Saturday's Sayings - What is Grief? - Part Seven ~written by grieving mother, Debra Carter and many grieving mothers...

Saturday's Sayings

What is Grief?

Part Seven

~written by grieving mother, 

Debra Carter 

and many grieving mothers...

~by artist Paulette Insall via ~Grieving Mother, Jill Compton

• Grief is wanting to bear witness to and comfort the pain and suffering they experienced.

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"My Child Is Gone!"

How will I survive when my only child is gone?
I will have no future to rely on; Why was this done?

I will never make a graduation of any success for you!
No wedding, no parties, No grandchildren; What am I to do?

I think of all what should have been deserving for you today.It's hard to be happy for someone else when I'm feeling this way.

I feel my whole life's legacy has been torn away from me;
Living life hopelessly; How can this be?

I scream to the Heavens, "I'm so hurt, Why did this happen?"
"Will I ever feel the same? My heart is so broken!"

I will live for your honor and celebrate you in every way
But I will be grieving for you forever; each an

~Death of a Loved One 

• Grief is sometimes a vow to fulfill wishes of the dead.

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~Grieving Mothers

• Grief is believing every pebble is a gem. 

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~Jesus Christ Savior by BeliefNet

But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us. ~Romans 5:8

• Grief is saying you are forgiven or forgive me.

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~Ce Thibodeau 

• Grief is turning ordinary objects- a hairbrush, a note, a pin- into Sacred vestiges.

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In your light I learn how to love,
In your beauty, how to make poems.
You dance inside my chest where no-one sees you,
but sometimes I do,
and that sight becomes this art.

~Rumi

~Ce Thibodeau 

• Grief is saying thank you. 

~Jill Compton Rest in Peace Gus

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~Grieving Mother, ~Ce Thibodeau
Grieving Mother, Joanne Dennis Mason Altizer, via ~Peggy's Photos 

Saturday's Sayings - What is Grief? - Part Two ~written by Grieving Mother, Debra Carter and many grieving mothers...

Saturday's Sayings

What is Grief?

Part Two

~written by grieving mother, 

Debra Carter 

and many grieving mothers...

~The Compassionate Friends

• Grief is yelling at the beautiful sunrise because it means time is abandoning your loved one.

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~via Grieving Mother, Jill Compton

• Grief is damage control.

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~Grieving Mother, Jill Compton via ~Journey of the Survivor

• Grief is a tribute to the depth of your love.

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~Grieving Mother, Leslie Martin Nelson via ~The Bible Page in Unity John 17

• Grief is a hope turned backwards in time.

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~The Compassionate Friends

When a child dies, we find that our minds are cloudy, they don't seem to work very well, and approaches we conceive to help us survive our loss often don't pan out as we anticipated. These words by Carol Staudacher seem to focus on what we truly must do make our way through the landmine called "grief."

• Grief is sitting in bed crying in the middle of the night saying God I miss you. Please, if you are there, give me a sign and hearing a bird sing a happy tune in the darkness and knowing that song was your answer.

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~The Compassionate Friends

• Grief is an inventory of what has been lost.

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~Grieving Mother, Faye Marie Miller

• Grief is panning through memories over and over searching for jewels.

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~Grieving Mother, Faye Marie Miller

• Grief is lazy and lethargic.

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~Grieving Mother, Faye Marie Miller

• Grief is exhaustion that cannot sleep, hunger that cannot eat, and tears that will not dry.

~ via Debra Carter who says, "Angie, I wrote this from many (others' feelings) along with mine. The authors are many grieving Mom's."

Saturday's Sayings - What is Grief? - Part One ~written by Debra Carter and many grieving mothers...

Saturday's Sayings

What is Grief?

Part One

~written by grieving mother, 

Debra Carter 

and many grieving mothers...

What is Grief!

~via grieving mother, Darlene Thomas

• Grief is more than just a constellation of feelings in response to a loss.

~via grieving mother, Jill Compton

• Grief does not fade with the passage of time. We do not realize our losses in an instant; we realize them over years. We do not get over it, but instead go through it, not just once, but many times.

~via grieving mother, Faye Marie Miller. taken at Hummingbird Haven

• Grief changes form and eludes definition. 

~The Compassionate Friends/USA

• Grief sits on your chest, punches you in the gut, squeezes your throat, winds everything up breaking-point tight, and sucks the energy out of you.

~forevermaybe/tumblr

• Grief is rejected offerings and ungranted prayers.

~via Grieving Mothers

• Grief is feeling guilty because we did not stop death, could not revert death, and cannot change death.

~In Memory of Lost Loved Ones

• Grief is unabashedly wailing and drowning in your own snot and tears.

~In Memory of Lost Loved Ones

• Grief is the yearning, the reaching, and the unrequited love that hides behind our losses.

~In Memory of Lost Loved Ones

• Grief is celebration.
  
  
  
  

~ via Debra Carter who says, "Angie, I wrote this from many (others' feelings) along with mine. The authors are many grieving Mom's."

Saturday's Sayings - Aching That Will Never Cease...

Saturday's Sayings

Aching That Will Never Cease...

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Pictures, thanks to Grieving Mother, J. M. C.; Grieving Mother, Jill C., and Grieving Mothers via B.K.

Friday's Faith - Let Me Grieve!

Friday's Faith

Let Me Grieve!

Why do you ask me not to grieve

Over losing my baby girl?

Do you not wish me th' reprieve:

Breaking Grief's oyster t' find the pearl?

Sadness is now my way of life...

Yes, I have happy times as well ~

I too have angst, anger and strife:

(For) down in Death's cavern is th' pit of hell.

Please don't be presumptuous to say

"Don't be so sad; try to be gay!"

Grief's what comes with th' death of a child ~

Tears ARE th' heart's chance to reconcile!

Have love in your heart ~ let me be...

Tears peer into Heaven, you see;

Looking through tears, my child I see!

Don't ask me t' smile, just let me be ~

God will complete His work in me!

... being confident of this very thing, that He who has begun a good work in you will complete it until the day of Jesus Christ.

~Philippians 1:6 NKJV

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Poem - Let Me Grieve - Angie Bennett Prince - 10/29/10

Monday's Mourning Ministry - More Than Ever ~Gaither Vocal Band / Grief Cannot Be Cured ~ for Grief IS the Cure!

Monday's Mourning Ministry

More Than Ever ~Gaither Vocal Band /

Grief Cannot Be Cured ~ for Grief IS the Cure!

The question was posed to Jesus:

"Of all the commandments, which is the most important?"

"The most important one," answered Jesus, "is this:

'Hear, O Israel, the Lord our God, the Lord is one. Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.'"

~Mark 12:28b-30

Jesus was quoting here from the Old Testament the very commands of His Father to His people. God doesn't expect us to just sign on a dotted line and pray the sinner's prayer to be His children. He wants ALL of us, All aspects of our being just as He loves us with all aspects of His being.

• "Love the Lord your God
• with all your heart, and
• with all your soul, and
• with all your mind, and
• with all your strength."

Since we are made in the image of God and are called to love like He did,

wouldn't you think He would expect us to love our precious children

• with all of our heart,
• with all of our soul,
• with all our mind, and
• with all of our strength?

Certainly! Therefore it shouldn't surprise us that when a child of ours is killed, it would affect all of our heart, all of our soul, all of our mind, and all of our strength?

Thus, as I wrote my poem today, I thought about all the many aspects of our being that have been devastated by our loss of our child, and noted that our Creator God's healing of us would naturally address all those aspects of our devastated being:

• All of our heart,
• All of our soul,
• All of our mind,
• All of our strength.

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Grief Cannot Be Cured ~ for Grief IS the Cure!

Please Don't Curse My Grief~It's God's Caressing!

"Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted..."

~Matthew 5:4

Child-Loss Grief:

Grief's like a baby being formed again,

Re-knit within my mother's womb, Being

healed cell by cell as only my God can:

Grief's overhaul with God's overseeing!

Don't try t' discourage this mommy's weeping...

Grief cannot be "cured" ~ for Grief IS the cure...

Grief's not a curse; God says it's a blessing.

Please don't curse my grief, it's God's caressing...

First, He lets me pour all blood from my heart,

Th' core of my heart's beating, poured 'nto His hands,

He comforts ev'ry mem'ry since her life's start,

Seals them with His tears as His love withstands,

Keeps His hands open for when Grief expands...

Grief cannot be "cured" ~ for Grief IS the cure...

Grief's not a curse; God says it's a blessing.

Please don't curse my grief, it's God's caressing...

He gently holds my brain in His nail-scarred hands,

Sees th' massive scarring, and each shrunken cell,

Plans th' great rewiring a child's death demands,

Th' complex re-knitting t' withstand child-loss hell,

Replete with Truth, Satan's lies to dispel.

Grief cannot be "cured" ~ Grief IS the cure...

Grief's not a curse; God says it's a blessing.

Please don't curse my grief, it's God's caressing...

Then He draws my spirit close to His heart,

Grieves with my grief over His child and mine,

O'er each impaling of th' Fiend's wicked dart,

Then reveals His Love o'er each dart malign:

His Son took her wounds in Love's Plan Divine.

Grief cannot be "cured" ~ for Grief IS the cure...

Grief's not a curse; God says it's a blessing.

Please don't curse my grief, it's God's caressing...

God holds my body like a newborn baby,

Weak in abject vulnerability,

Enwraps in His arms, He suckles me daily,

Nurtures through Grief's mutability,

Enlivens ever-maturing growth in me,

Enables wondrous Creativity!

Grief cannot be "cured" ~ for Grief IS the cure...

Grief's not a curse; God says it's a blessing.

Please don't curse my grief, it's God's caressing!

If Child-Loss Grief engenders (one a) newborn baby...

Be gentle with me, I'm still only three!

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Excerpts from my 4/28/10 Post, (More words about how invaluable grief is to the Child-Loss Parent!)

Wednesday's Woe - Would'st Thou Take My Grief Away:

Grief fills the room up of my absent child,

Lies in his bed, walks up and down with me,

Puts on his pretty looks, repeats his words,

Remembers me of all his gracious parts,

Stuffs out his vacant garments with his form;

Then have I reason to be fond of grief.

~William Shakespeare, from his play King John

And to Shakespeare's poignant words, I add my verse:

Grief fills the heart up of my absent child,

In my minds eye, appears and talks with me,

True to her nature, personality,

Upbeat, laughter, e'er encouraging smile,

E'er reminding me she IS here, alive,

But with spirit whole, in rapt purity!

Then have I reason to be fond of grief...

"Tis my Father's gift, brings me sweet relief!

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More Than Ever

Gaither Vocal Band

When I started my journey in fresh childlike trust

I believed that the Lord's way was best.

I would read in His Word how He mothered the bird

And grieved when it fell from it's nest.

How I felt His delight when I chose to do right,

And prayed I would not make Him sad.

We would meet on the way in the cool of the day,

What a pure sweet communion we had.

CHORUS:

Oh, but now more than ever I cherish the cross.

More than ever I sit at His feet.

All the miles of my journey have proved my Lord true,

And He is so precious to me.

The road I have traveled has sometimes been steep,

Through wild jagged places of life.

Sometimes I've stumbled and fallen so hard

That the stones cut my soul like a knife.

But the staff of my Shepherd would reach out for me

And lift me to cool pastures green.

With oil of the spirit anointing my wounds,

There I'd rest by the clear healing stream.

Oh, but now more than ever I cherish the cross.

More than ever I sit at His feet.

All the miles of my journey have proved my Lord true,

And He is so precious to me.

Is Love's Old Sweet Story too good to be true?

Do you find all this hard to believe?

Has the cruel world we live in so battered your heart

That the hurt child inside you can't grieve?

Oh, I can't say I blame you.

I've been where you are.

But all I can say is

It's true!

You're wanted,

You're precious,

You're the love of His heart,

And the old rugged cross was for you.

Oh, but now more than ever I cherish the cross.

More than ever I sit at His feet.

All the miles of my journey have proved my Lord true,

And He is so precious to me.

Oh, but now more than ever I cherish the cross.

More than ever I sit at His feet.

All the miles of my journey have proved my Lord true,

And He is so precious to me.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-kn8I9GK6Pc

poem - Grief Cannot Be Cured ~ for Grief IS the Cure - Angie Bennett Prince - 6/27/10