journey: Perspective
Shortly after the death of my 4 year old son someone asked me,
“Given all the pain you are feeling do you think it would have been better not knowing him?”
I answered immediately,
“I would suffer a hundred times this pain for the privilege of having known him.”
How could anyone imply that it would have been better for me if I had never known my son? Thinking about it I realized that if he had never been a part of my life I would be spared the pain but also denied the joy. I wouldn’t be who I am today if I had not known him. I would choose knowing him, even knowing all the pain of his death.
Pictures, Quotes, and Content thanks to grieving mother, Tanya Lord's "The Grief Toolbox"
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