Love Conquers All
Perhaps Love is more important than life. We are taught by the addiction specialists,
"Don't enable your child."
And while that may be important at some level, perhaps love is more important even than life. Love conquers all. Our child's heart and soul lasts forever. Life comes and goes and is replaced by new Life when our child is connected to the One who is Love.
Perhaps I deified "life" too much. Perhaps I turned my child's "life" into an idol to protect it more than protecting her heart with my love.
I fought my love for her, fearing it would hurt her life! (I could be manipulated by her "addictive" ploys, and it might cost her her "life," I told myself.)
So I implemented "tough love" to save her "life." But her heart was hurt, and her soul was put at risk. Fortunately, God's love is bigger than ours, and He went out to the farthest corners to "go after the lost sheep until He found it.*" (And in doing so, He was true both to His own heart AND was answering our desperate prayers cried out in love for our child.)
So when she lost her "LIFE" which I was valuing above all, I felt like a complete failure at some level (and still fight this). (At other levels, I understood I am not God and I cannot prevent catastrophes from happening, but still, my attempts at love and discipline did not save her "life.")
God got my attention enough to help me share our deep love with her two nights before she was killed. She and I hugged so tightly before she left.
Love conquers all...
It wasn't enough to save her "life" but it was enough to save her "love" and her "soul." (She came by the house on the day she was ultimately killed and recorded a c.d. full of songs that indicated her heart was turning back to God.)
And God, who is so much bigger and stronger than I, saved her "love," her "soul," and her eternal "Life."
She is with Him; she is safe; she is alive; her soul is safe, and
she is in the arms of Love forever.
Love conquers all.