Showing posts with label Blessed Christmas. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Blessed Christmas. Show all posts

Thursday, December 25, 2014

Blessed Christmas! Spending Christmas without Merry...






Blessed Christmas!

Spending Christmas without Merry








There are no halls decked with holly
There are no people looking jolly…

There is no door bedecked with a wreath
Just two people swamped with grief…

There are no packages under a tree
And there's no tree, just you and me…

Life is not a bowl, and it has no cherry
Since we lost our child, our darling Merry…

There are Christmas cards from a few friends
Though you find friends are few when your child's life ends…

We do order movies, but they are all about grief,
For shedding our tears does bring us some relief…

There is no shopping, for we find we need no presents;
We just need mourning time as we long for our Merry's presence…

There is no church we can attend,
For, filled with Child-Loss Grief, we find there's no room in the Inn…


But, we do find our Savior hovering near
He brings us grace and even lends His sweet cheer…

For you see, tastes all change when your child dies;
All we need is comfort, and our Lord to wipe our eyes...

He surrounds us with constant reminders of His love
In His scriptures for the brokenhearted filled with Comfort from Above…

He reminds us there's sweetness in our grief with echoes from Above
Because when each tear falls, it's all about the child we both so deeply love…

And somehow He lets us know He understands
For the Son of God was also the Son of man…

For our Lord who was born on that first Christmas night
Was surrounded from day one with Death's horrendous blight…

He too was wounded and acquainted with grief
He knew the feelings of despair that brought Him no relief...

His Father, too, knows our pain from the very bottom of His heart
Because He too lost His precious Child, and the whole world turned dark…

The Holy Spirit comes and joins us in our pain;
He recognizes our grief in each wordless groan He makes…

So somehow, as this Christmas day draws near
Though our hearts are torn without our Merry here,
Our hearts are comforted as God: the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit
So tenderly draw near…

Merry, precious Merry, how we miss you our sweet child
Though seasons come and seasons go,
Whether spring winds, summer rains, fall chills, or winter snow,
Our Lord understands that without you our darling child,
Our spirits, this side of Heaven, will be forever riled…

So my bereaved friends, amidst your grief and pain,
May you remember that our God and Savior do truly understand...


With our Lord's sweetest blessings,

 Merry Christmas to all 
and
a God-Blessed and -Comforted New Year!







Poem - Spending Christmas without Merry ~Angie Bennett Prince - December 18, 2014







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Sunday, December 30, 2012

Sunday's Sorrow - Child-Loss Grief Amidst the Holidays






Sunday's Sorrow

Child-Loss Grief 
Amidst the Holidays



Merry Christmas In Heaven To Our Angels


We do not need a special day to bring you to our minds.
The days we do not think of you are very hard to find.
Each morning when we awake we know that you are gone.
And no one knows the heartache as we try to carry on.
Our hearts still ache with sadness and secret tears still flow.
What it meant to lose you no one will ever know.
Our thoughts are always with you, your place no one can fill.
In life we loved you dearly; in death we love you still.

There will always be a heartache, and often a silent tear,
But always a precious memory of the days when you were here.
If tears would make a staircase, and heartaches make a lane,
We'd walk the path to heaven and bring you home again.
We hold you close within our hearts; and there you will remain,
To walk with us throughout our lives until we meet again.
Our family chain is broken now, and nothing seems the same,
But as God calls us one by one, the chain will link again.


~Author Unknown










Picture, thanks to ~I Miss Those Close To Me Who Are Now In Heaven As Beautiful Angels

Saturday, December 29, 2012

Friday's Faith - "One Baby's Impact on the World"







Friday's Faith

"One Baby's Impact on the World"



I don't know about y'all, but I was not really able to enjoy Christmas fully until after Christmas this year. Christmas day this year was sweet as this was the first time since our first Christmas without Merry Katherine that we were able to enjoy having a part of our family over for several hours. Typically, we are so undone, we cannot do festivities of any kind on that day. It is just too sad for us without our baby. As in all the major holidays, it seems I almost have to "hold my breath" right up to the day, and then throughout the day of the actual holiday so that I can just "make it through." Then I can seem to "let down" and process what the holiday is all about. 

So that is why I have continued to celebrate Christmas with you all this week. (And I thank you for indulging me!) It is such a special time to celebrate our Savior's coming, and finally I can "feel" that "comfort and joy" and enjoy the sweet intimacy of Love coming down just for us. Tonight I celebrate the great impact our Savior's coming has had on our world... 





One Baby's Impact on the World






Sweet blessings to each of you today!





Wednesday, December 26, 2012

Thursday's Therapy - Where Are You Christmas? ~Faith Hill







Thursday's Therapy

Where Are You Christmas?

~Faith Hill







Where Are You Christmas?

~Faith Hill





Where are you Christmas?
Why can't I find you?
Why have you gone away? 
Where is the laughter 
You used to bring me?
Why can't I hear music play? 

My world is changing
I'm rearranging ~
Does that mean Christmas changes too?

Where are you Christmas?
Do you remember
The one you used to know?
I'm not the same one ~
See what the time's done ~
Is that why you have let me go?

Christmas is here
Everywhere, oh
Christmas is here
If you care, oh

If there is love in your heart and your mind
You will feel like Christmas all the time

I feel you Christmas
I know I've found you
You never fade away
The joy of Christmas
Stays here inside us
Fills each and every heart with love

Where are you Christmas?
Fill your heart with love











Picture, thanks to ~Wings of Hope-Living Forward

Wednesday's Woe - One Last Christmas ~Matthew West






Wednesday's Woe

One Last Christmas 

~Matthew West






One Last Christmas

~Matthew West


Songwriters: WEST, MATTHEW / GORLEY, ASHLEY GLENN



It's the news that no one hopes for,
Every parent's greatest fear
Finding out the child you love so much
Might not make it through the year
Now the thought of spending Christmas
Without him just feels wrong
They've been praying for a miracle,
Now they're praying he can just hold on

Chorus:
For one last Christmas, one last time,
One last season when the world is right,
One more telling of the story,
One more verse of Silent Night,
They'd give anything so he could have
One last Christmas.

Middle of September
Still seventy degrees
Daddy climbs up in the attic
Brings down candles
Hangs the lights on all the trees,
Then the neighbors started asking
And pretty soon word got around
First it was the neighborhood,
Before too long they lit up that whole town.

Chorus:
For one last Christmas, one last time,
One last season when the world is right,
One more telling of the story,
One more verse of Silent Night,
They'd give anything so he could have
One last Christmas.

Twenty-seventh of October,
His time was wearing thin
Friends and family, even strangers
That they didn't know brought presents in
He was weak but he was smiling
Like there was nothing even wrong
They said he wouldn't make it,
Looks like he got to see it after all

Chorus:
For one last Christmas, one last time,
One last season when the world is right,
One more telling of the story,
One more verse of Silent Night,
They gave everything so he could have
One last Christmas


~~~














Pictures, thanks to grieving mother Darlene Thomas via "~Peace Flash," and ~for those who have been effected by the loss of a child
Grief Video: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ye39mgcHC3E

Tuesday, December 25, 2012

Merry Christmas! And, Merry Christmas in Heaven!








Merry Christmas!

And, Merry Christmas in Heaven!









Merry "Ellie" Prince




Ellie and our son Rollin, Ellie's daddy!


We can't wait to see our dollbaby today!!! So thankful for God's rays of sunshine into our broken hearts...

Merry Christmas everyone!


And Merry Christmas to our angels in Heaven, surrounding Jesus's throne, ever enthralled with His love poured out for them that drew them to His side when they were helpless to rescue themselves... So thankful God loved each of them, and each of us, enough to send His Son over 2000 years ago today...


In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God.  He was with God in the beginning.  Through Him all things were made; without Him nothing was made that has been made.  In Him was life, and that life was the light of all mankind.  The light shines in the darkness, and the darkness has not overcome it.

John 1:1-5 (NIV) 
(Some capitalizations, mine)



The Darkness did not overcome our children, all because of Jesus.



Merry Christmas Baby Girl, 

and to all our Angels gone too soon!










Tuesday's Trust - Merry Christmas... without my Merry...?! / Song: Over You ~Cassadee Pope






Tuesday's Trust

Merry Christmas... without my Merry...?!




Over You

~Cassadee Pope



Weather man said it's gonna snow
By now I should be used to the cold
Mid-February shouldn't be so scary
It was only December I still remember
The presents, the tree, you and me

But you went away
How dare you?
I miss you
They say I'll be OK
But I'm not going to ever get over you

Living alone here in this place
I think of you, and I'm not afraid
Your favorite records make me feel better
Cause you sing along with every song
I know you didn't mean to give them to me

But you went away
How dare you?
I miss you
They say I'll be OK
But I'm not going to ever get over you

It really sinks in you know
When I see it in stone

Cause you went away
How dare you?
I miss you
They say I'll be OK
But I'm not going to ever get over you
Ever get over you


~~~~~


Merry Christmas... without my Merry...?!



Merry Christmas, or so they say...
I haven't seen Santa on his sleigh.
The stockings aren't hung by the chimney with care
In hopes that Saint Nicholas soon will be there.

Many are cheery, and well they may be...
But here, there are no presents 'round a tree,
For how can a festive Merry Christmas we share
When we can't find our Merry... anywhere?!

And yet with Christmas, presents aren't all there are...
God lifts our hearts a great distance afar,
And There... we see our Merry safely wrapped in His arms,
Happier There than she could ever be amidst this world's charms.

And He reminds me my baby is There you see
Because His own Son came down, then died on the tree...
And so, He lifts our hearts up to Him:
As it's not all about the festive holiday trim.

It's about Love that came down to deliver us
From Sin, Death, and Evil and the Grief that stems from them...
So our hearts need not worry o'er the holiday fuss,
But rather be lifted up in thankfulness as we worship Him!

And so, in many ways our hearts can be merry,
For God restores our happiness since He holds our Merry...

So to all of you we lovingly call:

Have a Blessed Merry Christmas, 
for God loves us all!!!



~~~~~


Words on my daughter-in-law Stephanie's Facebook page today:


"Oh come, Oh come, Emmanuel, 
and ransom captive Israel 
that mourns in lonely exile here 
until the Son of God appear. 
Rejoice! Rejoice! Emmanuel 
shall come to thee, Oh Israel!"













Merry Christmas graphic, thanks to grieving mother, Jill Compton + "Christmas is the Most Wonderful Time of the Year"
Poem - Merry Christmas... without my Merry...?! - Angie Bennett Prince - December 25, 2012
Nativity Picture, thanks to Mia's Photos

Sunday, December 23, 2012

Monday's Mourning Ministry - Merry Christmas, Darling ~Karen Carpenter and the Carpenters







Monday's Mourning Ministry

Merry Christmas, Darling

~Karen Carpenter and the Carpenters









Merry Christmas, Darling

~Karen Carpenter and the Carpenters




Greeting cards have all been sent 
The Christmas rush is through 
But I still have one wish to make 
A special one for you 

Merry Christmas darling 
We're apart that's true 
But I can dream and in my dreams 
I'm Christmas-ing with you 

Holidays are joyful 
There's always something new 
But every day's a holiday 
When I'm near to you 
The lights on my tree 
I wish you could see 
I wish it every day 
Logs on the fire 
Fill me with desire 
To see you and to say 

That I wish you Merry Christmas 
Happy New Year, too 
I've just one wish 
On this Christmas Eve 
I wish I were with you 

Instrumental Interlude 

Logs on the fire 
Fill me with desire 
To see you and to say 
That I wish you Merry Christmas 
Happy New Year, too 
I've just one wish 
On this Christmas Eve 
I wish I were with you 
I wish I were with you 

(Merry, Merry, Merry Christmas 
Merry Christmas - Darling)











Picture, thanks to grieving mother, Jill Compton
Christmas Eve video: http://youtu.be/YR1ujXx2p-I

Saturday, December 22, 2012

Saturday's Sayings - Christmas in Heaven








Saturday's Sayings

Christmas in Heaven  









"GIFTS FROM ABOVE" 
 

They came from different places, they came from different homes. 
These gifts of children from above, that we claimed as our own.


These precious gifts were given with love from God above
Because He thought us worthy to care for these gifts with love.


These priceless gifts were welcomed by parents around the world, 
Celebrating the joys they brought, these tiny boys and girls. 


It amazes us and gives us pause that we were chosen to receive 
These cherished gifts from above - what an honor we believe.


We wonder why our gifts could not stay. 
Could it be they were much too loved? 
These precious gifts of our children 

- Loved, missed and remembered -  
These precious gifts from above.

They left us much too soon, we think. 
And we continue to question, “Why?” 
It does not seem fair to us, 
That our children had to die.


We are left with empty arms and shattered dreams; 
Grief and pain now fill our lives. 
Our homes that once were filled with laughter 
Now harbor our anguished cries.


When finally we emerge from the quicksand of fresh raw grief, 
We start to search for reasons left to live so we can find relief.


We long to hear from others like us with hearts that understand... 
Then someone may tell us of a place where people meet called 
The Compassionate Friends.


There we find a group of people like us joined by the bond of grief and love.
Where we can share together about our children, 
These precious "Gifts From Above". 
 

~ by Faye McCord, TCF Co-Chapter Leader, Jackson, MS ~

In love and dedication to all parents who have lost their precious gifts from above
And in loving memory of my son, Lane McCord (1/16/65 - 9/13/98) 

~shared by Jayne Raines Newton, of The Compassionate Friends of Atlanta






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~I Miss Those Close To Me Who Are Now In Heaven As Beautiful Angels 

Christmas Without You


How very much you're missed
I think you somehow know,
For, I feel you beside me
No matter where I go.

To be reminded of you
I don't have to go that far,
For, every night I see your face
In every shining star.

As every moment passes by
Now that Christmas time is here,
I'll be thinking of the joy we shared
At this special time of year.



~~~~~






 ~I Miss Those Close To Me Who Are Now In Heaven As Beautiful Angels 




The holidays can present a whole new dimension of stress for anyone, but particularly for bereaved parents. The "shoulds" can create burdens that we just don't need: how we think we should be feeling, what we should do, who we should spend time with, which events we should attend, how others think we should be acting and believing life should just not be the way it is now. 

Release as many "shoulds" as you can - just let them go, then decide which "shoulds" need to be managed & dealt with - do not let the shoulds become an additional burden. 

Take comfort in memories and the spirit and love of your child and try to honor his/her life in any way that brings you any measure of peace during the holiday season. 

Yes, easier said than done, but I'm trying! 

In memory of my son James....


~Meg Avery of The Compassionate Friends of Atlanta 






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~grieving mother, Judy Russell Altier via Waves of Gratitude


Found on Facebook today:


One of the best Christmas messages I have ever received from another bereaved parent: 

“…we are changed forever, and not unlike Scrooge, 
we are forced to recognize the true meaning of Christmas.

It’s sharing your gifts, not purchasing gifts; 

It’s not wrapping presents, it’s being present 
and wrapping your arms around the ones you love; 

It’s not getting Christmas cards out on time,
it’s sending any card, anytime, at the right time; 

It’s not having the biggest and best Christmas light display; 
it’s displaying the best light that comes from your heart; 

Turn on your heartlight this holiday season…” 



by Mitch Carmody, Kelly & Meagan’s dad and author of Letters to my Son



~shared by grieving mother, Meg Avery of The Compassionate Friends of Atlanta






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~Mama Bear Graphics





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~grieving mother, Darlene Thomas who shared Stacey Monica Hart's photo





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 ~I Miss Those Close To Me Who Are Now In Heaven As Beautiful Angels 



Twas' 11 days before Christmas, around 9:38 
when 20 beautiful children stormed through heaven's gate.

Their smiles were contagious, their laughter filled the air;
they could hardly believe all the beauty they saw there.

They were filled with such joy, they didn't know what to say; 
they remembered nothing of what had happened earlier that day.

"Where are we?" asked a little girl, as quiet as a mouse. 
"This is heaven," declared a small boy.
"We're spending Christmas at God's house."

When what to their wondering eyes did appear,
but Jesus, their Savior...
The children gathered near.

He looked at them and smiled, and they smiled just the same. 
Then He opened His arms and He called them by name.

And in that moment was joy, that only heaven can bring;
those children all flew into the arms of their King,

and as they lingered in the warmth of His embrace, 
one small girl turned and looked at Jesus' face.

And as if He could read all the questions she had,
He gently whispered to her,
"I'll take care of mom and dad."

Then He looked down on earth, the world far below; 
He saw all of the hurt, the sorrow, and woe.

Then He closed His eyes and He outstretched His hand, 
"Let My power and presence re-enter this land!"

"May this country be delivered from the hands of fools; 
I'm taking back My nation. I'm taking back My schools!"

Then He and the children stood up without a sound. 
"Come now my children, let me show you around."

Excitement filled the space, some skipped and some ran, 
all displaying enthusiasm that only a small child can.

And I heard Him proclaim as He walked out of sight, 
"In the midst of this darkness, I AM STILL THE LIGHT."


written by Cameo Smith of Mt. Wolf, PA.






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~grieving mother Jill Compton via Mama Bear Graphics





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~I Miss Those Close To Me Who Are Now In Heaven As Beautiful Angels 





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~I Miss Those Close To Me Who Are Now In Heaven As Beautiful Angels 














Picture at top of post, thanks to ~I Miss Those Close To Me Who Are Now In Heaven As Beautiful Angels

Friday, December 24, 2010

Blessed Christmas! - A Letter to Jesus' Child-Loss Parents on Christmas Morn ~ Mary Did You Know?





Blessed Christmas!


A Letter to Jesus' Child-Loss Parents on Christmas Morn


~


Mary Did You Know?






Mary, Did You Know




~Written by Mark Lowry and Buddy Greene


~Sung by Clay Aiken


~Video scenes from Mel Gibson's movie, "The Passion of the Christ"




Mary, did you know

that your baby boy would one day walk on water?


Mary, did you know

that your baby boy would save our sons and daughters?


Did you know,

that your baby boy has come to make you new?

This child that you've delivered,

will soon deliver you.


Mary, did you know

that your baby boy will give sight to a blind man?


Mary, did you know

your baby boy will calm a storm with His hand?


Did you know,

that your baby boy has walked where angels trod?

When you kiss your little baby,

you've kissed the face of God.


O Mary did you know?


The blind will see

The deaf will hear

The dead will live again.

The lame will leap

The dumb will speak

The praises of The Lamb.


Mary, did you know

that your baby boy is Lord of all creation?


Mary, did you know

that your baby boy would one day rule the nations?


Did you know,

that your baby boy is heaven's perfect lamb?

This sleeping child you're holding, is the great I AM.



*****


Jan 1 - The Octave of Christmas (8th day after Christmas) The Law of Moses calls for a male child to be taken to the Temple for circumcision at which time the mother is considered to be 'the mother'.



A Letter to Jesus' Child-Loss Parents on Christmas Morn



Mother Mary... th' only Child-loss mother

Who got t' see your Child again this side o' Heav'n,

'Nd yet suffered horrid scene of another:

You were there t' view th' sordid death of your Child...


Tell us, Mother Mary, what was it like

To see your Son restored again on earth,

Having conquered death with God's Holy Smite

To stand before His mother full of smiles?



God of Heav'n, give us faith that we might see

Our holy child as she stands before Thee

With holy rapture on her face, at peace

Before her Living Lord, the King of Kings

Who pardoned all her sins and set her free,

This ransomed soul rescued from sure captivity.



What mercy not to see her violent death

When Vile One snatched her from her mother's arms,

Cast her body to th' ground for her last breath

Thinking he'd surely won th' last victory...


But up from the ground He arose to smite

Vile death, th' spawn of that Wicked Enemy,

And with that resurrection brought my child

Up to His side, outpouring tears and smiles!


Lord, thank You that on this Holy Morn we see

Christ the Lord, our child's and our Newborn King

Who came to set all His captives free

To live together with Him through all eternity,

Steeped in love and peace and laughter, to see

Our Lord of Lords with nail-scarred hands seated

On the throne of Love's hard-won victory!



Thank You for Your willingness t' suffer Child-loss

Allowing Your child t' die on cruel cross

To rescue each of us, Your tender lambs

To restored Life in th' arms of our Great I AM.



We bow before You this Morn in holy awe

In grief for all You grievously saw

That we and our babies might live again

Because of our Newborn King's nail-scarred hand...



Looking with the eyes of faith as You taught

T' years of holding one another in love

Because of Love's Great Sacrifice You wrought.

Thank You for gracing us w'th such Abba love!



Seeing our sweet Merry Katherine in Your arms,

We cry, "Merry Christmas!" as our heart warms...





Wishing all my GCC friends...





*****


As a Merry Christmas bonus, I wanted to add these poems that I found tonight on a grieving mother's (Noemi, mother of Luijoe) blog I have followed for awhile. Noemi lost her 6-year-old son while on her vacation with him and their family in 2000.






My First Christmas in Heaven



I see countless Christmas trees

Around the world below,

With tiny lights like heaven's stars,

Reflecting on the snow.

The sight is so spectacular,

Please wipe away the tear,

For I am spending Christmas

With Jesus this year.



I hear the many Christmas songs

That people hold so dear,

But the sound of music can't compare

With the Christmas choir up here.

I have no words to tell you,

The joy their voices bring,

For it is beyond description,

To hear the angels sing.



I know how much you miss me,

I see the pain inside your heart,

But I am not so far away;

We really aren't apart.

So be happy for me, dear ones;

You know I hold you dear,

And be glad I'm spending Christmas

With Jesus Christ this year.



I sent you each a special gift,

From my heavenly father above,

I sent you each a memory

Of my undying love.

After all love is a gift,

More precious than pure gold,

It was always most important

In the stories that Jesus told.



Please love each other,

As my father said to do,

For I can't count the blessingS or love

He has for each of you.

So have a Merry Christmas

And wipe away that tear,

Remember--- I am spending Christmas

With Jesus this year.








In Heaven We'll Understand



Not now , but in the coming years

It may be in the heavenly Land,

We'll read the meaning of our tears:

Some day in Heaven we'll understand


We'll know why clouds instead of sun

Were over many a cherished plan;

Why smiles have ceased when just begun;

Some day in heaven we'll understand.


Then trust in God, through all thy days

Fear not for He doth hold thy hand;

But whilst you live, still sing and praise;

Some day in Heaven we'll understand.

(Anna Lee Edwards McAlpin)






May you have a very Merry, and very Blessed Christmas Day!










pictures:

Top Mary image: http://www.blueavemaria.com/the_univ_rosary.htm

Others - PhotoBucket.com

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mN70R-3ao0U

Poem - A Letter to Jesus' Child-Loss Parents on Christmas Morn - Angie Bennett Prince - 12/22/10

Final poems: http://angel-luijoe.net/poems.html#christmas


A note on http://forum.christianwomentoday.com discusses the possible author of My First Christmas in Heaven:


(I'm not sure who the author of the following poem is, but it is really nice. It has been attributed to a 13 year old girl named Lysandra Kay Bencke who had a seizeure. After being in a coma for 5 days, she apparently died on Christmas day in 1997. Another source says it was a 13 year old boy named Ben who died of a brain tumor after battling the disease for 4 years. Apparently he gave this poem to his mom prior to his death on Dec 14/1997. Whoever wrote it, I pray that it will bless some of you wonderful ladies. Get out the tissues, especially if you have lost a loved one this year... (and if anyone knows for sure who the author was, please let me know. Thanks)