Showing posts with label Sleepless Nights. Show all posts
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Thursday, June 20, 2013

Thursday's Therapy - The Myth of the Eight-Hour Sleep ~Stephanie Hegarty







Thursday's Therapy

The Myth of the Eight-Hour Sleep

~Stephanie Hegarty








We often worry about lying awake in the middle of the night - but it could be good for you. A growing body of evidence from both science and history suggests that the eight-hour sleep may be unnatural.

In the early 1990s, psychiatrist Thomas Wehr conducted an experiment in which a group of people were plunged into darkness for 14 hours every day for a month.

It took some time for their sleep to regulate but by the fourth week the subjects had settled into a very distinct sleeping pattern. They slept first for four hours, then woke for one or two hours before falling into a second four-hour sleep.

Though sleep scientists were impressed by the study, among the general public the idea that we must sleep for eight consecutive hours persists.

In 2001, historian Roger Ekirch of Virginia Tech published a seminal paper, drawn from 16 years of research, revealing a wealth of historical evidence that humans used to sleep in two distinct chunks.
His book At Day's Close: Night in Times Past, published four years later, unearths more than 500 references to a segmented sleeping pattern - in diaries, court records, medical books and literature, from Homer's Odyssey to an anthropological account of modern tribes in Nigeria.

Much like the experience of Wehr's subjects, these references describe a first sleep which began about two hours after dusk, followed by waking period of one or two hours and then a second sleep.
"It's not just the number of references - it is the way they refer to it, as if it was common knowledge," Ekirch says.

During this waking period people were quite active. They often got up, went to the toilet or smoked tobacco and some even visited neighbours. Most people stayed in bed, read, wrote and often prayed. Countless prayer manuals from the late 15th Century offered special prayers for the hours in between sleeps.

And these hours weren't entirely solitary - people often chatted to bed-fellows or had sex. A doctor's manual from 16th Century France even advised couples that the best time to conceive was not at the end of a long day's labour but "after the first sleep", when "they have more enjoyment" and "do it better".

Ekirch found that references to the first and second sleep started to disappear during the late 17th Century. This started among the urban upper classes in northern Europe and over the course of the next 200 years filtered down to the rest of Western society.

By the 1920s the idea of a first and second sleep had receded entirely from our social consciousness.
He attributes the initial shift to improvements in street lighting, domestic lighting and a surge in coffee houses - which were sometimes open all night. As the night became a place for legitimate activity and as that activity increased, the length of time people could dedicate to rest dwindled.

In his new book, Evening's Empire, historian Craig Koslofsky puts forward an account of how this happened. "Associations with night before the 17th Century were not good," he says. The night was a place populated by people of disrepute - criminals, prostitutes and drunks. "Even the wealthy, who could afford candlelight, had better things to spend their money on. There was no prestige or social value associated with staying up all night."

That changed in the wake of the Reformation and the counter-Reformation. Protestants and Catholics became accustomed to holding secret services at night, during periods of persecution. If earlier the night had belonged to reprobates, now respectable people became accustomed to exploiting the hours of darkness.

This trend migrated to the social sphere too, but only for those who could afford to live by candlelight. With the advent of street lighting, however, socialising at night began to filter down through the classes.
In 1667, Paris became the first city in the world to light its streets, using wax candles in glass lamps. It was followed by Lille in the same year and Amsterdam two years later, where a much more efficient oil-powered lamp was developed. London didn't join their ranks until 1684 but by the end of the century, more than 50 of Europe's major towns and cities were lit at night.

Night became fashionable and spending hours lying in bed was considered a waste of time.
"People were becoming increasingly time-conscious and sensitive to efficiency, certainly before the 19th Century," says Roger Ekirch. "But the industrial revolution intensified that attitude by leaps and bounds."

Strong evidence of this shifting attitude is contained in a medical journal from 1829 which urged parents to force their children out of a pattern of first and second sleep. "If no disease or accident there intervene, they will need no further repose than that obtained in their first sleep, which custom will have caused to terminate by itself just at the usual hour. And then, if they turn upon their ear to take a second nap, they will be taught to look upon it as an intemperance not at all redounding to their credit."

Today, most people seem to have adapted quite well to the eight-hour sleep, but Ekirch believes many sleeping problems may have roots in the human body's natural preference for segmented sleep as well as the ubiquity of artificial light.

This could be the root of a condition called sleep maintenance insomnia, where people wake during the night and have trouble getting back to sleep, he suggests. The condition first appears in literature at the end of the 19th Century, at the same time as accounts of segmented sleep disappear. 

"For most of evolution we slept a certain way," says sleep psychologist Gregg Jacobs. "Waking up during the night is part of normal human physiology." The idea that we must sleep in a consolidated block could be damaging, he says, if it makes people who wake up at night anxious, as this anxiety can itself prohibit sleep and is likely to seep into waking life too.

Russell Foster, a professor of circadian [body clock] neuroscience at Oxford, shares this point of view.
"Many people wake up at night and panic," he says. "I tell them that what they are experiencing is a throwback to the bi-modal sleep pattern." But the majority of doctors still fail to acknowledge that a consolidated eight-hour sleep may be unnatural."Over 30% of the medical problems that doctors are faced with stem directly or indirectly from sleep. But sleep has been ignored in medical training and there are very few centres where sleep is studied," he says.

Jacobs suggests that the waking period between sleeps, when people were forced into periods of rest and relaxation, could have played an important part in the human capacity to regulate stress naturally.
In many historic accounts, Ekirch found that people used the time to meditate on their dreams.

"Today we spend less time doing those things," says Dr Jacobs. "It's not a coincidence that, in modern life, the number of people who report anxiety, stress, depression, alcoholism and drug abuse has gone up.

So the next time you wake up in the middle of the night, think of your pre-industrial ancestors and relax. Lying awake could be good for you.


~BBC World Service









http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/magazine-16964783#story_continues_4

Thursday, July 19, 2012

Thursday's Therapy - 11 Tips for Improving Much-Needed Sleep







Thursday's Therapy

11 Tips for Improving Much-Needed Sleep





From time to time, getting good sleep can be difficult for us all amidst our Child-Loss Grief and Trauma. Lack of sleep can lead to a loss of energy, a susceptibility to a variety of sleep deprivation ailments, and a weakened immune system. The following are helpful tips to soothing our minds, hearts and souls, as well as bodies for that needed rest:


  • As difficult as it is...try to go to bed at the same time each evening to establish your shut-eye pattern. If your regular pattern (from before-grief days) triggers you, a slight change in time might be appropriate. If unable to sleep, get up, do something, and then try going back to bed again.
  • Your daily walk will facilitate going to bed at your normal time. Plan a specific time each day to stimulate your physiology with a brisk twenty-minute walk. If you have the energy, make it longer. However, make sure your exercise plan is a good three hours before bedtime, as your body needs time to unwind.
  • It can help to meditate or do some reading an hour before bedtime to help calm down. Shut off all radios and televisions (and computers). Once in bed, make every attempt to hand all worry over to your Higher Power.
  • Stop caffeine consumption after 3:00 p.m., and avoid snacks, especially sugary foods and grains before bedtime.
  • Be sure your room is completely dark and all light from the outside is kept out with drapes or blinds. Light can block needed melatonin production. When you have to get up to go to the bathroom, use a penlight or book-light to find your way to the bathroom door. Or put a nightlight in the bathroom and leave the door partially open.
  • Do not watch TV or use your computer while lying in bed. Make your bedroom for sleep only. Remove your computer from the bedroom, if that's where you have it.
  • It will help to have a sleep mask available to you if you are awake at the crack of dawn, especially if you do not have blackout curtains or drapes in your bedroom. Use it and try to go back off to sleep. Try to think of gratitude memories.
  • It is worth trying herbal sleep remedies such as valerian, hops, lemon balm, and passionflower. There are also preparations of melatonin (produced by the pineal gland to regulate sleep patterns) and 5-HTP (a byproduct of tryptophan, an amino acid that helps produce the feel-good molecule serotonin for relaxation) that have proven helpful. Tart cherries or cherry juice (no sugar) are also rich in melatonin and may help your insomnia. 
  • As unusual as it may seem, try wearing socks to bed. Increased blood flow from warmth in the extremities induces sleep for many. 
  • If you are always worrying or thinking about what you must do tomorrow, place a pen and paper on your nightstand. Thoroughly write up each item, then let them go, so you can go off to sleep knowing you can tackle them tomorrow.
  • Once in bed, take some deep abdominal breaths where you breathe in slowly through your nose, using a four-count (one thousand one, one thousand two, etc.). Fully inflate the lungs (we are all shallow breathers), and let the inhalation push your stomach out slightly, as the diaphragm drops down. Stretch your lungs. Hold for a three-count. Then release the air naturally through your mouth on a four-count (later, increase exhalation to a six-count). Visualize breathing in healing energy and tension going out of your body with the exhalation. Start with these four-three-four counts, and then adjust the counts to what feels most comfortable.

One of the most recommended and consistently effective ways to deal with the grief and anxiety of a major loss is getting your mind and body to slow down through conscious deep abdominal breathing. Specifically, deep breathing moves oxygen and lymphatic fluid throughout the body. Dr. James Gordon, clinical professor at the Georgetown University School of Medicine says, 

"Slow deep breathing is probably the best anti-stress medicine we have."



~ from Healing Grief, Finding Peace: 101 Ways to Cope With the Death of Your Loved One 
by Dr. Louis E. LaGrand










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Thursday, January 26, 2012

Thursday's Therapy - Sleeplessness and the Adrenal Glands ~via FoxNews.com/health








Thursday's Therapy

Sleeplessness and the Adrenal Glands

~via FoxNews.com/health




Interesting news we thought might be pertinent for us weary child-loss grievers in regard to our sleeplessness possibly being related to our overly-stressed adrenal glands...

From

"Are you tired all the time?"


Written By Eleni N. Gage

Published January 25, 2012

Real Simple



Renewing your energy is possible, once you learn to combat common causes of fatigue.



Culprit: A Vitamin or Mineral Deficiency
Having low levels of iron or vitamin D or B12 can make you feel tired, anxious, and weak, says Irene Park, a nurse practitioner in New York City. Many experts believe that a significant percentage of the U.S. population is deficient in vitamin D. “And lower levels of vitamin D can cause muscle weakness and pain,” says Keenan. Also, if you’re a woman of reproductive age, you’re statistically at greater risk for iron-deficiency anemia.

The only way to tell if you’re low in any vitamin or mineral is to see your doctor for a blood test. Meanwhile, to bolster your body’s stores, consider taking a multivitamin with at least 100 percent of your daily requirement of vitamins and minerals. (Experts generally advise that healthy adults also supplement with 1,000 to 2,000 international units of vitamin D daily.)



Culprit: The Blues
Research has indicated that people with depression may be four times more likely than the nondepressed to experience unexplained fatigue. Aerobic exercise—specifically, 30 minutes or more three to five days a week—is effective at treating mild to moderate depression, and may minimize the sleepiness associated with it. If that doesn’t help, however, speak to your doctor, who may recommend talk therapy or a mood-boosting medication, like a selective serotonin re-uptake inhibitor (SSRI). If your depression and related fatigue seem to strike more frequently in winter, you could have seasonal affective disorder (SAD). Treatment for SAD may include using a special light box, says Marla Wald, a psychiatrist at Duke University Medical Center, in Durham, North Carolina. But venturing outside for about 20 minutes a day can provide similar benefits, she says.



Culprit: Your Adrenal Glands
They’re responsible for secreting the fight-or-flight hormones adrenaline and cortisol, which surge as a response to stress—whether the prehistoric-days type, like being chased by a tiger, or the modern-day version, like financial worries or your mother-in-law. But when you’re feeling stressed all the time, those glands may become overworked and can tire out—a condition commonly called adrenal fatigue, says Keenan. The inability to secrete enough cortisol during the day can cause energy dips, then spikes at night that can interfere with restful sleep.


To give your adrenal glands a chance to recharge, Keenan recommends meditation, which she thinks of as parking the body in neutral. “Meditation has the effect of slowing down the production of cortisol for a while,” she says. Try sitting quietly and clearing your mind for at least five minutes a day. Vitamins B5 and C have also been shown to support adrenal function, says Jacob Teitelbaum, the Kona, Hawaii–based medical director of the Fibromyalgia & Fatigue Centers and the author of From Fatigued to Fantastic! ($17, amazon.com). He recommends getting at least 50 milligrams of B5 and 500 milligrams of C daily. Other stress-reduction techniques work well, too. “Exercise is particularly effective,” says Park.










Wednesday, January 25, 2012

Wednesday's Woe - Grief's Prisoner






Wednesday's Woe


Grief's Prisoner





Prisoner in my own body. Held hostage. Can't trust my own being anymore.


3:00 a.m. ~ awake again. Not just awake. Wide awake. 4 hours of sleep. I need 8. But, I get up, go to the restroom...


Now I am awake. Strike that. It is more like, now I am Hypervigilant!


No longer can I just go to the restroom, then fall back in bed and crash back into a sound sleep. As Tommy realized I had awakened, we began to talk - he'd already awakened at 2:00. Neither of us could go back to sleep. As we talked, he asked a good question:


"Since Merry Katherine's death, over these past (what is now?) 5 1/2 years, have you had a good night's sleep?"


I had to honestly answer, "No." If I have had one, it's been the exception, but I honestly cannot remember a night of a solid 8-hours of sleep. He couldn't remember me having one either.


I have coped with that by finding some time during the day to take a long nap to ensure that my poor grief-torn body at least gets around 8 hours of sleep from somewhere.



But that's not all. The other development, really since Day One when we were told Merry Katherine was killed, is that stress takes its toll on me through my gastro-intestinal system. It's as if my body were wired to vent the stress through upsetting my tummy. Ouch. And my system must be finely wired, such that the alarm goes off with barely a trip of the wire it seems. And when that happens, then


I feel like I am a prisoner of my own body, and a prisoner of my own home.


The only people who can count on seeing me on a regular basis are my immediate family members, and my clients. A neighbor was teasing Tommy that he hadn't even gotten to meet me yet, and asked when was he going to get to meet me? Tommy teased back and said, "Nobody sees her. If you want to see her, call her and make an appointment and bring your checkbook with you, because all she sees are her clients." You remember the old saying, "There's a lot of truth in jest!" Well, there you go. That just about sums it up.


I don't like it. And I am trying to train my body to be more resilient with a pretty strong aerobic work-out routine, and a very mindful diet. But meanwhile, it is what it is, and I just deal with it.


For Tommy, his stress now sets off high blood pressure. And he thinks the wear and tear of the trauma of child-loss definitely contributed to his body succumbing to cancer (that he discovered he had just 5 months ago) as well. He too is working hard at trying to build up his immune system with proper exercise and proper diet, but it is a daily battle.



It is a daily battle for both of us. I wonder if the battle will ever subside to give us a few moments reprieve. I pray so. I miss my carefree health I could always count on.


And I am sometimes terrorized if I have some heavy-duty-traumatized clients scheduled, will my body cooperate today and allow me to help them?


Some of my clients have lasted the entire 5 1/2 years with me through the grief, and they learned they needed to call me 30 minutes before the appointment to ask, "Is this a good day?" before coming into their previously scheduled appointment. It has worked out fairly well that way. (So thankful to my clients who have been so graciously willing to be flexible!)


What about you?


How does the stress of the grief and trauma over your child's death play out in your body, or soul, or spirit, or mind, or behavior?


Do you ever feel like you are Grief's Prisoner?









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Monday, January 23, 2012

Tuesday's Trust - A Grieving Mother's "Day Off"





Tuesday's Trust

A Grieving Mother's "Day Off"




It's a day off ~ you'd think I'd have no cares.
I go to sleep ~ awaken to nightmares...
You needed help ~ there was no help I'd find;
I saw the one ~ who'd always helped... was blind.

Is this my life ~ suspended in mid-air?
What is my crime? For you, I'll always care.

A mommy's love ~ should soothe your hurts away.
But when I look ~ I see you've gone away.


Your heart's at rest ~ may that sink in, I pray.
My God knows best ~ He holds you close today.


Your mommy tried ~ she couldn't reach your heart.
And now you've died ~ and now we are apart.
I guess you know ~ you're always in my heart.

I'll see you soon ~ Would someone tell my heart?








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Wednesday, February 10, 2010

Wednesday's Woe - Night's Plight





Wednesday's Woe



Night's Plight





In a letter last night to a grieving mother, I wrote,


Many, many hours of turmoil were endured, sometimes making it difficult to sleep, other times awakening me with nightmares, only then to continue to haunt me during the daylight hours.


******


But day doth daily draw my sorrows longer,

And night doth nightly make grief's length seem stronger.


~William Shakespeare


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Lo! thus, by day my limbs, by night my mind,

For thee, and for myself, no quiet find.


~William Shakespeare



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Each day seems long, and longs for long-stayed night;

The night as tedious, woos th'approach of day;

Tired with the dusty toils of busy day,

Languished with horrors of the silent night;

Suffering the evils both of the day and night,

While no night is more dark than is my day,

Nor no day hath less quiet than my night...


~Astrophel and Stella





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Night's Plight



Sleeping at night, my mind’s confused and torn,

Sometimes I dream my baby girl is here

Just like normal since the day she was born,

Then, suddenly realizing, she’s not here...



Awakening at day risks more grief galore.

For, no matter the distractions, the tasks,

Even escapes--whether lake or seashore,

I take my heart with meits grief unmasks.



So, night or day, grief does not go away;

Grief itself takes on a life of its own

My heart stays broken both in work and play.

I can’t expunge grief; it won’t stay gone!



Sleeping at night risks entering Death’s plight,

Tossing and turning in th’ Nightmare Review:

Life’s joys as tender embraces delight

Abruptly end at Death’s tolling curfew...




~Angie Bennett Prince, 10/21/08




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SONNET XXVII

William Shakespeare



Weary with toil, I haste me to my bed,

The dear repose for limbs with travel tired;

But then begins a journey in my head

To work my mind, when body's work's expired:

For then my thoughts--from far where I abide--

Intend a zealous pilgrimage to thee,

And keep my drooping eyelids open wide,

Looking on darkness which the blind do see:

Presents thy shadow to my sightless view,

Which, like a jewel hung in ghastly night,

Makes black night beauteous, and her old face new.

Lo! thus, by day my limbs, by night my mind,

For thee, and for myself, no quiet find.







Sidney. From Astrophel and Stella, Sonnet 89.


Now that of absence the most irksome night,

With darkest shade doth overcome my day;

Since Stella's eyes, wont to give me my day,

Leaving my hemisphere, leave me in night,

Each day seems long, and longs for long-stayed night;

The night as tedious, woos th'approach of day;

Tired with the dusty toils of busy day,

Languished with horrors of the silent night;

Suffering the evils both of the day and night,

While no night is more dark than is my day,

Nor no day hath less quiet than my night:

With such bad mixture of my night and day,

That living thus in blackest winter night,

I feel the flames of hottest summer day.






SONNET XXVIII

William Shakespeare


How can I then return in happy plight,

That am debarred the benefit of rest?

When day's oppression is not eas'd by night,

But day by night and night by day oppressed,

And each, though enemies to either's reign,

Do in consent shake hands to torture me,

The one by toil, the other to complain

How far I toil, still farther off from thee.

I tell the day, to please him thou art bright,

And dost him grace when clouds do blot the heaven:

So flatter I the swart-complexion'd night,

When sparkling stars twire not thou gild'st the even.

But day doth daily draw my sorrows longer,

And night doth nightly make grief's length seem stronger.










Poem - Night's Plight - Angie Bennett Prince - 10/21/2008