Showing posts with label Child-Loss Mothers. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Child-Loss Mothers. Show all posts

Friday, September 23, 2011

Friday's Faith - Help us God as we grieve: "When will it not hurt so hard?"







Friday's Faith

Help us God as we grieve:

"When will it not hurt so hard?"




I got a note from a mother today,

Grieving her heart out, a turbulent day,

As news from a stranger ripped down her guard,

Dropping off shoes belonging to her child,

Sudden semblance of her child's life beguiled

Flashes of normalcy at once her heart jarred:

Her plaintive cry: "When will it not hurt so hard?"


Crying for grieving mothers writing to me,

I turn to You God; this is my plea:

It seems we take and we take till we can take no more:

You lovingly blessed our lives with our babies

Touches of Heaven come down, now a tease,

Reminding us of what we can have no more ~

Seems so cruel as now we're left with what we abhor.


In these days left on earth, how are we to survive

With constant evidence our babies didn't thrive?

How are we to walk through each and every day

Without the children You'd asked us, to guard their way?

The precious treasure that gave our lives meaning

We must lose to ashes, our sweet child's life demeaning?


As days go by, weeks, months, now years are piled,

How are we to live when our child's life was defiled?




"My child, keep your eye on the longer view;

You know if My Son wept, you will weep too,

But your child is not now being defiled ~

She lives here with Me now, awaiting your smile,

For those who sew in tears will reap with songs of joy

All who go out weeping will return with songs of joy.


"Sorrow does last for this little while,

But I'll make up for it with your baby's smile!

Like My Son, you must carry your cross,

Knowing, with Me, it won't end in loss!

Come to Me; I will wrap you in My arms;

Don't be beguiled by this world nor Satan's alarms.


"You were meant to live in Heaven where love abounds,

Suffer there, bearing your cross, and I will present your crowns.

Now comfort one another with these words of Mine:

Satan cannot conquer what's in the hands of the Divine.

Weeping may last for the night, but Joy will come in due time.

Do the work I have for you to do in your lifetime...

And I Myself will guard your babies in the meantime!"










Poem - Help us God as we grieve: "When will it not hurt so hard?" - Angie Bennett Prince - 9/23/11

Wednesday, June 15, 2011

Wednesday's Woe - The New Lepers' Colony







Wednesday's Woe


The New Lepers' Colony




I did not go to the baby shower;

What does that make me?

I am changed.

I can small-talk with the best of them

But why?

Why would I now?

Not now, when my child has died.

Small talk is for a social gathering -

My world has stopped;

There's not much social about it.

My world is about dealing with death.

Can death walk into a room with life?

They don't mix very well...

"Me? Oh I spend every day in tears.

Did you hear our good friends'

child was killed? Yes, killed

on the day before Mother's Day.

And how are you doing?"

As my boys tease about their daddy and me,

"Boy, these guys really know how to party..."


Life is different now.

All is serious... but the laughter in between.

People die. People can die.

And yes, Children die.

And child-loss mothers I meet are like me...

The walking dead.

We hover together, mourning our children


Since no one else wants to hear...

They'd rather go to a party;


I've tried the parties,

Really I have,

But the last "get together"

was a disaster.

Petty meanness showed up -

And I? I'm too tender for such,

Piled upon my pain.

Pain upon pain is too much.

So others can party.

They're welcome to.


But we, we want to hear our child's name

In the context of their life,

who they were,

who they are now...

For they're still alive,

in spirit now.

Have you heard of the "Great Cloud of Witnesses"?

It's real you know.


I told my son and daughter-in-law...

I won't be at the parties

But I will be here for my grandbaby~

They're lovingly naming her

After their sister / my baby!


When my baby left, my world stopped

And yet, perhaps it really started...


I only focus on what is real,

what is important, what is deep,

what is soulful,

Much like I do in my counseling practice.

Perhaps the world should see us as

missionaries now, on a different planet...

Missionaries to one another,

Binding our wounds,

Crying out our pain,

Wiping our tears...

The language of the wailing mothers

In the new lepers colony called

Bereaved Parents.

Even Scripture says,

Rachel refused to be comforted

for her children are

no more.

I'm thankful God understands...

He comes alongside,

He grieves,

He comforts,

for

He too lost His Child...



"A voice is heard in Ramah

mourning and great weeping,

Rachel weeping for her

children

And refusing to be

comforted,

because her children are

no more."


~Jeremiah 31:15, NIV




Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles, and let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us.

~Hebrews 12:1, NIV









Paintings ~by Megan Kingery, artist, from her gallery - http://megankingery.homestead.com/gallery2.html

Poem - The New Lepers' Colony - Angie Bennett Prince - 6/14/2011

NIV - New International Version of The Holy Bible