Tuesday, February 19, 2013
Think twice before telling
someone to be strong,
because usually a strong
person is the one who
and will grieve
We "Are Weak, but He Is Strong"
Strength takes on a new meaning for the Child-Loss Griever. We find that our severe weakness comes to exemplify the depth of love we have for our child, and so, over time, such weakness no longer alarms us, but gratifies us in that it represents the sacred love in our heart we have for our precious child.
And as Christ told us, we will find that as we are "weak," depleted of our own human strength, indeed, with His help, we become "strong" as He ever works more mightily in us when we must lean on Him. It seems we also grow stronger amidst our devastating grief because we come to know what our lives are all about as we look closely at our broken heart, and that is, our lives have been all about pouring out our hearts of love for our child.
Unfortunately, those around us continue to bemoan our "weakness," and wish we would just get on with "life as usual." What they don't seem to understand is that our hearts are being forced to grow deeper and wider as we are stretched to the nth degree by the loss of our child, and in so doing, our lives become all the more enriched and nourished amidst the depths of such love.
It is a new kind of strength that is hard to explain; it is similar to the Scripture when it describes, the old man is gone; the new has come:
We are weaker in regard to what the world considers important, but we are much stronger in regard to what is really important.
Like a butterfly coming out of the dark cocoon, the old is gone, but the new that appears is full of life and light and beauty as we recognize what is really important in this life.
So from now on we regard no one from a worldly point of view. Though we once regarded Christ in this way, we do so no longer. Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; the old has gone, the new has come!
~2 Corinthians 5:16-17 (NIV)
So too, amidst our child's death as the shackles fall from our eyes, we are somehow pleased to see that the "old" is gone… with its ways of getting caught up in what this world thinks is important, and the "new" has come. Our hearts now are fully invested in love, for our child, for our own broken hearts, and for all the other grieving mothers and daddies who are grieving around us. So we sense a new strength while those around us may still see only our depleted weakness, but we must remember…
as Scripture says,
"these words are there (in God's Word for us) so that you can answer those who take pride in what is seen rather than in what is in the heart."
~2 Corinthians 5:12b (NIV)
Picture, thanks to ~Death of a Loved One
Scriptures, from The New International Version of The Holy Bible