Saturday's Sayings - Progress in the Healing Journey… - Part Three

Saturday's Sayings

Progress in the Healing Journey…

Part Three

"There is no despair so absolute as that which comes with the first moments of our first great sorrow, when we have not yet known what it is to have suffered and be healed, to have despaired and have recovered hope."

~George Eliot

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We never really "heal" from Child-Loss Grief and Trauma, but we're always in recovery. We can be in a process of healing, but healing will not completely happen this side of Heaven.

Amidst our Child-Loss Grief and Trauma, when you think about it, we have been assaulted emotionally, physically, and spiritually! We never really "heal" from Child-Loss Grief and Trauma, but we're always in recovery. We can be in a process of healing, but healing will not completely happen this side of Heaven.

~Angie and Tommy

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"The case of a parent losing a child is very special because the most deep-seated protective and nurturant emotions are brutalized. Because this “injury” is so severe to such primitive emotional processes, the grieving parent is likely to feel and express the pain associated with it for the rest of his or her life."

~Dr Joanne Cacciatore

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~Death of a Loved One

Although it is human nature for us to ask, "Why?" as Dr. Teddy (Edward) Rynearson teaches us, we learn not to stay in the land of the morbid, asking God and/or ourselves over and over and over, "Why?" as this question really cannot be completely answered in this earthly lifetime. 

~Angie and Tommy

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In Dr. Rynearson's words (from his book, "Violent Death: Restorative Retelling":

(We need to) disengage from this impoverishment of questioning and retelling:

 How could this have happened?

 How could I have kept this from happening?


 How can I find retribution for this dying?


 How can I prevent this from happening again?

~Dr. Edward K. Rynearson

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~Sweet to the Soul

"Come away with me by yourself to a quiet place and get some rest." 

~Mark 8:31

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Quietude, which some men cannot abide because it reveals their inward poverty, is a palace of cedar to the wise, for along its hallowed courts the King in His beauty deigns to walk. 

~Charles Spurgeon

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In the attitude of silence the soul finds the path in a clearer light, and what is elusive and deceptive resolves itself into crystal clearness.

~Author of "Sweet to the Soul"

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~Sweet to the Soul

"My flesh and my heart may fail, but God is the strength of my heart and my portion forever." 

~Psalm 73:26

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Being strong doesn't mean you have to feel strong inside. In fact, being strong means admitting when you don't feel it. God is our strength and He can walk us through any memory, any raw emotion, any deep scar. They are not to be feared, because He has them in His hands. 

~ Christi Armstrong

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Sometimes people don't want to hear the truth because they don't want their illusions destroyed.

~Picture, thanks to Grieving Mother, Dani

We begin to recognize why some people shy away from us… and then we begin to understand why they will never really hear us nor certainly understand us… 

Reality is too stressful for their delusions and illusions to remain intact; keeping their delusions and illusions alive, such as their being in control of their own lives, or of the world being a predictable, manageable, and safe place for them and their loved ones, becomes all important for them.

~Angie and Tommy

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~Journey of the Survivor (From Grief to Survival)

We learn to turn to other grievers to understand us, for how can Civilians truly understand the Child-Loss Grief and Trauma War in which we find ourselves trying to cope. Trying to help them understand seems a futile effort, so we find our efforts are better spent with those who already "get it" in regards to the vastness of the dimensions of such Grief and Trauma.

~Angie and Tommy

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"Who better to softly bind up the wound of one, than he who has suffered the same wound himself?"

~Thomas Jefferson

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And so we do… learn to tell our stories… For only we can do them justice!

~Angie and Tommy Prince

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Whatever is unnamed, undepicted in images, whatever is omitted from biography, censored in collections of letters, whatever is misnamed as something else, made difficult-to-come-by, whatever is buried in the memory by the collapse of meaning under an inadequate or lying language - - this will become, not merely unspoken, but unspeakable. 

~Adrienne Rich

Picture, Broken: Thanks to ~Death of a Loved one