Wednesday, January 23, 2013
Which Is More Cruel?
It's come a time when we need to change out her bedroom…
Which is more cruel?
To leave her belongings out to ever remind you she's not here and each of those items could trigger you, or
To go through her things one by one, touching every item with its reminders of her: how she used them, read them, or wore them, etc. while she was here…with you…when life was normal?
Even if Plan B is the better option, good luck getting it done, and staying in one piece to do it.
Risk ~ if you leave belongings in place and you pass by them, you may or may not get triggered. But boxing her things up, having to touch all of her things guarantees you will get triggered…
Wiping tears and blowing your nose every few minutes slows you down, but you bear with that to get through.
The thing that got me was the high school graduation class tee-shirt with everybody's names on the back, and there was her name along with everybody else's …who are… all... still here…