Thursday's Therapy - Relearning Life ~Tommy and Angie Prince

Thursday's Therapy

Relearning Life 

~Tommy and Angie Prince

A psychiatrist friend of mine, when he heard my child had died, looked me in the eyes, and said, "Learn something new!" I knew he was referring to the new research out that our brains have been traumatized due to the severe stress and trauma that Child-Loss puts parents through. (I just learned recently that my psychiatrist-friend's own wife had endured the loss of a child, so I assume his information had been well-researched by him.) 

So, what is it that we Child-Loss grievers could learn "new" at this particular time in our lives?

Last night we referred to a Child-Loss father having said that his daughter died instantly, but that the Child-Loss father himself believes he is dying a slow death. Perhaps our choice is either to die a slow death, or to "relearn life" as we are discovering that our lives as-we-once-knew-them no longer serve us well. 

Our lives have been compromised… emotionally, physically, spiritually, mentally, psychologically, relationally, and in many other ways we are sure. So perhaps "Relearning Life" is the biggest task at hand for us Child-Loss grievers. 

We cannot bring our deceased children back, or that would make up our largest effort, but since it seems we are here to stay a while longer on this earth without our precious deceased child, then learning how to do so in a way that serves us and our grief well may be the best way for us to "learn something new." Perhaps that is why we started this blog, for we knew early on, that this kind of loss was all-consuming and would require almost a whole new science to discover "how then we must live" because, as we all know, there is no "playbook" to follow; we must each create our own.

Graphic, thanks to ~Grieving Mothers