Saturday's Sayings - Please Remember with Me...

Saturday's Sayings

Please Remember with Me...

9th – 15th Oct Wave Of Light

This week it is very special,

It is national baby loss week,

Where the nation remembers all babies,

To small to survive or born asleep,

To remember the precious babies,

Stolen too soon by SIDS or disease,

Let us say their names out loud,

Let us remember them all with ease,

From 9th to the 15th all we ever,

Really want to ask of you,

Is to remember these precious children,

For just a day or two,

Special events are being held,

In our cities and our towns,

To remember all these babies,

Who are sadly no longer around,

We are letting off 17 balloons,

Why 17? I hear you say,

Because 17 babies in the UK alone,

Yes 17! Die every single day,

Our final request, it’s not too big,

To create a wave of light,

Please on Oct 15th at 7pm,

Light a candle for us to unite,

Let a wave of light shine out bright,

For each and every Angel we know,

Let the nation unite in a wave of love,

Let their precious memories glow.

Christine Bevington

~via Grieving Mothers

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You will soon forget with whom you laughed. 

 You will never forget with whom you wept. 

 -Khalil Gibran 

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~picture, via Grieving Mother Jill Compton

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Please See Me Through My Tears

You asked, "How are you doing?" 

As I told you, tears came to my eyes...and you 

looked away and quickly began to talk again. 

All the attention you had given me had drained away. 

"How am I doing?" I do better when people listen, 

though I may shed a tear or two. 

This pain is indescribable. 

If you've never known it, you 

cannot fully understand. 

Yet I need you. 

When you look away, 

I am again alone with it. 

Your attention means more than you can ever know. 

Really, tears are not a bad sign, you know! 

They're nature's way of helping me to heal. 

They relieve some of the stress of sadness 

....but you are wrong. 

The memory of my loved one's death will always be with me, 

Only a thought away. 

My tears make my pain more visible to you, but you did not 

give me the pain...it was already there. 

When I cry, could it be that you feel helpless, 

Not knowing what to do? 

You are not helpless, 

And you don't need to do a thing but be there. 

When I feel your permission to allow my tears to flow, 

you've helped me 

You need not speak. Your silence as I cry is all I need. 

Be patient...do not fear. 

Listening with your heart to "how I am doing" relieves the pain 

for when the tears can freely come and go, I feel lighter. 

Talking to you releases what I've wanted to say aloud, 

clearing space 

for a touch of joy in my life. 

I'll cry for a minute or two... and then I'll wipe my eyes 

and sometimes you'll even find I'm laughing later. 

When I hold back the tears, my throat grows tight, 

my chest aches, my stomach knots... 

because I'm trying to protect YOU from my tears. 

Then we both hurt ME, because my pain is held inside, 

a shield against our closeness and YOU, 

because suddenly we are distant. 

So please, take my hand and see me through my tears... 

then we can be close again. 

~Author Unknown

~Via Wings of Hope-Living Forward

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When you lose a child,

your life doesn't just change.

You're shattered on the inside.

blown to pieces. your heart broken.

It takes a long time for those

pieces to come back together again.

I'm not looking for your pity.

it's better for me to talk

than to keep everything all inside.

I don't want you to think I'm selfish,

but can't you see how much I'm hurting?

Sometimes I take out my baby's things,

smell them. caress them. hug and kiss them.

and rock them until the tears stop falling.

Please don't turn a blind eye to me.

If you think it's too painful for you,

multiply that by infinity and you might

have a vague idea of how much pain I am in.

I did not ask for this to happen.

I do ask for your love and support.

If you can't think of anything to say.

then just listen to me,

let me borrow your shoulder.

Surely you are stronger than I am,

and you can help me by simply being there.

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What Grieving People Want You to Know

• I am not strong---I'm just numb. When you tell me I am strong, I feel that you don't see me.
• I will not recover---this is not a cold or the flu. I'm grieving and that's different. I will not always be grieving as intensely, but I will never forget my baby, and rather than recover I want to incorporate their life and love into the rest of my life. 
• That baby is a part of me and always will be, and sometimes I will remember them with joy and other times with sadness. Both are OK.
• I don't have to accept death---yes I understand that it has happened and it is real, but there are some things in life that are unacceptable.
• Please don't avoid me, you can't catch my grief. My world is painful and when you are afraid to call or visit or say anything, I am isolated at a time when I need most to be cared about.
• If you don't know what to say, just touch my arm, or give me a hug and just say I'm sorry.
• Please don't say to call if I need anything, I'll never call because I have no idea of what I need. 
• Please send me a card on special holidays, birthdays or the anniversary of the death.
• Please say their name. You can't make me cry, the tears are always there. It gives me the opportunity to shed some tears because someone cared enough to reach out to me.
• Ask me more than once to join you in going out. I may say no at first, or even for a while, but please don't give up on me, because somewhere down the line I will be ready and if you have given up then I will really be alone.

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Your Grieving is among

the most sacred and the

most human things

you will ever do.

It will plummet you

into the mystery of

life. . .

and death. . .

and resurrection.

Honor it.

~by Karen Kataflasz

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Bedtime Kisses

As I prepare to close my weary eyes,

My thoughts return to you,

Are you snuggled on your cloud tonight?

Ar you all sleepy too?

I'll send you floaty bedtime kisses,

Just as you drift off to sleep,

Remember Mummy loves you darling,

Your memory I always keep.

My Angel you rest easy,

Til the morning it does come,

I'll see you in my dreams tonight,

My precious little one.

~Christine Bevington 20011

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Your death shaped me,

but it is YOUR LIFE that changed me for the better,

It is for that simple reason

your death will NEVER overshadow your life.

~Mary Thompson

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I will always miss you... 

you are forever in my heart  

No amount of time... 

will ever keep us apart 

I know you are beside me... 

and you are never far 

I dream of the day you welcome me... 

with your arms open wide 

My Love... 

My Shining Star 

~Necole Stephens