I explained to my client that the culprit lies in the "primitive part" of the brain which consists of the Amygdala and the Hypothalamus-Pitutitary-Adrenal or HPA system. Once the Amygdala receives the bodily sensations that trigger "Danger!," it sends out the pertinent "Fight-Flight-Freeze-or-Dissociate" message to the Hypothalamus, Pituitary and Adrenal glands. Unfortunately, the Amygdala can continue to send "Danger!" messages even when the very real danger has passed, leaving traumatized minds, bodies, hearts, and souls whose trauma continues to signal current "Danger!" repeatedly...
"Fish (1986) found that the grief of mothers was more intense after 2 years than it was in the beginning, and it did not taper off until after 5 years.... Likewise, in a study of 54 parents following the death of their child..., Rando (1983) found that grief actually intensified in the third year."
What Forever Means After the Death of a Child (page 82)
by Grieving Mother, Kay Talbot, Ph.D.
Meditation, Exercise, Spiritual Practices you enjoy such as reading your Bible (or Bible graphics on Facebook or Pinterest if your mind is having a difficult time focusing!), Prayer, Making Time for our minds, bodies, hearts, souls, spirits to Re-work the Grief and Trauma, help not only to soothe, but also to essentially re-weave that fragile foundation of our lives that gives us the eternal "meaning" that reminds us we will be with our child again, and thus helps us to endure the daily battles a little better.