That Lurking Pain…
In Child-Loss Grief, the emotional pain is always just below the surface, and you cannot always be sure when it will pop through the surface. And you cannot be sure exactly what shape such grief will take, and whether it will take on a life of its own that may very well disrupt what you are doing in the here-and-now.
There are many types of Self-Care Preventive measures to take to ensure your resilience is building such that the deep pain of your grief is not quite as likely to break through at an undesirable time:
- Staying away from toxic people
- Getting enough exercise
- Emotional support from people who understand our grief
- Eating right
- Getting enough sleep
- Providing time for your grief to surface and be processed
But even with all manner of self-care preventive measures in place and acted upon, it cannot always ensure that the pain of the child-loss grief still might not break through the surface at some of the worst possible times.
Even time doesn't necessarily take care of this resurgence of erupting pain as we have observed parents breaking down upon talking about their children at The Compassionate Friends groups even though it had been 15, 20, or 25 years or more after having lost their child...