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Welcome! I am Angie B. Prince, child of God, wife of Tommy, mother of 3, Grief and Trauma Life Coach, Psychotherapist, and Mother Grieving. On 8/2/2006, our precious 19-yr-old daughter Merry Katherine was killed along w/ 2 other teens via vehicular manslaughter. Here I share as we agonizingly process our grief and trauma. Email: MotherGrieving(at)gmail(dot)com. Coaching (Tommy or Angie): Call 865-548-4four3four / Counseling (Angie in TN) 865-604-9nine9two. I pray God will minister to you here.
Blessed Christmas! Spending Christmas without Merry There are no halls decked with holly There are no peop...
He gathers the lambs in His arms and carries them close to His heart.
Isaiah 40:11b
Love from all our Heavenly children...
Monday's Mourning Ministry
A New Year's Poem
from Mother to Child in Heaven
~by Grieving Mother Tammy Brown
~
Sweet Child O' Mine
~Sheryl Crow
The poem below shares the sweet sentiments of a fellow grieving mother that express so well our angst and yet our recognition that our precious child now "knows" the depths of our love, despite our frail attempts to communicate, for now they "know" as even they are "fully known"!!!
~I Corinthians 13:12 "then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known."
12/31/2011
Larry,
I sat here searching deep within
to find the words to express
how much I love and miss you
searching for a language that eludes me
to lose you to death is beyond human language
there are no Earthly words ever spoken
nor written
that will in any form
express the depth of my sorrow
so as I sat here
fingers poised and waiting
it finally occurred to me
if the words to express my sorrow
do not yet exist
then the words to define
the eternal love that my heart holds for you
will never be born of Earthly expression
with this
a new thought occurs
you are my son
born of my very own
existence
I have no need to search for words do I?
you already know
the moment you left this Earthly plain
is the moment you first truly felt it
just as I felt your first movement of life within me
so you now feel the depth of my love
again we are one
my promise to you:
I will carry you forward with me
this New Year and every one after
until we
once again
become two…
I love you my son, always.
~by Tammy Brown in loving memory of Larry Brown
*****
Sweet Child O' Mine
~Sheryl Crow
He's got a smile that it seems to me
Reminds me of childhood memories
Where everything was as fresh as the bright blue sky
Now and then when I see his face
It takes me away to that special place
And if I stared too long
I'd probably break down and cry
Oh-o-oh
Sweet child o' mine
Oh oh oh oh
Sweet love of mine
He's got eyes of the bluest skies
And if they thought of rain
I hate to look into those eyes
And see an ounce of pain
His hair reminds me of a warm safe place
Where as a child I'd hide
And pray for the thunder
And the rain
To quietly pass me by
Oh-o-oh
Sweet child o' mine
Oh oh oh oh oh
Sweet love of mine
Oh oh oh oh
Sweet child of mine
Oh oh oh
Oh oh oh oh
Sweet love of mine
Where do we go?
Where do we go now?
Where do we go?
Where do we go?
Where do we go now?
Where do we go?
Where do we go?
Sweet Child
Where do we go now?
Oh oh oh oh oh oh oh oh
Where do we go ~
oh oh oh oh oh oh oh oh oh
Where do we go
Sweet child
Where do we go now?
Where do we go ~
oh oh oh oh oh oh
Where do we go now
Now now now no
Sweet child
Sweet child o' mine
Picture: Thanks to Dr. Athena Staik
Poem: Thanks to the gracious permission of Grieving Mother, Tammy Brown
Video: http://youtu.be/T4lSms1pokA
May You Have a Blessed New Year!!!
Writing Your New Year's Resolutions?
Consider These
8 Tips for Healing our
Grief-Stricken, Traumatized Brains!
"There's a movement afoot—at least among those who practice what's known as 'integrative medicine'—to focus on maintaining a state of optimal health rather than simply alleviating symptoms or treating a particular disease. These docs, nurses, and other health practitioners want us to be truly mindful of how we choose to nourish ourselves with food, activity, rest, and connections with others."
~Jon Kabat-Zinn, explaining how to live in the moment
The following is quoted from an article by Dr. Athena Staik which I hopefully will reveal in its entirety over the next two weeks in our Thursday's Therapy posts.
Our brain does not appear to know the difference between experiencing love for self and love for others. When we think of others with contempt, for example, our body releases unhelpful doses of cortisol, the stress hormone.
When we observe an act of kindness, our body releases oxytocin and other hormones that create feelings of safety and love, and healthful conditions for our body. Practicing compassion and acceptance for others is inseparable from practicing self-love and self-acceptance. Neurologically, the quality of one is connected to the other, and vice versa. It makes sense. We are hard-wired to seek meaningful connections in order to thrive and nourish our lives and relationships with a sense of purpose and value.
The human brain is a relationship organ. We learn, grow and thrive in relational contexts.
You have the ability to consciously rewire your brain, and transform your experience of life around you. It’s a way of life that flows in creativity and outwardly manifests the beauty of the authentic being you are inside.
There are several tools to energize authentic connection and awareness.
Life is about the journey, and not the destination. It’s about showing up, with a heart open to learn to love.
To create what you want in life you must essentially allow yourself to transform into what you want in order to have it.
To live authentically is to choose to love as an expression of who you are through acts of kindness, creative expression and sheer joyful delight in experiencing your self as life itself — just because!
In a real sense authenticity is love, a love that allows you to live in harmony with your self and others, and to love courageously with your whole heart.
~By ATHENA STAIK, PH.D.
Italicized comments, mine
I would add to this list just the very act of
Best wishes for this coming year. Our hearts and prayers go with you.
~May our Loving Lord walk with you through the days ahead, giving you His ever-present love, comfort, and reassurance that He ever walks with us through this Valley of the Shadow of Death. May you have a Blessed New Year ensconced in His arms.
"I have told you these things, so that in Me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world."
~John 16:33
On This New Year's Eve,
Scriptures and a Poem
for Grieving Mothers and Daddies...
On the Dawn of a New Year...
On the dawn of a New Year I ask,
What does this year hold?
More tears, angst, and trauma,
Or blessings manifold?
New physical manifestations
Of our deep-seated grief,
Or newfound mercies of our God
That send us blessed relief?
Deeper understandings
Of the sufferings of mankind
That never could we ever have known
Without these death blows that blind?
Sweeter communions with our God
Where He reveals His heart
For He too suffered the loss of His Child
That forever severed His heart?
(For surely He too bears the scars
That penetrate, just like those on His Son
Yet never His merciful love toward us mars
As it still shines brilliantly as the sun!)
So, as I ponder what lies beyond the brink
Of this New Year's Eve's horizon
Just one week after our wondrous celebration
Of Heaven's greatest earthly visitation,
I'm again stopped in my tracks with awe
At God's willing sacrifice of Love
That reached down in mercy to rescue my child
To take her to her Home above,
That it makes me humbly stop and think,
No matter what lies beyond the day,
Our Savior walks alongside Death's brink,
Showering His comfort all along our way,
Promising that all our sufferings He'll redeem
On that Shore that shows: Troubles here aren't what they seem...
May we keep in mind as we continue to heal:
Our troubles here are but birth pains
of the blissful glory He'll soon reveal!
*****
Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted.
~Matthew 5:4 (NIV)
*****
1 THEREFORE, [there is] now no condemnation (no adjudging guilty of wrong) for those who are in Christ Jesus, who live [and] walk not after the dictates of the flesh, but after the dictates of the Spirit.
2 For the law of the Spirit of life [which is] in Christ Jesus [the law of our new being] has freed me from the law of sin and of death.
3 For God has done what the Law could not do, [its power] being weakened by the flesh [the entire nature of man without the Holy Spirit]. Sending His own Son in the guise of sinful flesh and as an offering for sin, [God] condemned sin in the flesh [subdued, overcame, deprived it of its power over all who accept that sacrifice],
4 So that the righteous and just requirement of the Law might be fully met in us who live and move not in the ways of the flesh but in the ways of the Spirit [our lives governed not by the standards and according to the dictates of the flesh, but controlled by the Holy Spirit].
5 For those who are according to the flesh and are controlled by its unholy desires set their minds on and pursue those things which gratify the flesh, but those who are according to the Spirit and are controlled by the desires of the Spirit set their minds on and seek those things which gratify the [Holy] Spirit.
6 Now the mind of the flesh [which is sense and reason without the Holy Spirit] is death [death that comprises all the miseries arising from sin, both here and hereafter]. But the mind of the [Holy] Spirit is life and [soul] peace [both now and forever].
7 [That is] because the mind of the flesh [with its carnal thoughts and purposes] is hostile to God, for it does not submit itself to God's Law; indeed it cannot.
8 So then those who are living the life of the flesh [catering to the appetites and impulses of their carnal nature] cannot please or satisfy God, or be acceptable to Him.
9 But you are not living the life of the flesh, you are living the life of the Spirit, if the [Holy] Spirit of God [really] dwells within you [directs and controls you]. But if anyone does not possess the [Holy] Spirit of Christ, he is none of His [he does not belong to Christ, is not truly a child of God].
10 But if Christ lives in you, [then although] your [natural] body is dead by reason of sin and guilt, the spirit is alive because of [the] righteousness [that He imputes to you].
11 And if the Spirit of Him Who raised up Jesus from the dead dwells in you, [then] He Who raised up Christ Jesus from the dead will also restore to life your mortal (short-lived, perishable) bodies through His Spirit Who dwells in you.
12 So then, brethren, we are debtors, but not to the flesh [we are not obligated to our carnal nature], to live [a life ruled by the standards set up by the dictates] of the flesh.
13 For if you live according to [the dictates of] the flesh, you will surely die. But if through the power of the [Holy] Spirit you are [habitually] putting to death (making extinct, deadening) the [evil] deeds prompted by the body, you shall [really and genuinely] live forever.
14 For all who are led by the Spirit of God are sons of God.
15 For [the Spirit which] you have now received [is] not a spirit of slavery to put you once more in bondage to fear, but you have received the Spirit of adoption [the Spirit producing sonship] in [the bliss of] which we cry, Abba (Father)! Father!
16 The Spirit Himself [thus] testifies together with our own spirit, [assuring us] that we are children of God.
17 And if we are [His] children, then we are [His] heirs also: heirs of God and fellow heirs with Christ [sharing His inheritance with Him]; only we must share His suffering if we are to share His glory.
18 [But what of that?] For I consider that the sufferings of this present time (this present life) are not worth being compared with the glory that is about to be revealed to us and in us and for us and conferred on us!
19 For [even the whole] creation (all nature) waits expectantly and longs earnestly for God's sons to be made known [waits for the revealing, the disclosing of their sonship].
20 For the creation (nature) was subjected to frailty (to futility, condemned to frustration), not because of some intentional fault on its part, but by the will of Him Who so subjected it--[yet] with the hope
21 That nature (creation) itself will be set free from its bondage to decay and corruption [and gain an entrance] into the glorious freedom of God's children.
22 We know that the whole creation [of irrational creatures] has been moaning together in the pains of labor until now.
23 And not only the creation, but we ourselves too, who have and enjoy the firstfruits of the [Holy] Spirit [a foretaste of the blissful things to come] groan inwardly as we wait for the redemption of our bodies [from sensuality and the grave, which will reveal] our adoption (our manifestation as God's sons).
24 For in [this] hope we were saved. But hope [the object of] which is seen is not hope. For how can one hope for what he already sees?
25 But if we hope for what is still unseen by us, we wait for it with patience and composure.
26So too the [Holy] Spirit comes to our aid and bears us up in our weakness; for we do not know what prayer to offer nor how to offer it worthily as we ought, but the Spirit Himself goes to meet our supplication and pleads in our behalf with unspeakable yearnings and groanings too deep for utterance.
27 And He Who searches the hearts of men knows what is in the mind of the [Holy] Spirit [what His intent is], because the Spirit intercedes and pleads [before God] in behalf of the saints according to and in harmony with God's will.
28 We are assured and know that [God being a partner in their labor] all things work together and are [fitting into a plan] for good to and for those who love God and are called according to [His] design and purpose.
29 For those whom He foreknew [of whom He was aware and loved beforehand], He also destined from the beginning [foreordaining them] to be molded into the image of His Son [and share inwardly His likeness], that He might become the firstborn among many brethren.
30 And those whom He thus foreordained, He also called; and those whom He called, He also justified (acquitted, made righteous, putting them into right standing with Himself). And those whom He justified, He also glorified [raising them to a heavenly dignity and condition or state of being].
31 What then shall we say to [all] this? If God is for us, who [can be] against us? [Who can be our foe, if God is on our side?]
32 He who did not withhold or spare [even] His own Son but gave Him up for us all, will He not also with Him freely and graciously give us all [other] things?
33 Who shall bring any charge against God's elect [when it is] God Who justifies [that is, Who puts us in right relation to Himself? Who shall come forward and accuse or impeach those whom God has chosen? Will God, Who acquits us?]
34 Who is there to condemn [us]? Will Christ Jesus (the Messiah), Who died, or rather Who was raised from the dead, Who is at the right hand of God actually pleading as He intercedes for us?
35 Who shall ever separate us from Christ's love? Shall suffering and affliction and tribulation? Or calamity and distress? Or persecution or hunger or destitution or peril or sword?
36 Even as it is written, For Thy sake we are put to death all the day long; we are regarded and counted as sheep for the slaughter.
37 Yet amid all these things we are more than conquerors and gain a surpassing victory through Him Who loved us.
38 For I am persuaded beyond doubt (am sure) that neither death nor life, nor angels nor principalities, nor things impending and threatening nor things to come, nor powers,
39 Nor height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation will be able to separate us from the love of God which is in Christ Jesus our Lord.
~Romans 8 (AMP)
*****
22 Because of the Lord’s great love we are not consumed,
for his compassions never fail.
23 They are new every morning;
great is your faithfulness.
24 I say to myself, “The Lord is my portion;
therefore I will wait for him.”
25 The Lord is good to those whose hope is in him,
to the one who seeks him;
26 it is good to wait quietly
for the salvation of the Lord...
31 For men are not cast off
by the Lord forever.
32 Though he brings grief, he will show compassion,
so great is his unfailing love.
33 For he does not willingly bring affliction
or grief to the children of men.
~Lamentations 3:22-26,31-33 (NIV)
Poem - On the Dawn of a New Year... - Angie Bennett Prince - 12/31/2011
*NIV - New International Version of The Holy Bible
*AMP - Amplified Bible