The victims of trauma, she writes in a remarkable blog post for Sojourners, experience days “when you feel like a quivering, cowardly shell of yourself, when despair yawns as a terrible chasm, when fear paralyzes any chance for pleasure. This is just a fight that has to be won, over and over and over again.”
Most people need presence.
Neither age, experience nor personal belief correlated with sensitivity and love.
“From the inside,” Catherine writes, comparisons “sting as clueless, careless, or just plain false.”
The non-verbal expressions of love are as healing as eloquence.
“A major disruption leaves a new normal in its wake. There is no ‘back to the old me.’ ”
Firefighters drop everything and arrive at the moment of crisis.
Builders are there for years and years, walking alongside as the victims live out in the world.
Don’t say it’s all for the best or try to make sense out of what has happened.
these tragedies have stripped away their tolerance for pretense and unrooted optimism.
Ashley also warned against those who would overinterpret, and try to make sense of the inexplicable.
Even devout Christians, as the Woodiwisses are, should worry about taking theology beyond its limits. Theology is a grounding in ultimate hope, not a formula book to explain away each individual event.
We have a tendency, especially in an achievement-oriented culture, to want to solve problems and repair brokenness — to propose, plan, fix, interpret, explain and solve.
But what seems to be needed here is the art of presence
Grant the sufferers the dignity of their own process. Let them define meaning.
They wept together with Afghan villagers and felt touched by grace.
“This thing called presence and love is more available than I had thought."
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