Showing posts with label Compassion-Or the Lack Thereof. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Compassion-Or the Lack Thereof. Show all posts

Wednesday, October 5, 2011

Wednesday's Woe - Secondary Wounds







Wednesday's Woe


Secondary Wounds




Losing you was more than I could bear.

It seems, when your life stopped, so did mine.

Five years out, I cannot pay death's fare;

It's hard to work when my heart does pine.


It's almost all I can do to cope;

All my energy is called to bear

T' carry grief's burden 'nd hold onto hope ~

Seems harder than anyone's fair share!


But when loved ones pile on with their vice,

Tis th' straw of th' proverbial camel's back ~

Of all folks, they should know t' be nice;

When they are not, they deserve a smack!


My grief may be too hard for them t' bear;

I'm thankful for special ones who can,

But th' least they can do for me is C-A-R-E,

And on their own vices, call a ban!


Secondary wounds weigh heavier at times:

Loving you brings tears, makes it hard to see,

But loved one's vice piled on, downright blinds ~

Grieving you, I expect; their attacks blind-side me.


Have mercy you who are called to love ~

Do you not know you'll answer to th' One above?!



~Angie






When I read a friend's poem of the same theme, I was struck by how much of a "pushover" I still may be. My poem seems so tame next to hers. She graciously gave me permission to share her version with you! Thank you Vickie!





For Everyone Who Knew The Old Me



Don't tell me you understand

Just lend me a shoulder or a hand.

Don't judge me if you do not know

how I feel to lose my son.

If you have nothing nice to say

You are right Just stay away.

The old me is gone

and NO you don't know

Leave us alone

if you can't be kind.

None of us are the same

You should be ashamed

You think all the possibilities through

of what you can say

when I finally get to talk to you.

Life goes on you say so well......

I pray you are never stuck in this hell.

Parents are gone

uncles and aunts

and you want to compare

what we don't share.

Because you asked a friend

you say

well funny that friend

is yours, not mine.

If you don't understand

it is fine.

I pray you don't have to walk in my shoes.

So maybe you're right to leave me alone

You say I'm So sensitive

Walk in my shoes for one hour one day

and then I will listen to what you have to say.

Thanks for the thoughts , the cards, the words

you couldn't even do that

it was too hard.

I just want you to know

the pushover I was

is gone for good.

For those of you who knew the old me.


~Vickie Warrington Davis










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Poem - Secondary Wounds - Angie Bennett Prince - 10/3/2011
Poem, For Everyone Who Knew the Old Me, is by Vickie Warrington Davis

Wednesday, August 17, 2011

Wednesday's Woe - Is It Asking Too Much...?









Wednesday's Woe


Is It Asking Too Much...?






We are grieving over the loss of our child.



We are grieving over something we didn't ask for. Then is it too much to ask ~ for a little understanding?


A little understanding...from our families?


A little understanding...from our friends?


A little understanding...from our churches?


A little understanding...from our employers?


A little understanding...from our colleagues?




To better help you understand,


Do you not understand that the loss of my child broke my heart ~ forever until I see her again?


Do you not know that the trauma of losing my child...


damaged my brain?


affected my confidence?


impaired my memory?


made me accident-prone?


compromised my immune system?




Emotionally, I feel like I am walking around with no skin on.



Did you know that if I detect toxicity in another person, it will send me running in the opposite direction?



Did you know that when my phone rings, I cannot answer?



Did you know that when I am invited to a party, I cannot attend? I cannot even respond to tell you that I cannot attend.



Did you know that I cannot be around crowds?



Do you realize that I'm doing the best that I can with something I will never find peace with, this side of Heaven?



So please, is it too much to ask ~ for a little understanding?












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