Wednesday, September 22, 2010

Thursday's Therapy - 45 Major Reactions Spiritually After Your Child's Traumatic Death ~Tommy and Angie Prince

Thursday's Therapy

45 Major Reactions


After Your Child's Traumatic Death

~Tommy and Angie Prince

45 Major Reactions Spiritually After Your Child's Traumatic Death

  • Feel abandoned by God or Feeling a much more intense intimacy with God
  • Fear God was neglectful~He didn't stop what He could have
  • Fear God took your child
  • Feel betrayed by God
  • Disillusionment with God
  • Alienated from God
  • When most need comfort, fear trusting the Comforter
  • Shattered "Assumptive Beliefs"
  • Feel confused by your mistaken "Assumptive Beliefs" about God or how things work spiritually
  • Needing to reassess the accuracy of your current "Assumptive Beliefs"
  • Spiritual foundation crumbles or is shaken at a time it is needed to be intact and secure
  • Confused spiritually
  • Fear of God
  • Feel angry at God
  • Feel scriptural "promises" for "safety for your child" were violated
  • Question the true character of God (If God is truly omniscient {all-knowing}, omnipresent {present everywhere at any time}, omnipotent {all-powerful}, how could He allow a child to be killed?)
  • Too traumatized to pray (e.g., If you prayed for safety and your child was killed, you think, "How could I ever pray again?")
  • Attempting to make sense of God's actions (e.g., "Where were You God?" thinking if He saw what was happening, He surely would have stopped it, and if not, why?)
  • Spiritual foundation feels shattered (Questioning if you can trust God, questioning your former notions of God promising protection for you and your children, etc.)
  • Avoiding God, or Intense Need for God (e.g., I tell people I need God "intravenously" now~I cannot handle jokes or trite stories or talks of nationalism in a church service; I need "straight-God" to survive what I am going through.)
  • Questioning why bad things happen to good people
  • Disillusionment with God
  • Wondering, if God is a good God, how could He allow such evil as a child's death to occur.
  • Fearing that sins or shortcomings of your own could be used by God against you to take your child
  • Needing extreme amounts of alone-time with God for survival of Grief
  • Either increased desire for formal group worship, or withdrawal from formal group worship
  • Clinging to rituals to cope with grief
  • Agonizing before God with any feelings of culpability you may have had in or around the time of your child's death
  • Negotiating with God
  • Wondering about a deceased person's continued interactive presence in the world
  • Wondering about meanings of your child's demise, death, current happenings that seem to be "messages" from one's child
  • Wondering about the possibilities of one's deceased child still being a part of your current world in some way
  • Searching for meaning regarding your child's death
  • Reassessing your personal sense of meaningfulness and purpose in the world
  • Reassessing meaning in terms of who you are now, and what is now important to accomplish while you remain in the world.
  • Current loss resurrects old, unresolved issues you had with God or your faith
  • Wondering where your child is now
  • Need for developing a transcendent narrative that gives meaning to your child's death and the events and circumstances around that death
  • New clarity spiritually in recognizing what is really important this side of Heaven
  • Deeper feelings of intimacy toward God and/or empathy for others
  • Numbness to God around the loss of your child
  • Paranormal experiences pertaining to your child (such as hearing or seeing your child, having a sense of your child's presence, etc.)
  • Protesting with God
  • Negative reactions to spiritual platitudes about your child's death
  • Ambivalence toward God since the death of your child

Spiritual aspects regarding your child's death will be continued.


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