Showing posts with label Meditation. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Meditation. Show all posts

Saturday, September 1, 2012

Thursday's Therapy - How Meditation Can Help Our Bereaved Brain







Thursday's Therapy

How Meditation Can Help Our Bereaved Brain




In a Trauma seminar that Tommy and I attended in Atlanta, the point was emphasized over and over that severe trauma can alter the brain. It can even shrink parts of the brain such as the amygdala and the hippocampus! The hippocampus is where learning and memory take place. When the hippocampus is affected, we can forget directions to places we habitually drove to before. We can leave a mall, and forget where we parked our car. We can take a shower, and forget the habitual steps we normally performed every day before our child's death!

Did you notice some time in your Child Loss Grief that your memory was impacted? I did. My children could tell me something, and days later I wouldn't remember that they had even told me this information. They began worrying about me at some point, but I reassured them that it was connected to my grief and would therefore dissipate over time. I explained that grief was taking up about 90% of my brain, and only 10% was left over to attend to information coming in apart from grief so that I may or may not forget that information. I think they have been relieved over time as they see me back to my old self, at least in terms of memory! 

So, of course, any of us should feel concerned if we think our severe trauma could alter the brain to the point of shrinking a part of it. But in this Trauma conference, fortunately, we were also reassured that since our ability to perform brain scans in recent years, they discovered that brain cells can indeed regenerate in the process called neurogenesis! There are things we can do to facilitate that process taking place so that we can help our traumatized brains to heal, and be restored. Meditation is one of those things. 

Many people question, "What is Meditation anyway?" A simplified answer is that it is practicing to focus the brain in on the "here and now" so that you are very aware of the present rather than your mind being adrift, unfocused, or even too focused on the past or future so that you are not experiencing the things that are present in and around you. Simple methods of focusing in on your own breathing can be meditation, and you can even feel yourself beginning to relax and just "be" in the moment. Over time, this creates positive changes in the brain, even giving us much more resilience amidst our stress and trauma. It is part of the challenge we each face of refining the balancing art of living even while we're ever dealing with the death of our beloved child. And for those of us who are attuned spiritually, the meditating on the love God has for us in all of its many aspects can be incredibly healing.

The following is an article from The New York Times' blog that shows how meditation can positively affect our brain.


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How Meditation May Change the Brain

By Sindya N. Bhanoo


Over the December holidays, my husband went on a 10-day silent meditation retreat. Not my idea of fun, but he came back rejuvenated and energetic.

He said the experience was so transformational that he has committed to meditating for two hours daily, one hour in the morning and one in the evening, until the end of March. He’s running an experiment to determine whether and how meditation actually improves the quality of his life.
I’ll admit I’m a skeptic.

But now, scientists say that meditators like my husband may be benefiting from changes in their brains. The researchers report that those who meditated for about 30 minutes a day for eight weeks had measurable changes in gray-matter density in parts of the brain associated with memory, sense of self, empathy and stress. The findings will appear in the Jan. 30 issue of Psychiatry Research: Neuroimaging.

M.R.I. brain scans taken before and after the participants’ meditation regimen found increased gray matter in the hippocampus, an area important for learning and memory. The images also showed a reduction of gray matter in the amygdala, a region connected to anxiety and stress. A control group that did not practice meditation showed no such changes.

But how exactly did these study volunteers, all seeking stress reduction in their lives but new to the practice, meditate? So many people talk about meditating these days. Within four miles of our Bay Area home, there are at least six centers that offer some type of meditation class, and I often hear phrases like, “So how was your sit today?”

Britta Hölzel, a psychologist at Massachusetts General Hospital and Harvard Medical School and the study’s lead author, said the participants practiced mindfulness meditation, a form of meditation that was introduced in the United States in the late 1970s....

“The main idea is to use different objects to focus one’s attention, and it could be a focus on sensations of breathing, or emotions or thoughts, or observing any type of body sensations,” she said. “But it’s about bringing the mind back to the here and now, as opposed to letting the mind drift.” Generally the meditators are seated upright on a chair or the floor and in silence, although sometimes there might be a guide leading a session, Dr. Hölzel said.

Of course, it’s important to remember that the human brain is complicated. Understanding what the increased density of gray matter really means is still, well, a gray area.

“The field is very, very young, and we don’t really know enough about it yet,” Dr. Hölzel said. “I would say these are still quite preliminary findings. We see that there is something there, but we have to replicate these findings and find out what they really mean.”

It has been hard to pinpoint the benefits of meditation, but a 2009 study suggests that meditation may reduce blood pressure in patients with coronary heart disease. And a 2007 study found that meditators have longer attention spans.

Previous studies have also shown that there are structural differences between the brains of meditators and those who don’t meditate, although this new study is the first to document changes in gray matter over time through meditation.

Ultimately, Dr. Hölzel said she and her colleagues would like to demonstrate how meditation results in definitive improvements in people’s lives.

“A lot of studies find that it increases well-being, improves quality of life, but it’s always hard to determine how you can objectively test that,” she said. “Relatively little is known about the brain and the psychological mechanisms about how this is being done.”

In a 2008 study published in the journal PloS One, researchers found that when meditators heard the sounds of people suffering, they had stronger activation levels in their temporal parietal junctures, a part of the brain tied to empathy, than people who did not meditate.

“They may be more willing to help when someone suffers, and act more compassionately,” Dr. Hölzel said.

Further study is needed, but that bodes well for me. For now, I’m more than happy to support my husband’s little experiment, despite the fact that he now rises at 5 a.m. and is exhausted by 10 at night. An empathetic husband who takes out the trash and puts gas in the car because he knows I don’t like to — I’ll take that.









Picture: thanks to FotoSearch.com
Article: How Meditation May Change the Brain: http://well.blogs.nytimes.com/2011/01/28/how-meditation-may-change-the-brain/ 

Thursday, July 14, 2011

Friday's Faith - Meditation - The Lord Comes Down...






Friday's Faith


Meditation


The Lord Comes Down...






The Lord comes down

Into my heart;

His Spirit comes 'roun

His peace to impart.

He lifts my face

To see His eyes;

When we embrace,

My heart complies.






The Lord comes down

Into my heart;

His Spirit comes 'roun

His peace to impart.

He puts my hand

On tomb-stone ajar,



Holds out Love's hand,

I feel Love's scar.

My tears fall down,

His arms surround.







The Lord comes down

Into my heart;

His Spirit comes 'roun

His peace to impart.

Inside the tomb

I smell spice scents ~

Mother of His womb

Brought frankincense,

His body to glove

With her tears of love.







The Lord comes down

Into my heart;

His Spirit comes 'roun

His peace to impart.

He gives me a glimpse

Through Heaven's gates;

I catch a glimpse

Of my sweet child's face ~

Such peace therein

On her smiling face...

I breathe a sigh within

For His amazing grace.







The Lord comes down

Into my heart;

His Spirit comes 'roun

His peace to impart.

I hear the songs

The angels sing

As my heart longs

For my flight on wing...

Such joy untold

Does fill my soul,

His peace does fill

This hole in my soul.







The Lord comes down

Into my heart;

His Spirit comes 'roun

His peace to impart.

As He leans down,

I kiss His face;

As His tears flow down,

His love I taste.


His sacrifice of Love,

He asks me to embrace;


As my tears o'erflow,

Love's tears interlace.







The Lord comes down

Into my heart;

His Spirit comes 'roun

His peace to impart.

Then Love ascends

To Abba's embrace;

Such peace within

As I see Their face...


Love's sacrifice, Love knows ~

To me, Their Love o'erflows:

Feeling Their tears upon my face



As Father, Son, Spirit

~ me --Their child-- embrace;

To endure Love's hurt,

They fill my heart with grace.



The Lord comes down

Into my heart;

His Spirit comes 'roun

His peace to impart.







~ ~ ~






Let the words of my mouth

and the meditation of my heart

be acceptable in Thy sight,

O Lord my strength, and my Redeemer.

Amen.


~Psalm 19:14












Portrait of Jesus, "Prince of Peace" was the first picture of Jesus painted by Akiane Kramarik when she was only 8 years old!


An interesting story: Little Colton Burpo at age 4 had a near-death experience in which he went to Heaven and saw Jesus; his father wrote the New York Times #1 bestseller in non-fiction paperbacks, Heaven is for Real in which he captured some of Colton's amazing experiences in Heaven. (It is a very inspiring book for us child-loss grievers ~ although it is not a "grief" book, it has ministered to us grieving mothers more than any other grief book out there (according to observations from The Compassionate Friends, USA informal polling).


So, anyway, Colton's parents held up every picture of Jesus they could find (Colton's dad is a pastor) after Colton's visit to Heaven, but Colton had said "No" to every one of them, saying they did not resemble Jesus as he saw and remembered Him. Later, Colton's parents were told about the child prodigy Akiane Kramarik, and that she had painted a picture of Jesus. When they found the picture and showed it to Colton, he just very matter-of-factly said, "That's Him!"


Akiane's mother was Athiest, her father a lapsed Catholic when Akiane began having "divinely inspired visions" after which she began translating into poetry and art. By age four, Akiane was painting and writing poetry. She has appeared on CNN, World News Tonight, and the Oprah Winfrey Show. Akiane too has a book entitled Akiane; I have the book, and it is very inspiring. It has many of her poems and many of her paintings, including this "Prince of Peace."


Other pictures, thanks to turnbacktogod.com


Wednesday, February 16, 2011

Thursday's Therapy - TRAUMA Therapy Toolbox - Guided Imagery: Why Psychotherapy's "Talking Cure" Doesn't Always Work in Child-Loss Grief and Trauma





Thursday's Therapy


TRAUMA Therapy Toolbox


Guided Imagery:


Why Psychotherapy's "Talking Cure" Doesn't Always Work

in Child-Loss Grief and Trauma


~Belleruth Naparstek

with A Guided Imagery Sample








Rebalancing Biochemistry


Trauma survivors experience extreme swings in their biochemistry, from the jolts of cortisol, epinephrine, and norepinephrine that accompany flashbacks, nightmares, and intrusive memories, to the body's built in pharmacy of relaxants and endogenous opioids. Most of the time the body rebalances on its own after a traumatic event, returning to normal homeostatic business as usual within a few weeks or months.


Most people, however, experience at least several weeks immediately following a traumatic event when their systems are stressed and out of balance, and when cortisol levels are significantly, abnormally elevated. This is the biochemical counterpart to feeling


  • anxious,
  • hypervigilant,
  • angry,
  • tearful,
  • panicky
  • upset,
  • irritable,
  • fearful,
  • rageful, or
  • terrified.


Should these symptoms become chronic over several years, the survivor runs the paradoxical risk of then chronically underproducing cortisol, with depressed levels that are punctuated now and then by occasional alarm states that shoot it through the roof. Suppressed cortisol is usually associated with


  • depression,
  • numbness,
  • joylessness,
  • emotional flatness,
  • inaccessibility,
  • fatigue,
  • listlessness,
  • dissociation, and
  • disconnection.


When chronically dysregulated stress hormones infuse the bloodstream for an extended period of time, they can wear away


  • heart muscle,
  • block arteries,
  • create muscle pain,
  • initiate immune and
  • autoimmune problems, and
  • shrink specific areas of the brain.



The Right-Brain Connection


Brain development expert Bruce Perry has studied how a traumatized brain is compelled to train its focus away from language and verbal content, and to fix instead on nonverbal danger cues--


  • body movements,
  • facial expressions,
  • tone of voice and the like,



searching for threat-related information.


Cognition and behavior are mediated by the more primitive parts of the brain--the brain stem and midbrain--at the expense of abstract thinking and the absorption of language and ideas.


Only when sufficiently calmed can attention be focused on ideas and the meaning of words.


This is why interventions that are based on a strictly cognitive, problem-solving approach cannot impact terror-driven behavior.


The primitive brain and midbrain cannot process cognitive solutions aimed at the higher cortical functions.



But imagery, with its


  • calming voice tones,
  • soothing music and
  • symbolic representations of safety,


can settle down hypervigilant brain functioning and allow the higher brain to get back to doing its job.




~Bellaruth Naparstek, excerpts from

Invisible Heroes: Survivors of Trauma and How They Heal




*****




Below is an example of guided imagery by the renowned trauma expert Belleruth Naparstek for you to experience the impact of relaxing, meditating, and imagining sweet healing thoughts that are guided by a very gentle voice of a well-trained trauma therapist. May it bring you some peace today:





Guided Imagery Sample

~by Belleruth Naparstek,

renowned Trauma Therapist









Excerpts from ~Bellaruth Naparstek, Invisible Heroes: Survivors of Trauma and How They Heal, pp. 59-60

Tuesday, November 9, 2010

Wednesday's Woe - Welcome to the Roller Coaster of Grief!








Wednesday's Woe
Welcome to the
Roller Coaster of Grief




My "dream" awakened me this morning. In my dream, I was back in college yet working full-time. It seemed work was squeezing out time needed for school, so I was asking my older sister how to navigate through both at the same time. I ended my questioning with, "I guess I wasn't anticipating that Daddy would die..."

(This isn't how my college experience played out in real life, thank goodness.)

I awakened from my very vivid dream and pondered the meaning of it since it seemed very significant. I was relieved to recall I did complete my undergraduate degree and got a master's as well.



So what was this dream all about?


I realized, in actuality, college represented my current career, and working represented my grief over my daughter whom I had not anticipated dying. For it seems I am so steeped in walking through my grief over her, that my work is pretty much getting squeezed out by my grief.

It is quite a dilemma, for our bills keep rolling in, for ~ grief, or no grief ~ my bills don't seem to care.


When I sat up from my intense dream, I was incredibly dizzy which is quite unusual for me. I pushed through the dizziness to begin the gargantuan task of cleaning out my bathroom (which has been barely touched for four years) until I had to stop and eat breakfast and try to regain my equilibrium. Tommy kindly patted my head and massaged my aching shoulders. My dizziness began to subside.

Then together, we meditated through a new trauma CD I recently had ordered --


"A Guided Meditation for Healing Trauma (PTSD)" by Belleruth Naparstek.

It was a very meaningful experience for me. Naparstek took us on a guided imagery meditation that was quite touching both spiritually and emotionally as it included (for me) seeing Merry Katherine participating in helping me (from Heaven) with my grief.

Naparstek directed us only to observe any PTSD symptoms we may be feeling during the meditation time, but then just let them "wash out to sea." I was able to do so! And on top of this being a meaningful experience, I noticed my dizziness had totally subsided!



...But by this afternoon, I end up writing this poem where I am the one being washed out to sea! ...Welcome to the Roller Coaster of Grief!






Swept Out to Sea


Father, I cannot go this all alone...
My grief grows heavier day by day;
Sometimes its straps cut down to the bone,
Slicing into me amidst work or play...


Please come and lift my heavy load for me ~
Help me to bear it as it bears on me,
Weighting me down, pulling me out to sea,
Left to survive...though flailing I be...


You've left me here ~ now, how do I live,
My energies depleted, riv'n within ~
How do I work, to others comfort give,
Grappling with death dumped from Satan's Den?


Cut from life's moorings, I'm swept out to sea...

Lost in grief's tempest, my tears fill the sea.
Blinded by death's darkness, my way I can't see.

God who splits seas asunder,

Please rescue me,

Still grief's waves to a whisper,

Hush the waves of my sea,

I cannot navigate my child-loss grief,

Except by Thee!





Psalm 107:

Oh give thanks to the Lordfor he is good,
    for his steadfast love endures forever!

Let the redeemed of the Lord say so,
    whom he has redeemed from trouble[a]

and gathered in from the lands,
    from the east and from the west,
    from the north and from the south.
Some wandered in desert wastes,
    finding no way to a city to dwell in;
hungry and thirsty,
    their soul fainted within them.
Then they cried to the Lord in their trouble,
    and he delivered them from their distress.

He led them by a straight way
    till they reached a city to dwell in.

Let them thank the Lord for his steadfast love,
    for his wondrous works to the children of man!

For he satisfies the longing soul,
    and the hungry soul he fills with good things.
10 Some sat in darkness and in the shadow of death,
    prisoners in affliction and in irons,
11 for they had rebelled against the words of God,
    and spurned the counsel of the Most High.
12 So he bowed their hearts down with hard labor;
    they fell down, with none to help.
13 Then they cried to the Lord in their trouble,
    and he delivered them from their distress.

14 He brought them out of darkness and the shadow of death,
    and burst their bonds apart.
15 Let them thank the Lord for his steadfast love,
    for his wondrous works to the children of man!
16 For he shatters the doors of bronze
    and cuts in two the bars of iron.
17 Some were fools through their sinful ways,
    and because of their iniquities suffered affliction;
18 they loathed any kind of food,
    and they drew near to the gates of death.
19 Then they cried to the Lord in their trouble,
    and he delivered them from their distress.

20 He sent out his word and healed them,
    and delivered them from their destruction.

21 Let them thank the Lord for his steadfast love,
    for his wondrous works to the children of man!

22 And let them offer sacrifices of thanksgiving,
    and tell of his deeds in songs of joy!
23 Some went down to the sea in ships,
    doing business on the great waters;
24 they saw the deeds of the Lord,
    his wondrous works in the deep.
25 For he commanded and raised the stormy wind,
    which lifted up the waves of the sea.
26 They mounted up to heaven; they went down to the depths;
    their courage melted away in their evil plight;
27 they reeled and staggered like drunken men
    and were at their wits' end.[b]
28 Then they cried to the Lord in their trouble,
    and he delivered them from their distress.

29 He made the storm be still,
    and the waves of the sea were hushed.

30 Then they were glad that the waters[c] were quiet,
    and he brought them to their desired haven.

31 Let them thank the Lord for his steadfast love,
    for his wondrous works to the children of man!

32 Let them extol him in the congregation of the people,
    and praise him in the assembly of the elders.
33 He turns rivers into a desert,
    springs of water into thirsty ground,
34 a fruitful land into a salty waste,
    because of the evil of its inhabitants.
35 He turns a desert into pools of water,
    a parched land into springs of water.
36 And there he lets the hungry dwell,
    and they establish a city to live in;
37 they sow fields and plant vineyards
    and get a fruitful yield.
38 By his blessing they multiply greatly,
    and he does not let their livestock diminish.
39 When they are diminished and brought low
    through oppression, evil, and sorrow,

40 he pours contempt on princes
    and makes them wander in trackless wastes;
41 but he raises up the needy out of affliction
    and makes their families like flocks.

42 The upright see it and are glad,
    and all wickedness shuts its mouth.


43 Whoever is wise, let him attend to these things;
    let them consider the steadfast love of the Lord.


Poem - Swept Out to Sea - Angie Bennett Prince - 11/9/10





May God bless,

Angie




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