Showing posts with label A Mother's Lament. Show all posts
Showing posts with label A Mother's Lament. Show all posts

Sunday, May 8, 2016

A Mother's Day Lament ~ A Song and a Poem for You: Sometimes I Feel Like a Child-Loss Mom ~Bessie Griffin / "Holy Darkness" ~Dan Schutte







"No one understands my pain like Jesus, 
who suffered as one of us and came back 
{via His Holy Spirit into our hearts} 
to comfort us in our sorrows." 




Sunday's Sorrow

A Mother's Day Lament 
A Song and a Poem for You:

Sometimes I Feel Like a Child-Loss Mom 
~Bessie Griffin 

"Holy Darkness" 
~Dan Schutte













"Sometimes I Feel Like a Child-Loss Mom" 
edited version of "Sometimes I Feel Like a Motherless Child"

~Bessie Griffin 

(with lyrics edited for child-loss parents)




Sometimes I feel like a child-loss mom 
Sometimes I feel like a child-loss mom 
Sometimes I feel like a child-loss mom 
A long ways from home
A long ways from home



Sometimes I feel like I'm almost gone
Sometimes I feel like I'm almost gone
Sometimes I feel like I'm almost gone
Way up in the heavenly land,
Way up in the heavenly land.
True believer
Way up in the heavenly land,
Way up in the heavenly land.




~~~~~





Silently, one by one, in the infinite meadows of Heaven
Blossomed the lovely stars, the forget-me-nots of the angels…

~Henry Wadsworth Longfellow

~

"Starry Sky over the river Rohne" 

~painting by Vincent van Gogh



~~~~~


Yesterday, a precious fellow-grieving-mother/fellow-psychotherapist loaned me one of her favorite grief books, on the road to emmaus: A TRAVEL GUIDE THROUGH GRIEF (2008) (134 pages) written by Myrlene Hamilton Hess. I read the following entry today and had a really good cry, so I thought you fellow-grieving-mothers might "enjoy" the poignancy of this poem as well on this, your special day ~ Mother's Day. Warning: it did draw many tears from me today….


Excerpt from on the road to emmaus, page 50:


It's often true that a poem or a song or a picture communicates truth and emotion far better and quicker than many words in a narrative. The following song by Dan Schutte is one that communicates great meaning to me, and I hope it will to you as well. Think of it as God speaking to you into the dark night of your soul. Don't just read it; drink it in, and let it seep into your heart as you read it and ponder its meaning for you.




"Holy Darkness" 

~Dan Schutte





Refrain
Holy darkness, blessed night,
(H)eaven's answer hidden from our sight.
As we await you, O God of silence,
we embrace (Y)our holy night.

1.
I have tried you in fires of affliction
I have taught your soul to grieve.
In the barren soil of your loneliness,
there I will plant (M)y seed.

Refrain
Holy darkness, blessed night,
(H)eaven's answer hidden from our sight.
As we await you, O God of silence,
we embrace (Y)our holy night.

2.
I have taught you the price of compassion;
you have stood before the grave.
Though (M)y love can seem
like a raging storm,
this is the love that saves.

Refrain
Holy darkness, blessed night,
(H)eaven's answer hidden from our sight.
As we await you, O God of silence,
we embrace (Y)our holy night.

3.
Were you there 
when I raised up the mountains?
Can you guide the morning star?
Does the heart take flight
when you give command?
Why do you doubt (M)y pow'r?

Refrain
Holy darkness, blessed night,
(H)eaven's answer hidden from our sight.
As we await you, O God of silence,
we embrace (Y)our holy night.

4. 
In your deepest hour of darkness
I will give you wealth untold,
When the silence stills your spirit,
will (M)y riches fill your soul.

Refrain
Holy darkness, blessed night,
(H)eaven's answer hidden from our sight.
As we await you, O God of silence,
we embrace (Y)our holy night.

5.
As the watchman waits for morning,
and the bride awaits her groom,
so we wait to hear (Y)our footsteps
as we rest beneath (Y)our moon.

Refrain
Holy darkness, blessed night,
(H)eaven's answer hidden from our sight.
As we await you, O God of silence,
we embrace (Y)our holy night.



~~~





May you have a very Blessed Mother's Day!











The painting of Jesus comforting a mother is thanks to

"M" Words and the Christian Woman (on Facebook)

Lament Song: "Sometimes I Feel Like a Child-Loss Mom"
edited version of "Sometimes I Feel Like a Motherless Child"
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2NDwW8onaoA

Lament Painting: 

"Starry Sky over the river Rohne" painting by Vincent Van Gogh
https://www.facebook.com/farsideoftherainbow/photos/a.265765910132193.59124.259827837392667/993523370689773/?type=3&theater

Lament Sentiment by Longfellow:

"Silently, one by one, in the infinite meadows of heaven 
Blossomed the lovely stars, the forget-me-nots of the angels" 
~ Henry Wadsworth Longfellow

Lament Poem: 
"Holy Darkness" 
~Dan Schutte
(Daniel L. Schutte, Holy Darkness (Portland, OR: Oregon Catholic Press, 1988, 1989).
found in the book, on the road to emmaus: TRAVEL GUIDE THROUGH GRIEF, page 50




Tuesday, June 21, 2011

Wednesday's Woe - ~Death Changes Everything~ - Poem by TeriAnn Sargent






Wednesday's Woe


~Death Changes Everything~


Poem by TeriAnn Sargent





So many lonely nights just struggling to survive


death takes you to places you've never been...


It destroys all your plans and dreams


it takes away your reason for seeking joy


your reason for believing in the future




Years may roll by...


but never a time will come


for your heart to heal and move on...


Death chains what is left of your heart


to that one single moment in time


...and it never lets go




Death steals away a love


you just can't live without


leaves an empty parody


of what you used to be...


Your body lives in the physical realm


but your heart and soul are lost


to another time and place




It's not about the love you still have


for that is cherished as it always was...


It's about the life that is gone


the part of yourself


you have to exist without




when death steals your child it also steals...


a brother or sister


an uncle or aunty


a nephew or niece


a grandson or granddaughter


a cousin


a Godfather or Godmother


a friend


a colleague


a son or daughter-in-law


your future grandchildren




Death steals whole futures


and leaves you with only the past




Pictures and objects


and love in your heart...


Memories to treasure


from which you'll never part




All these...


for long lonely years


you have to make last




~TeriAnn Sargent ©2011

(Grieving mother of Jarred Sargent)






Thank you to TeriAnn Sargent, a fellow grieving mother, for her gracious permission to share her poignant grief poem with you.










Picture, thanks to am digital art
Poem, ~Death Changes Everything~ thanks to TeriAnn Sargent, grieving mother

Sunday, June 12, 2011

Monday's Mourning Ministry - I See Her... / Missing You ~Billy Ray Cyrus









Monday's Mourning Ministry


Missing You

~Billy Ray Cyrus

~

I See Her...




In the star, I see her twinkling at me,
In the rock, I see her stability.
In th’ white dove, I see her gentle ways,
In the river, I see her refreshing gaze.
In the rose, I see her bright, sweet smile,
In the lotus, I see her bright, fresh style.
In bread, I see her enlivening mood,
In the moon, I see her darkening brood.
In roots, I see her grounding influence,
In the owl, I see her sharp discernments.
In the breath, I feel her quickened presence,
In God’s beauty, I sense her sweet essence.


In Your creation, I am reminded
I’d still see her, ev’n if I were blinded!





*****





Missing You

~Billy Ray Cyrus


~

A Mother's Lament for a Son:
Video by TeriAnn Sargent for her son,
Jarred Steven Sargent
3/19/1984 - 11/5/2010


I live for the phone
I die for the mail
I took your picture
right off the nail
And put it right by my bed
So I could see you instead
Of the darkness of night


I hold conversations
with you in my mind
They only tighten
this knot deep inside
And the aching won't end
'Til i hold you again
If I only survive...


Why did you have to go
Why am I missing you so?
One heartbeat at a time
I'm going out of my mind
Missing you...
Missing you

I started a letter
I stared at your name
There wasn't a line
that didn't echo my pain
There was no sound at all
With the slow lonely fall
Of an unspoken tear.

Why did you have to go
Why am I missing you so?
One heartbeat at a time
I'm going out of my mind
Missing you...
Missing you

Life may take us
In different directions
But I'll always end up
deeper, deeper
in my true affection

Why did you have to go
Why am I missing you so?
One heartbeat at a time
I'm going out of my mind
Missing you...
Missing you

Missing you...
Missing you

Missing you...
Missing you

Missing you...
Missing you

Missing you darling
Missing you baby

Missing you...
Missing you


*****


"I sometimes hold it half a sin
to put in words the grief I feel
For words, like Nature, half reveal
And half conceal the soul within."

~Alfred Lord Tennyson


This is how it feels
when the sacred is torn
from your life...
and the
"dark night of the soul"
becomes your constant
companion










Picture - Thanks to Grieving Mothers
Poem – I See Her - Angie Bennett Prince - 11/5/08
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5LttBKtzSgA